Jakkie Talmage - MindBody Courses

19/08/2023

This is what came to me, while I basked in the rays of our sun...

THE LIGHT...

The light is without, the light is within, the light is in everything.

The light is your life and your consistency, the light is your friend, your guide for eternity.

Light is the magic that heals your body, light is the ingredient that keeps you healthy.

It is light that soothes all your anxiety, it is light that eases all your worries.

Your world isn’t crumbling, it’s being rebuilt, guiding you closer to your inner truth.

Be lead by the light, like the flower seeks the sun, bending and twisting until it feels warm.

Walk tall on the path that leads you forward, shining your own light which guides you onward.

Because YOU are the light, the glue of the universe. YOU are the light that shines so luminous.

Your light has been there since the beginning of time, your light is your soul leading you home 🌟

25/05/2023

Have you ever been crucified?

Have you ever been the victim in a circumstance? Have you ever experienced some kind of injustice? Has someone betrayed you and you can’t believe they would do this to you?

You may have experienced this at work, at home, with a friend or in your community. You might have experienced betrayal by a family member turning on you, or an injustice where someone stole from you, you lost your job, or you were overcharged for something. I don’t think we can go through life without experiencing a betrayal or an injustice to some degree.

Personally, I have just experienced an extremely cruel betrayal by someone close to me which cut so deep it felt like I was being crucified. To protect my (and their) privacy I won’t go into the details of what happened, but I will share how it made me feel.

Firstly the shock of it reverberated through my whole being, which winded me so deeply that I thought I was going to die of shock. After a few days, the shock was replaced by extreme anxiety, creating adrenal overload and then burnout. I couldn’t sleep, eat or think straight. This all happened so soon after my mum’s death, so my immune system and my emotional resilience was already at rock bottom.

What I was being accused of by this person, and the abuse that was being projected onto me was pure emotional torture, because I knew it wasn’t true. My body couldn’t take anymore emotional pain and there was no way I could stay in such a state of distress, so something had to shift.

So how did I overcome this feeling of betrayal?

I felt the pain of it, I processed the pain, I understood what I needed to learn from the pain, I released the pain, then I went about protecting myself from this abuse ever happening to me again.

At first I fell into the trap of believing what was said about me was true, that I was somehow to blame, that I was guilty, that I deserved punishment. I went about justifying myself, trying to prove what they said wasn’t true. Then a very wise person said to me, ‘Remember Jakkie, you are not who they say you are’. That small phrase was enough to kick myself out of my victim mind and to remember who I truly am.

I am a light-worker, and my light sometimes needs the darkness in order for it to shine!

That truth came to me loud and clear one morning. It reminded me that I loved myself, that I knew myself as a person of honesty and integrity. I was also clear that my sovereignty mattered.

I took the betrayal so personally, but once I felt my feelings and allowed the shock of it to subside, I delved a little deeper into the truth of it all. I took responsibility for what it had triggered within me, but mainly I realised I was the target of the other persons unresolved issues.


Hurt people hurt people.

When someone else is reluctant to look within themselves and take responsibility for their own pain, wounds and darkness, they will project their blindspots onto other people, blaming others for their suffering, keeping themselves locked into their own delusional pattern of pain.


When I saw the truth behind what was happening, I didn’t retaliate with this other person, (but believe me a huge part of me wanted to) and I didn’t make them ‘wrong’ for the betrayal. Instead I decided to shine the light on their suffering by being kind, loving but fiercely honest back to them.


This of course didn’t make matters better, but fuelled them into projecting more accusations and more abuse towards me. I was once again kicked back down by sheer disbelief that this was happening. But I had to keep drawing on my inner strength, coming back to my centre, remembering the truth of who I was. So I switched up the dial and shone my light ever brighter. I remained loving, kind but fiercely truthful.

I would NOT allow this to damage me.

The abuse just kept coming. They were determined to dim my light and be RIGHT. And in a way, I was doing the same. I knew nothing was going to shift or change when both of us were locked in a battle of attack and defence. I needed to protect myself from being swallowed up completely by the darkness.


So I surrendered.

I allowed them to be right.

I withdraw.

I then stopped all communication and severed my ties with them.

It broke my heart that it had come to this, but the moment I withdrew and cut the energetic chords, I felt liberated, free, renewed and resurrected. I felt my light coming back into my body again, like thawing out after a very long icy winter.

I know I’m not out of the woods yet, because I know that in order to fully heal, I have to completely forgive.

