Surviving to Thriving Clinic

30/12/2024

24/12/2022

My kids spend every Christmas with their Father's family. So for me Christmas can be tough and isolating. Just remember you are not alone - reach out if you need help.

13/12/2022

15/07/2021

14/06/2021

You need to be your biggest cheerleader through your healing journey

14/06/2021

12/06/2021

I made a decision when I was 19 on assumptions I made based on my own insecurities. I found out the other day that these assumptions were completely wrong (not that it matters now anyway). But it got me thinking how much different my life could have been if I’d just picked the scary route & faced my fears. Would I still be the person I am today & would I still have followed my career path? Food for thought. Have you ever made a decision that you’ve regretted? Or ever wondered what your life may have been like, if you made a different decision?

21/05/2021

I didn’t know that I was in an abusive relationship until after it ended. Coming up in my social media feeds was information about narcissism, it wasn’t until I read one of those articles, that things started to make sense.

• All the tantrums before big events (to ruin the experience)
• Never wanting to attend my family’s events
• Limiting my friendship circle
• Yelling at me when not receiving pay rises, promotions or higher paying job offers
• Withholding and stealing money
• The put downs and backhanded compliments
• Being called too sensitive or that I interpreted stuff the wrong way
• Gaslighting
• Triangulation with several other women – pitting us against each other for his amusement
• Coerced s*x
• The constant emotional manipulation
• Nothing was ever his fault - did not take responsibility for anything
• Getting the silent treatment when he didn’t want to support me emotionally (complete lack of empathy)
• Being accused of cheating (when he was the one that was doing so)
• Felt like I was walking on eggshells every day during the relationship because you didn’t know what mood you were going to get (Dr Jekyll or Mr Hyde) and you didn’t want to do or say anything to upset him

It’s only been recently that I’ve been able to be at peace with everything that has happened. As painful as it was to go through at the time, I’m so grateful that I am out of that relationship and rediscovering myself. I blamed myself for a long time for staying so long in a relationship that didn’t honour or respect me. I believed that I had to stay for my children and that’s just the way relationships worked – you needed to sacrifice yourself for your partner. How wrong was I?

04/05/2021

Today is my mum’s birthday – she would have been 66 today, we lost her 6 years ago (a couple of weeks after her 60th Birthday). My mum went through a lot of trauma throughout her short life, things that she never fully healed from and I believe that contributed to her death. Unprocessed trauma, grief and emotions can sit in the body for years and affect us physically, until we process the emotions and release them.

Miss her everyday xx

02/05/2021

ACCEPTANCE - The buzz word for me at the moment. Accept what is, accept what will be & accept myself, flaws and all.

06/03/2021

2020 threw all of us into turmoil. Some lost their jobs or had to take time away or had to work from home. Some people didn’t know if they had/have jobs to go back to once the lockdown period ends. I had comments from a lot of people saying how bored they are so I thought I’d compile a list of t...

07/02/2021