MindBody Konnexions - Rita Gordon

20/03/2026

20/03/2026

19/03/2026

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐭
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐢𝐭

Your body tells you early

The tight chest
The lump in your throat
That subtle feeling something is off

But you explain it away

You give it time
You look at their potential
You tell yourself you’re overreacting

So the pattern doesn’t stop

It just gets louder

More tension
More confusion
More emotional exhaustion

Until you’re forced to see it

The pattern doesn’t change when you understand it

It changes when you recognise it sooner and stop overriding it

This is the work I do

Not talking about the story

But teaching you how to read and listen to your body holding the pattern
so you stop repeating it

If you’re ready to stop going around the same relationship loop

I’m running a FREE Relationship Mastermind relating to the survival patterns running in the background d next Wednesday AWST 6.15pm

Message me “RELATIONSHIP” or comment below

17/03/2026

𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐧.

The one people came to for advice.
The one who held everything together.
The one who was “always okay.”

But her body told a different story.

Tight chest.
Jaw tension.
Left hip pain that wouldn’t settle.

Not random.

Not physical.

Signals.

When we slowed it down, she could feel it very clearly.

A pattern of carrying.
Overthinking.
Stepping in too quickly.
Forgetting herself.

Not because she was weak.

Because she had learned to survive by being the 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧𝐞.

Once she saw it in her body… everything shifted.

She stopped interrupting to fix things.
She allowed others to hold their own problems.
She stopped overthinking conversations afterwards.

And for the first time…she allowed herself to be supported.

Even something as simple as letting her husband step forward and speak for her…..instead of always being the one others leaned on.

Her body softened.

Her decisions became clearer.

Her boundaries became natural, not forced.

And her life started to move from effort…to something much lighter.

This is what most people miss.

They try to think their way out of patterns that are stored in the body.

But once the body shows you the pattern…

you can’t unsee it.

And that’s when things actually change.

𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧𝐞…

but something in your body says otherwise…you’ll understand this work.

17/03/2026

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧’𝐭 “𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡.”
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐲.

You weren’t overthinking.

You were noticing patterns no one else wanted to admit were there.

And instead of being met with truth…
you were managed.

“Too sensitive.”
“Too intense.”
“Too much.”

So you did what most people do.

You turned that clarity inward…and started doubting yourself.

Not because you were wrong.

Because it was easier than standing alone in what you could see.

Here’s the part most people won’t say:

👉 Seeing clearly will cost you belonging in spaces built on denial.

That’s why you learned to soften it.
Dilute it.
Second guess it.

But your pattern recognition never left.

It just got quieter.

And now?

It shows up as:
• overthinking
• hesitation
• looping
• holding back what you actually know

Not because you’re confused.

Because you don’t trust what you see.

The shift isn’t “more healing.”

It’s this:

Trust what you see.
Stop explaining it to people who benefit from not seeing it.

Because once you stop diluting your awareness…

you stop living inside other people’s blind spots.

And that’s where your power is.

This is the work.

Not fixing you.

Helping you see clearly…and trust it.

🔥 If this hit…..you already know.

If you’re ready to stop looping and actually see the survival pattern running your life……

If you’re ready to see the pattern driving your relationship dynamics (instead of repeating it)…

I’m running a FREE 2-hour Relationship Mastermind where we decode it in real time on Wednesday 25th 6pm AWST

👉 DM me 𝐓𝐑𝐔𝐒𝐓 for details.

16/03/2026

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦 𝐢𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞.
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦 𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐢𝐭.

Most people don’t need more motivation.
They need to see the survival pattern running their life.

Once someone truly sees the pattern running their life… things change quickly.

Not because they suddenly try harder.

Because the illusion collapses.

This is something I realised early in my work.

People don’t actually need endless motivation.

They don’t need someone constantly pushing them.

And they definitely don’t need to keep analysing the same story over and over……

What they need is to see the pattern clearly.

The survival loop.
The hidden architecture.
The unconscious game that’s been running underneath their decisions.

Because when someone sees it…

The behaviour often shifts naturally.

Not from force.

From recognition.

That’s why the moment I love most in this work is when someone suddenly says:

𝐎𝐡 𝐦𝐲 𝐠𝐨𝐝… 𝐈 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐢𝐭.

That moment is everything.

Because they’re no longer dependent on someone else pointing it out.

They can now recognise the pattern themselves.

And when you can see the pattern…

You’re no longer trapped inside it.

That’s the real work.

Not fixing people.

Helping them see.

Because once you see the game…

You can finally choose differently.

𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐥 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐬 𝐈 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐠𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐟𝐭.
𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐩… 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲.

14/03/2026

The overlap between fear of abandonment and fear of being seen.

This is something I see often in this work.

On the surface, these two fears can look completely different.

Fear of abandonment says:
If I’m too much, they’ll leave.

So the pattern becomes:
• people pleasing
• over-giving
• over-explaining
• staying quiet
• shrinking needs

The nervous system learns that connection = safety, so it adapts by making sure the relationship doesn’t break.

But there’s another layer that often develops alongside it.

Fear of being seen.

Because if being fully yourself once led to rejection, criticism or emotional withdrawal… the body remembers.

So the pattern becomes:
• hiding gifts
• playing small
• overthinking before speaking
• delaying visibility
• holding back truth

Now the nervous system is trying to solve two survival problems at the same time:

Don’t be abandoned.

and
Don’t be fully seen.

Which creates a very particular loop.

Part of you wants connection.

Part of you is protecting yourself from the risk that real visibility might bring.

So the system stays in a kind of middle ground:
visible enough to stay connected…
but not fully expressed.

This is why many people say they want to step forward in life, leadership or business… but something in the body still hesitates.

Not because they lack desire.

But because the survival pattern is still running underneath.

The work isn’t about forcing yourself to be brave.

It’s about helping the nervous system realise that:

being seen and staying connected can exist together.

That’s where a lot of the deeper pattern work begins.

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Reflection for the group:

Have you ever noticed moments where part of you wants to step forward…
but another part of you pulls back at the same time?

That tension often reveals the pattern.

12/03/2026

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞.

This morning I had a simple reflection about money, growth and life before my own coaching session

I bought a book a year ago called Busting Loose From the Money Game.

When I bought it, I didn’t sit there thinking,
How much does this cost?

Because…..I wanted what was inside it.

The ideas.
The perspective.
The possibility that something inside those pages could expand my thinking.

So the real question wasn’t:

How much does it cost?

It was:

How much does it cost me not to learn what’s inside it?

And it made me reflect on life.

When I invest in learning, in coaching, in growth… I don’t do it from pressure.

I do it from love. 🧡

Love for learning.
Love for expanding.
Love for becoming more of who I truly am.

And honestly… love for others too.

Because every insight we gain becomes something we can share. Sharing the love

For me, life really is a game.

Not in a trivial way….but in a fun & creative way.

👉We are constantly learning, experimenting, expanding and discovering who we are beyond our old survival patterns.

And the more we grow, the more freedom, joy and fun we bring into the game.

That’s the part that lights me up.

Helping people move out of survival mode and remember they are creators of their experience.

To create their own version of heaven on earth.

Not someday.

But right now 🔥

11/03/2026

𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐢𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐭𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐲.

In the last week:
My dad passed away at 101.
Cyber fraud hit my account for $12,730 involving refund from ATO

Life still moves.

So do I.

Coaching calls still happen.
Clients are still supported.
Flights still get taken.

Not because it’s hard.

Because this is the standard.

My parents were self-employed most of their lives.

That work ethic runs deep.

Tenacity.

Keep moving.
Keep showing up.
Keep leading.