The phrase kept coming to me all the time I was being betrayed, ‘Forgive them for they know not what they do’. This is sometimes so hard to do because we feel so ‘wronged’ and wounded. However we all experience life through our own perceptions, through our own filter of what we believe is right and true. And when someones truth is not aligned with our own truth, we clash. Sometimes brutally.


And this is how wars begin.

My message for you this month is to remind you to not take things so personally. Rather than making others wrong for their beliefs, opinions, projections and actions, step away and let them experience their own truth in their own way. It’s only when we want to ‘Prove We Are Right’ that the conflict within ourselves and others begin. Don’t expect others to follow your beliefs, because they are not on the same path as you. By following your own path and acting on your personal beliefs is the only way as individuals get to grow, learn and evolve.


If you’re experiencing things in life that make you feel like the victim, express your hurt, upset and pain. This can be done by letting your emotions go, scream, shout, get angry. Or if you find it hard to express emotion, write down all your feelings and thoughts. This helps to calm your nervous system that's been in the freeze, flight and fight response. Then dig a little deeper and use the wise part of you to see the truth behind it. Is it their projection? Or is there something you need to take responsibility for? Be the observer of the situation, rather than the person who was 'wronged'. This will give you the insight and clarity to move forward powerfully.


Once you have done that, reclaim your peace and your joy and move on with your life the best way you know how. Believe that everything in your life is unfolding perfectly in your favour and trust that the universe is always working for you, not against you. You cannot experience your light until you have experienced the dark. And once you acknowledge your own darkness, you can recognise someone else’s darkness, and instead of taking it personally and making them wrong, you'll see the truth of what is really going on for them.


And once you truly know yourself and love yourself warts and all, nothing that anyone can say or do will rock your boat again. Nothing will harm you except your own thoughts about yourself, creating your own inner crucifixion.

To shine your light to diminish the darkness, all you have to do is open yourself up to the love inside and project it outwards. This will help guide you back to your truth, other people's truth, and ultimately you will be a beacon of light guiding yourself and all of us back home.

07/11/2022

We’re all on a journey, not a physical journey, but an internal journey. The most courageous and most rewarding journey we’ll ever take, and that is from the head to the heart.

Most of us operate from day to day with our heads. We make logical decisions, we act and react from the thoughts in our head, we rationalise and strategise, we plot and plan, all with the intention to keep us safe, secure, organised and happy.

This way of operating has been the only way to survive as a human species in the past. And it’s because we have acted on these rational, logical, primal instincts, the human race has survived and thrived.

We were lead by our freeze, fight, flight and fear.

However we are now evolving and these outdated ways of operating are no longer serving us. We're leaving the age where we were primarily operating out of our lower 3 chakras (root/survival, sacral/sexual, solar plexus/power,) and we’re now evolving towards operating from the higher 3 chakras (heart/compassion, throat/truth, pineal/wisdom).

We are now learning how to lead from our heart and intuition.

The tricky issue we have, is that most of us are resisting the shift from the head to the heart. It's much safer to use our heads than delve into our hearts to make decisions, because when we open our heart, all sorts of pain and past hurty stuff floods out. We certainly don’t want that! So we shut our heart back down again and continue using our heads, which is far more safer and familiar!

But when we do this, life doesn’t quite flow. Life is a bit of a struggle. Life feels dull and pointless.

We’re also quite lazy by nature, so it’s much easier to listen to, and be influenced by, someone else’s opinion than listen to our own heart. Most of us have lost trust in our heart because it has got us into all sorts of trouble in the past. But that was then, this is now.

We’re emotionally maturing.

Yes we are evolving whether we like it or not, and we're being nudged towards making a collective leap towards leading from our hearts. If we resist this journey, and ignore the gentle nudges, then more than likely we’ll experience a crisis. Crisis shakes us out of resistance to a place of surrender.

OK, so no-one wants a crisis, so if you've been resisting listening to your heart, not opening your heart, or not being loving towards yourself and others, then it’s time to make some changes. It’s time to take the journey and release whatever pain is stored in your heart, to forgive those who have caused you pain, and move on.

And once your heart has healed and has fully opened, then life becomes magical, beautiful, abundant and fulfilling.

You will then experience the true power of your heart.

Because your heart isn’t just an organ which transports blood to your body, your heart is an energy centre which is the most powerful source of electromagnetic energy in your body, producing the largest rhythmic electromagnetic field of any of your body's organs.

