Jane Bond Counselling

11/05/2026

Here we are on Mother’s Day 2026. I wonder what this day means to you, as a mother, and as children of many ages.

For some, it can be a reminder of a painful time; the inability to have children naturally; to bear your own child.

For new mothers, it can be a time of huge adjustment, and all the love, joy and challenges that come with parenting.

For others, it can be a time of loss, as mothers have lived out their lives. Or they or their children been claimed through illnesses, abuse, or tragedies.

For others, it can mean family times with children of many ages. Or being alienated which can be heartbreaking. Acceptance can be hard when one is alone.

Treasuring our mothers can be a special one day a year event, or an everyday experience. I wonder what your experience has been with your mother.

As a mother, whatever the age of your children, you own that role. Once a mother, always a mother. And once a child, always a child of that mother.

From those beginnings come everyone’s individual experience of motherhood and childhood.
I hope that this Mothers Day can be a time of reflection. To know, however tough it was, that your mother was probably doing the best she could. And as a mother, to know the significance of that word and that role; a mother. It is the job that comes with 24 hours a day commitment. To know that all mothers have so many experiences and emotions day by day, year by year. The love, the joy, the happiness, the weariness, challenges, the rough, the tough ….and yet we still own that special name: mother.
I hope you can genuinely own that name, tomorrow and every day forward. Value yourself for all you bring to being that precious person; mother.

24/04/2026

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The way someone treats other people is a mirror of how they treat themselves. When someone is constantly cutting, critical, or cold toward you, you're usually catching a glimpse of the voice running in their own head. ⬇️

That doesn't make their behavior acceptable. It doesn't mean you owe them the space to keep working it out on you. But it can stop you from absorbing their dys-regulation as a verdict on your worth.

When someone can't celebrate your wins, when they turn warm conversations into subtle competition, when your growth makes them visibly uncomfortable, that's a window into something they haven't reconciled yet in themselves.

You were never the reason they couldn't be happy for you. What they're carrying was there long before you walked into the room. You don't have to explain yourself to people who need you smaller. You don't have to earn goodwill by dimming.

Stay who you are. The right people don't need you to shrink to stay close.

Send this to the friend who's been questioning themself because someone else couldn't handle their shine. ✨

20/04/2026

20/04/2026

I have been sharing a number of memes lately. It seems they have been providing much needed reassurance and reminders of what is needed in this time of uncertainty.
The world is in a time of so much disconnection, that people ask me how they can make any difference.
It is easy to overlook our own individual gifts which can make a very real difference in our lives and the people we interact with.
If you become more familiar with the following values and behaviours, gradually people will recognise you as someone with whom they feel safe, heard and valued.
Have a think about these “words”:

⁃ kindness
⁃ patience
⁃ giving grace
⁃ being gentle
⁃ joy
⁃ listening
⁃ encouraging
⁃ supporting
⁃ trusting
⁃ LOVE

If you choose to let these “words” become part of who you are; check out the differences you become aware of in your relationships, be they partners, family, friends, colleagues and people you meet casually.
This is a great starting place for making a difference in the world, your world. Watch the ripple out effect that happens……..I hope you feel great joy as your love spreads.

20/04/2026

I have been sharing a number of memes lately. It seems they have been providing much needed reassurance and reminders of what is craved in this time of uncertainty.
The world is in a time of so much disconnection, that people ask me how they can make any difference.
It is easy to overlook our own individual gifts which can make a very real difference in our lives and the people we interact with.
If you become more familiar with the following values and behaviours, gradually people will recognise you as someone with whom they feel safe, heard and valued.
Have a think about these “words”:

⁃ kindness
⁃ patience
⁃ giving grace
⁃ being gentle
⁃ joy
⁃ listening
⁃ encouraging
⁃ supporting
⁃ trusting
⁃ LOVE

If you choose to let these “words” become part of who you are; check out the differences you become aware of in your relationships, be they partners, family, friends, colleagues and people you meet casually.
This is a great starting place for making a difference in the world, your world. Watch the ripple out effect that happens……..I hope you feel great joy as your love spreads.

11/04/2026

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Time doesn’t define a real friendship… loyalty does.

The image feels warm and familiar—friends sitting together, comfortable in each other’s presence, not trying to impress, not trying to prove anything… just being there.

And that’s what truly matters.

Because people come into your life at different times.

Some were there from the beginning.
Some showed up later.
Some stayed for a season… and some didn’t stay at all.

And for a long time, we think history is what makes a friendship strong.

But it’s not.

It’s consistency.

It’s the people who didn’t leave when things got difficult.
The ones who stayed when life wasn’t easy to be around.
The ones who chose you—not just when it was fun, but when it was real.

Look at the image again. They’re different in so many ways, yet they fit together perfectly. Not because they’ve known each other forever… but because they’ve chosen to stay.

That’s what makes a bond unbreakable.

Because real friendship isn’t about how long someone has been in your life—

It’s about how they show up in it.

It’s about the ones who check on you.
The ones who understand you.
The ones who don’t disappear when things get hard.

Those are your people.

So don’t measure your friendships by time.

Measure them by presence.
By loyalty.
By the ones who stand beside you no matter what.

Because in the end…

It’s not about who came first.

It’s about who never left.