17/06/2024
Some of the greatest griefs you will feel, may come from the loss of the life you have been living, or saw for yourself .
The breakdown of a relationship can be a significant loss that those around you may not understand. Well meaning people may make comments you feel dismiss your pain, and can leave you feeling worse. It can be rough.
Everyone experiences different degrees of difficulty when their life changes, especially if the change is unexpected. It can help to understand that you are grieving the change.
Even if there has been no death. You will go through the stages of grief. This grief will occur while trying to survive, to keep on living, hurtfully in a world that seemingly thinks you should just move on. This can feel like an unbearable time that shall never pass. Often added to the hardship is abandonment, embarrassment, shame, shock, you may have to experience legal battles and continued conflicts while having to hold it together for yourself, your children, your work commitments. All this while trying to deal with your grief. This is not easy. It can be overwhelming, with pressure that feels difficult to carry.
If you are struggling with what is happening in your life. Finding it difficult to accept where you find yourself, and what your life looks like at the moment . If you feel disassociated, vulnerable, numb, scared, out of control, know you are not the only one. These are normal parts of grief. They can last for long or short periods. It is most important you reach out for support and help.
You may feel horribly alone. People may help you, and you will be thankful, but at the end of the day the weight of the changes can be very heavy. It is okay to seek professional support.
Therapy, counselling, support in various forms are all very important during these times. Sometimes you need a clear plan. Often you may desire space and alone time, it is a fine line between taking time to yourself and isolating yourself. Try to be aware if you need extra support. Sometimes you need to allow yourself time to release your emotions, sometimes you need guidance to help yourself survive and keep going. If you find yourself turning to negative crutches remember these will only feel good for a while and will quickly become a new problem.
Grief is complex please seek help with your grief.
No matter what you are going, through know you are loved more than you can see and feel right now, and always.
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