Your heart is far more intelligent than your brain, because the electromagnetic power of your heart is 5,000 times greater than your brain.

By accessing your heart intelligence (love/compassion/kindness) you’ll take one step closer to healing your divided nature, not just the separation between your own head and heart, but the separation between humanity. The head and heart need not function in opposition, but in collaboration and unison. We will then become coherent.

This is the giant leap mankind is making at the moment, from the collective head to the collective heart. This is why the world appears to be in chaos, in crisis and in pain, because all the lingering darkness is being revealed, to finally be healed.

So my message to you this month is to remind you how powerful your heart is and to practice operating more from your heart, than from your head. It takes practice to switch from the logical left brain to your intuitive right brain, but if done enough, you will notice huge shifts taking place in your life.

Start by trusting your heart instead of fearing it. When faced with a decision rather than working out the pro’s and con’s, instead listen to the flutter in your heart. Is your heart open to the choice? Getting excited by the choice? Or does it recoil with dread? When in a disagreement with someone, are you projecting your own fears and past hurts onto them? Can you open your heart and see it from their perspective? Can you see things through the eyes of compassion? Can you be kind instead of being right?

Once you operate mainly from your heart centre, this powerful energy will spread outwards to the collective heart, touching every soul on the planet and encouraging others to do the same. When we all operate from the heart centre, our world will finally unify. This will heal all wars, all separation and incoherence within our world.

We will finally beat as one heart, singing the same tune of love, respect, compassion and kindness. We’ll work in collaboration, creating a whole new way of being.

This is our exciting new future and all of it is not just possible, but inevitable once we take responsibility for the role we play in the evolutionary process from the head to the heart.

It starts with YOU.

You have the power to bravely open your heart, to release all pain, loving yourself and others, aligning with your truth and purpose, to fully shining your light again.

So what are you waiting for? It’s time for you to embark on the most magical, rewarding, life changing journey of your life, the journey from your head to your heart! x

05/10/2022

ARE YOU A SAINT?

If you're into self development, there is a misconception that you have to be saintly, that you have to be good, kind and compassionate ALL THE TIME. These are all brilliant qualities but if they don't come from your heart and you're FORCING these qualities, then your true expression gets hidden within your shadow.

Because we live within the law of polarity, we will always experience light and dark, good and evil, strong and weak, love and fear, etc. Therefore as humans we will experience polarity, especially our darkness and light. We don’t like to admit to our darkness or shadow, but it’s there whether we like it or not. So by trying to be good and saintly all the time, gets us into all sorts of trouble.

That dark side of us that hasn’t yet been healed will rise up at some inconvenient moment and make an unwelcome exhibition of itself! Then when it declares itself in all its glory, we feel frustrated and disappointed that we don’t seem to be any further towards improving ourselves. We may beat ourselves up, or give up, or worst still, slump into depression and hopelessness. We may even start hating ourselves for who we are.

Having experienced this myself, I realise that we cannot always be the person we want to be; happy, loving, kind, compassionate, patient or saintly, when we deny that sometimes we are not.

We need to be real.

We need to come from a place of authenticity. We need to admit to our struggles, as opposed to hiding them. We need to be OK with not always having our act together, and accepting we can’t always be the person we aspire to be. It’s OK to be vulnerable and to admit we need help.

Since caring for my mum who now has Alzheimer’s, all sorts of darkness within me has risen to the surface. I’ve worked so hard on being loving, kind, compassionate and patient, but every so often, frustration and annoyance arises and I find myself getting into a flustered state of grumpiness!! Then I feel guilty, particularly when I project my grumpiness onto my poor Mum. However I can’t squash down my feelings and pretend I’m happy and that I have the patience of a saint, because I’m NOT a saint! I’m just ME.

I'm learning to adapt to my new role as carer, and I am practising not just compassion, patience and kindness towards my mum, but also to myself. Especially to myself.

So I’ve been working on showing my authenticity and being real. I'm learning to integrate my darkness with my light. Rather than suppressing my emotions, I'm expressing them. I feel my frustrations and allow myself to vent whenever I need to. Not necessarily even behind closed doors where I can shamefully hide my frustrations, no, I’ve learnt to express my frustrations by turning those little venting episodes into a comedy routine, which makes my mum laugh (and anyone else who happens to be there at the time). I’ve learnt that by doing this is a win win! I get to express all those pent up emotions, while seeing the funny side, which lightens the intensity, transforming the shadow back to light.

