Wagtail Therapy

26/04/2026

Its never too early to talk about consent. People sometimes think consent is only about s*x so will avoid introducing the word or concept until much later in life. Consent is actually about so much more than that.

Early childhood is a great time to introduce the concept of consent. Learning about consent is helping your child understand that they need permission from someone when an action involves that person's body and also understanding they have the right to give or remove permission in relation to their own body.

Early childhood is such a good time to introduce this because this is the time where your child is learning boundaries of the world around them and the time where their brains are curious to learn more. These are just some examples you can use in your every day life.

- Your kid keeps jumping on you - "Stop I dont like it." They continue. "Stop. This is my body and I dont consent."

- You started playing a game but it starts becoming too noisy or rough "I don't want to play anymore. I changed my mind." They continue. "Stop. I don't consent to this game anymore."

- Your kid asks to play horsey rides. You say maybe. They jump on you anyway. "Stop. I haven't decided if I consent yet."

- Your kids are fighting and you hear a no. "I heard a no, that means you have to stop. They don't consent anymore"

- You are tickling your kid and they say stop. Stop straight away. You can start tickling if they give clear consent again.

The nuances of consent are so much easier to understand later in life when they have been practising it their whole lives.

06/04/2026

We have immediate availability for new psychology clients at Wagtail Therapy!

Our increased availability comes from some lovely team updates:
🍼 Emily has returned from parental leave
➕️ Tash has increased her working days
🆕️ Sienna has joined us as a new team member
🛩 Elise is transitioning interstate and will continue supporting clients via telehealth.

We offer appointments for Medicare, NDIS and private clients. If you or someone in your family has been thinking about starting therapy, now is a great time to reach out 💚

Get in touch with us to book or learn more. Emailing our admin support, Jacki, is the best way to contact us - jacki@wagtailtherapy.com.au

19/03/2026

We have two types of supports with immediate availability at the moment.

- Intensive short term supports and,
- Women's ND social group

Please contact us at jacki@wagtailtherapy.com.au if you would like more information or would like to engage in these services.

21/02/2026

We have immediate availability for short term psychology supports between now and May. This could include:
- medicare sessions through a mental health care plan
- privately funded sessions
- a block of ndis funded sessions
- intensive short term supports using ndis funding

These types of supports are really useful for people who just need a bit of support with one particular area of their life. This could include things like:
- transitioning into the new school year.
- anxiety around a particular event coming up.
- learning more about your neurodivergence or your child's neurodivergence.
- figuring out how to lower demands for your PDAer at home.
- learning more about your child's or your own emtionak dysregulation.
- concerns at work.
- relationship concerns.

Please contact us if you want a bit more information or would like to book something in with one of our Psychologists.

04/02/2026

School is starting again and with that comes new teachers, new rooms and new routines. This is bound to result in increased separation anxiety for some kids.

A helpful thing to remember about separation anxiety is that it's future oriented, just like all anxiety. It can often be misunderstood as a fear of being away from a parent but it's actually triggered about the anticipation of when the separation from their parent might happen.

“What if mum leaves me?”
“When will it happen?”
“Will I know?”
"When will she come back again"

That’s why some kids can be distressed even when their parent is right there. They Their nervous system is already worrying about what might happen next.
This is why it's so important to be honest, transparent and consistent with your separation moments. Out of love, parents sometimes try to avoid the initial tears by sneaking away, leaving quickly, or waiting until a child is distracted. While completely understandable, this can actually make separation anxiety stronger — because it confirms the fear that separations are unpredictable. If leaving can happen at any moment… then it has to be watched for all the time.

What helps most isn’t avoiding the hard moment. It’s predictability and transparency.
- Give clear and consistent goodbyes. A consistent gesture is great like always a kiss, always a big hug or always a cool handshake.
- Make sure they know that you are leaving before you are leaving, even if it makes you look like the "clingy" mum.
- Honest explanations of when you will leave and when you will be back.
- Consistent routines so they cue to your child when the separation is happening.
- Advocate for what your child needs for a healthy separation with their teacher. I have had a lot of teachers tell me quicker separations work better and I'm not scared to argue that point anymore.

