Fairy Wren Counselling

20/04/2026

Taking a moment to appreciate this big step: hanging the sign on my new office space.

Ive grown Fairy Wren Counselling slowly, deliberately and with care. It feels incredible to reach these big moments and feel like im spreading my wings.

I have in-person appointments available at every Tuesday, and telehealth appointments Monday to Friday. Bookings can be made online or via email or telephone. If youve been looking for a counsellor to support you through relationship challenges, anxiety, exploration of identity or grief and loss, Id love to hear from you.

15/04/2026

What would you say to your younger self if you could reach back in time?

13/04/2026

One of the hardest parts of healing is what I call the "Post Change Freakout"

The pattern of behaviour thats youve developed has been serving a purpose. And even if its getting in the way of things you want: closer relationships, pushing beyond your comfort zone, a willingness to do new things, it feels familiar and safe.

Change is unfamiliar. It can feel unsafe to your nervous system, even if youre moving in the right direction.

This is one of the reasons that change feels so hard. You have to stay in a state of discomfort while its happening. And thats hard.

I can help support you through this process, to offer encouragement, reassurance, reflection and suggestions to keep you on track while things feel hard.

12/04/2026

Emily Nagoski is truly a treasure. Her research and writing on connection and desire is relateable, simple and realistic. There's a reason I often reference her work during couples and relationship counselling sessions. And that reason is that she offers very simple, tangible ways forward that actually work to improve connection in relationships and help people to feel less "broken" and more hopeful.

23/03/2026

Couples counselling isnt all fights and breakups.

Its also a space of tenderness and vulnerability and hope. I am privileged to get to witness so many moments when couples really understand one another, when they speak words of such beauty that it nearly makes me cry. I get to see the closeness and joy when they come out the other side of a challenge.

Couples counselling delves into the really hard stuff:loss of trust, conflict, infidelity, jealousy. But it gives us space to work through those things and find something really special on the other side.

16/03/2026

Its my first day at my new office space at 1013 Dana Street. I'll be here every Tuesday for in person appointments.

16/03/2026

People often think of couples counselling as being like a court hearing. They think I'll listen to all the evidence and decide who is right and who needs to change. They expect a "verdict" at the end, for me to take a side and tell their partner what they did wrong.

But couples counselling is more like a collaboration than a competition.

Im not interested in who is right and wrong. Im more invested in identifying the patterns and issues that are stopping your relationship from thriving, and helping you to address them together. This can be hard work, but I can help you see new perspectives, get on the same page and feel hopeful about your relationship again.

If you would like help with a relationship issue, please feel encouraged to get in touch. I have telehealth and in person appointments available as soon as next week.

13/03/2026

11/03/2026

This weekend, spend some time off screens and delve into an analogue hobby instead.

Hobbies that encourage creativity have been shown to lower anxiety and help improve mood. Simple, screen-free activities like crafts, painting and drawing, creative writing, photography, colouring, baking and reading are all great ways to explore your creativity and unhook from anxious thoughts.

11/03/2026

Spending less time on your phone is a fantastic way to support good mental health.

Reducing the time you spend scrolling can help you:
-Manage anxiety and stress
- Get better quality sleep
- Find more connection in your relationships
- Feel more present and grounded

Setting limits on your screen time, putting the phone away when youre spending quality time with loved ones and not bringing your phone to bed can help.

04/03/2026

Emotional regulation isnt about suppressing emotions or getting rid of them.

It also isnt a way to justify problematic behaviour thats driven by emotion.

The goal of Emotional regulation is to help you recognise your emotions when they arise, understand them, and then work with them to find a way to act that aligns with your goals.

A lot of us are trying to "regulate emotions" by pretending theyre not there, by shoving them away or shaming ourselves when certain emotions are there.

Emotional regulation isnt about not feeling. Its about feeling the emotion but not letting it take the wheel.

If youre struggling to get a grasp on effective Emotional regulation, I would love to help you out. Together, we can explore the things that feel difficult and develop simple ways for you to manage your emotions.

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02/03/2026

Doomscrolling is a common anxiety response. You might find yourself anxiously scrolling away for hours at a time, but have you ever considered why?

Anxiety is often a response to uncertainty. Scrolling on social media, googling anxious questions or doing a deep-dive online can be a way to try to find certainty or control.

You might also be searching for evidence that others have been in similar situations, or hope that things can work out. You might be seeking guidance for how to make a decision, or simply distracting yourself from things you dont want to think about.

Scrolling is often a sign that anxiety is creeping in, and can signal that its time to get help. If youre feeling anxious, I can provide you with a calm space to vent, some kind words and practical solutions to help manage your racing thoughts and doom Scrolling.