We all need to express ourselves, but if it’s loaded with guilt or shame when we express, then the darkness goes to an even deeper darker level.

My message to you this month is to remind you that you don't have to be perfect, JUST BE REAL.

Give yourself a HUGE pat on the back for all you've achieved to become a better version of yourself, at the same time give yourself some slack for all the things you haven't yet mastered. We're all evolving and growing at our own rate and pace, yet there is so much pressure on us to be a certain person and behave in a certain way, and to be it all NOW.

Even though we have been taught to be high achievers, we don’t actually have to be. We can be whoever and do whatever we want. We have unfortunately been programmed from a very young age that we have to achieve and be GOOD, and when we do we’ll be praised for it. That feeds our ego, but it deflates our soul.

We put so much pressure on ourselves to achieve and behave in a certain way. And when we don’t, we believe we have failed and that we’re a BAD person. When we understand that failure is just a perception and benchmark that we have created for ourselves, then we see our growth and expansion in a whole new light.

Saints have learnt unconditional love. They know how be love, to give love and to receive unconditional love to others and to themselves. The saints have done it, so we can too.

But if you don’t want to be a saint, then don't!

Accept all of your glorious authentic expressions and emotions throughout your ups and downs, with no judgement or morality or shame.

Follow your path and live your life your own way.

And ultimately, JUST BE REAL

03/08/2022

I believe one of the biggest initiations or learnings we must go through in life is finding our compassion. Not just being kind and caring while gritting our teeth with annoyance, but true unconditional compassion that comes from a place deep within.

True compassion comes with no judgement and no attachment.

Compassion is LOVE IN ACTION.

The bonus of feeling compassion is not only does it make others feel good (if they’re on the receiving end of it), but we feel good too. Our heart is wide open and the love floods out.

We feel it, they feel it, we all feel it! Creating one big love bubble!!

However being compassionate is sometimes not that easy.

When we get upset by someone, or we can’t understand WHY someone could possibly do what they did, or say what they said, we’re more likely to judge them, bitch about them or worst still, have a shouting match with them. If we instead take a step back and become the observer of their situation instead of making them wrong about it, we are more likely to see the bigger picture and find our compassion. When we get a better understanding of their world, what they are going through, how they hold onto hurt and pain, we’re more able to see them through the eyes of compassion.

True compassion is understanding the suffering, struggles and pain of others.

It's helpful to remember that we’re all on a different path, experiencing our own unique life with all its challenges, ups and downs. Some of us are on this journey thriving, others are on this journey surviving. Sometimes people do bad things purely because they're in survival mode. Other people do cruel things because they have been hurt and therefore have closed their hearts. Other people say spiteful or mean things to make them feel better about themselves.

To help us find our compassion (which we all have but some of us have closed it down) is to get behind another person's eyes and see what they see. Get into their body and feel what they feel. Get into their mind and think how they think and perceive.

Personally I could be (and have been) getting seriously triggered day and night at the moment, because I'm on the receiving end of someone who's acting very strange. They're angry and anxious, they're frustrated when I give them help, they disapprove of my concern, they reject my ideas, they've forgotten I've given up my life to be with them. I am talking about my mum who now has Alzheimer's. It’s tough and sad, because she is no longer the mum I once knew and instead she is becoming a stranger. I no longer understand what’s going on in her head, and she doesn't understand what's going on in mine. She's full of anxiety and fear, and her world has become horribly chaotic and confusing. But I’m determined to get into her world, to understand her, to find where she struggles, and once I get a clearer picture, I can understand, accept, love, and know exactly what to do to make her life a little easier and a little happier.

Although it's incredibly challenging, I’m mastering a deeper level of patience and compassion which I didn't have before. That includes feeling compassion towards myself too. I still have mean and cruel thoughts like everyone else, but I understand it’s my frustration, my grief and my deep sadness doing the talking.

So my message to you this month is to notice when you feel compassion. Notice when your heart opens and the love spills out. We can often feel more compassion to situations and people we’re not connected to; on the TV and social media for example. It’s easy to feel compassion from a distance and to things that deserve our compassion.

Try giving compassion to someone who has done something horrid.

Animals do it for me. I can’t abide seeing an innocent child or animal suffer and it's often accompanied by anger towards the inflictor. But this is where I can practice TRUE compassion. It takes determined practice to be truly compassionate towards someone we believe has done wrong. It takes a much deeper level of compassion to open our hearts and send them love too.