When children know what will happen and when, their anxiety has less space to grow — even if there are still tears at first. Starting every school year is hard.
You’re helping your child learn that goodbyes can be safe, predictable, and survivable — and that matters more than a tear-free drop-off. 💛

03/02/2026

I remember quite a few things about life before the NDIS Mark Butler MP! Give me a call if you ever want to chat about it.

Some things I remember were really positive elements of disability supports that NDIS has destroyed. A lot of things I remember were terrible and NDIS has worked hard to improve these supports but is now back flipping on it for some reason. It seems like common sense is getting lost somewhere along the way. Why don't we keep the positive changes that we have all worked so hard on and change the areas that need changing?

I've made a summary for Mark of how some things were before NDIS, since he was not in the area of disability at that time so might not know the realities.

The positive elements that NDIS has destroyed include:
- If you were lucky enough to be one of the few disability providers funded you had "bucket funding" and, as a Psychologist working for one of those providers, it meant I actually had the freedom to provide supports that were much more flexible and much more attuned to a family's needs than what I can offer now.
- I did not have to spend hours and hours writing reports to justify my therapy goals and approach just to be denied by someone who does not have a psychology background, let alone an allied health background.
- I got to use the therapy approach that I knew was the most likely to be effective and ethical for my client instead of using the therapy approach that someone, who is not a psychologist, decides is the best approach for my client.
- If I knew Positive Behaviour Support was most likely to be effective for a family's goals I could use that approach, without NDIS asking me to pay tens of thousands of dollars a year for the "privilege." I thought my 6 years of HECS debt would give me that privilege to use a psychological approach but apparently not.

Before NDIS there were also a lot of negatives that have since improved. These include that:
- People with disabilities were hidden away and institutionalised because of lack of supports and lack of knowledge.
- The amount of neurodivergent people who were undiagnosed was immense! These people were misdiagnosed with mental health disorders and treated in ways that were harmful to them.
- Therapy approaches used were focused on just a few that the few disability providers favoured.
- Most experienced and knowledgeable therapists were moving from the disability sector because you could onto work for a small number of providers with limited opportunities for growth or development.

The commonwealth will begin rolling out $1.4bn of funding for Thriving Kids to states within weeks, with hopes the program to redirect autistic children off the NDIS will see parents take a more active role in care and early intervention. Thriving Kids report: https://bit.ly/4khN6vd

01/02/2026

This post from a couple of weeks ago feels too real and raw now, after the murder of two beautiful boys, Leon and Otis. And especially after learning that they experienced cuts to their NDIS funding in the lead up.

Reading this post now makes me feel angry because it meant we could all see it coming but nothing is being done by NDIS. It makes me feel sad because Leon and Otis were let down by a system that was supposed to care for them and support them. It makes me feel scared that it could happen again.

NDIS can try to ignore this and keep posting their success stories on social media but I know the neurodivergent community won't let that slide. They will eventually need to answer to the most hyperfocused, justice sensitive and detail oriented minds that I know and I don't think they are prepared.

NDIS plan reviews come with an emotional toll that is far too high, and it raises serious questions about whether the planning and review process itself is ethical. Parents are repeatedly asked to justify their child’s needs as if love, lived experience, and daily advocacy aren’t already enough. Families are required to relive their hardest moments, focusing on deficits and risks, just to prove their child is “eligible” for support. When a system designed to help instead causes distress, fear, and burnout, it’s worth asking whether the burden being placed on families is humane and ethical.

Therapists are caught in this same ethical tension. Reports become more than clinical tools — they turn into bargaining chips in a system where therapy hours are bartered between families, providers, and the NDIS. This pressure risks distorting the therapeutic relationship, shifting focus from care and collaboration to survival within a funding framework. Therapists feel compelled to write in ways that will “convince,” while parents worry that honesty, hope, or progress might jeopardise future support. When funding decisions strain trust, alter language, and place everyone in a transactional loop, it’s not just emotionally costly — it undermines the integrity of therapy itself.

Going into an NDIS planning meeting or preparing for one is beginning to feel uncomfortably similar to going into a car yard to buy a car but the importance of the outcome determines the direction of your child's life or your life. You just want what is fair but you have to play a game first to get there.

25/01/2026

I hear a lot of disappointment from parents I work with saying “I try to play with my child, but it just doesn’t work.”

Usually when we explore this a little more, it’s not because kids don’t want to play with their parents. It’s because play has slowly stopped feeling like it’s their own.

Play is one of the only spaces where children get full control. And without meaning to, adults often step in with the intention of playing but they actually suggest ideas, rules, or little teaching moments. It feels like controbuting to the play… but it can take that sense of control away.

For PDAers especially, even gentle input can feel like a demand. And once play feels pressured, kids often pull back, shut it down, or push us away.

When parents try something different — stepping back, following their child’s lead, joining in without directing — play often starts to feel easier. Kids look more settled. Parents learn new things about their child. And connection comes more naturally.
You don’t have to take over play to be part of it.

Trust me - I'm currently "helping" my kid battle a guardian in Zelda. I have no idea what a guardian is. 🤷

Sometimes, just being there is what makes it work 💛

23/01/2026

We will be reaching out to applicants early next week for this position. Send through a cover letter and resume if you are interested. 🌈

16/01/2026

NDIS plan reviews come with an emotional toll that is far too high, and it raises serious questions about whether the planning and review process itself is ethical. Parents are repeatedly asked to justify their child’s needs as if love, lived experience, and daily advocacy aren’t already enough. Families are required to relive their hardest moments, focusing on deficits and risks, just to prove their child is “eligible” for support. When a system designed to help instead causes distress, fear, and burnout, it’s worth asking whether the burden being placed on families is humane and ethical.

Therapists are caught in this same ethical tension. Reports become more than clinical tools — they turn into bargaining chips in a system where therapy hours are bartered between families, providers, and the NDIS. This pressure risks distorting the therapeutic relationship, shifting focus from care and collaboration to survival within a funding framework. Therapists feel compelled to write in ways that will “convince,” while parents worry that honesty, hope, or progress might jeopardise future support. When funding decisions strain trust, alter language, and place everyone in a transactional loop, it’s not just emotionally costly — it undermines the integrity of therapy itself.

Going into an NDIS planning meeting or preparing for one is beginning to feel uncomfortably similar to going into a car yard to buy a car but the importance of the outcome determines the direction of your child's life or your life. You just want what is fair but you have to play a game first to get there.

14/01/2026

We have a new job opportunity at Wagtail Therapy for a Provisional Psychologist or Registered Psychologist who is passionate about providing neurodiversity affirming supports.

This job will be taking on a current case load because one of our Wagtail team is making an exciting move east ✈️ and we are also expecting another Wagtail baby. 👶

Please email me your cover letter and resume if you're interested in the position - jody@wagtailtherapy.com.au

12/01/2026

Focusing on writing reports can be a genuine challenge for neurodivergent therapists so we have a box of hats that we can wear to show others when we are trying to focus.

There is another challenge for neurodivergent therapists though, which is not verbalising every single thought we have, so this method typically works for about 40 seconds before we have to remove the hat to talk about something very important.

Some examples of those very important topics today included:
- How cute it was when Timothee Chalamet told Kylie Jenner he loves her.
- MAFS.
- A premonition about Bronwyn from RHOSLC dating Captain Jason.
- Baby showers.
- Whether we should have pictures of just dogs or both dogs and cats on our job ad.
- Ways to conquer insomnia.
- Late night maccas runs.
And many many more.

I wouldn't have it any other way. ❤️