Since the pandemic, Ukraine war and recent natural disasters, we have all been opened up to feel more compassion. We are finally all moving into a world where collectively we feel more love, kindness and compassion, despite how it appears. Thankfully we can all look forward to a future where there is less suffering and more of us being love and kindness.

And you are the one who will help to create this future, because you are learning to open your heart more and more.

Your own suffering has helped you to be more compassionate, and It's your compassion that will help heal the world! 💖

29/07/2022

Do you feel a failure? Do you crave success? Do YOU feel you haven't achieved? In this Inspiring video with Amy Stuth, we share stories, wisdom, tools and insights to help LOVE and ACCEPT ourselves, no matter what 😀 💖
CLICK HERE TO WATCH: https://youtu.be/g9Z0BFO87TM

Do you feel a failure? Do you crave success? Do YOU feel you haven't achieved? In this Inspiring video with Amy Stuth, we share stories, wisdom, tools and insights to help LOVE and ACCEPT ourselves, no matter what 😀 💖

CLICK HERE TO WATCH: https://youtu.be/g9Z0BFO87TM

08/07/2022

Are you instinctive? Here's how to a live of ease...

Your natural instincts

Now that I'm in the UK for a while, I have the pleasure of looking after my friends two adorable Cockapoo’s on and off during our summer. If you’re not in the doggie know, a cockapoo is a cross between a spaniel and poodle. They’re a lively, fun breed and as cute as a teddy-bear. These two cuties are very well looked after and are given only the best; organic dog food, 2 walks a day, regular grooming, shampooing, blow-drying, making their coats shine and smell of strawberries and cream.

However dogs want to be dogs, and on my first walk out with them on the glorious Sussex Downs, the first thing they did was head towards the nearest steaming mound of cow dung for a nice roll around, then onto a large pile of horse poo which they both gobbled with such gusto you’d think they've never been fed!! This completely wiped out all good intentions to keep them smelling fresh and eating only the best!

It’s no surprise really, because dogs are dogs, not humans. We try to shape our pets into what we want and how we want them to behave, but a lot of the time it goes against their natural instincts. Dogs LOVE to roll in mud and eat smelly things, it’s who they are! It’s what they love.

The same is possibly true about us - no not eating horse poo and rolling in cow pats (heaven forbid) - but that we’ve been shaped and moulded into how others want us to be and behave. Our parents, our schooling, our culture have shaped us into who we are today, but is this who we truly are? Have your true instincts been wiped away because you’ve never been given the opportunity to really listen or honour them?

For a moment, just imagine yourself being born again, to perhaps different parents, in different circumstances, perhaps into a different culture where there were no rules, no standards, nothing to achieve, no-one to impress, no worries, no fears, no time restrictions, no money concerns. No social media, no pressures, no judgements.

Who would you be then? How would you feel? What would you want to do? How would you behave? What would your natural instincts want you to do? If your answers are more more or less the same as how you're living now, then you've probably listened to your natural instincts and followed them. If however your answers are poles apart from the person you are today, then you have possibly lost touch with your natural instincts.

The best way to get back in touch with your natural instincts is to take time out of your life, your role, your responsibilities, your activities and instead just BE STILL and listen to the stirrings of your soul. Covid lockdown was a perfect opportunity for us to do just this. However some felt very uncomfortable just BEING so resisted and struggled. We are DOERS because we have been taught to DO, to achieve, to strive, to fear lack, to be better, fitter, cleverer, more financial. We push ourselves way too hard, then wonder why we’re exhausted and unhappy.

There is another way.

Sometimes we need to get off the merry-go round of our life that WE have created and think again. Sometimes we need to come back to ourselves, to where all our answers are held. It’s important to ask ourselves questions like: Is this really what I want? Is this really who I am? Is this who I want to be? You instinctively know who you are, what you love, what’s right for you, where you need to be and what you need to do and with whom. YOU don’t need anyone else to tell you. If you do, then you have given your power away.

So my message to you this month is to remember to listen to your intuition and act on your instincts. Your intuition is always calling to you, but how often do you REALLY listen? It would help you to stop listening to the noise in your head, or the noise of others and start listening to your heart, your gut, your instincts. Become still, because in the stillness, your intuition is clear. Hear the whispers of your true self, then follow its guidance.

When we listen to our instincts and follow them, life stops being a big pile of poo and instead becomes joyful, happy and free!