Danielle Buckley

23/08/2023

What a beautiful reflection.

Love this wisdom from L.R.Knost via Mud & Bloom

11/05/2022

I love the messages Susan David shares, particularly around how to be emotionally honest in an authentic way. This is such a power message to help share how we feel without anger and shame.

Being authentic doesn't mean stewing in anger or sadness all the time. Instead, it's about the ability to be real, to show up to yourself and your community with emotional honesty. It's about recognizing the shared humanity that exists in our ability to feel a whole range of emotions.

Goal for today: tell someone how you truly feel, and ask them to be honest with you about how they feel. What do you discover?

06/04/2022

This is perfect. A small child, tween or friend. A good book shares so much.

Words of wisdom from author Judy Blume for National Library Week: "Librarians save lives: by handing the right book, at the right time, to a kid in need."

For books to help kids dealing with common yet challenging childhood issues ranging from anxiety to anger, all for ages 7 to 12, we recommend "What To Do When You Worry Too Much” (https://www.amightygirl.com/when-you-worry-too-much), "What to Do When Your Temper Flares" (https://www.amightygirl.com/when-your-temper-flares), “What To Do When Mistakes Make You Quake" (https://www.amightygirl.com/when-mistakes-make-you-quake), and the entire series at https://amzn.to/3DH4y6M

For an excellent series of guides for older tweens and teens focused on helping them handle a variety of life challenges, including bullying, body image, anxiety, and self-confidence, visit http://amgrl.co/2zIohAr

To help build children's emotional resiliency at every age, we've featured many books and resources in our blog post, "Understanding The Way I Feel: 50 Mighty Girl Books About Managing Emotions” at https://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=11449

For books that celebrate the value that books bring to our lives -- and the libraries and librarians that help make them available to so many children -- visit our blog post, "35 Mighty Girl Books Celebrating Reading, Libraries, and Literacy," at https://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=11656

02/04/2022

Such an important message…

Forced positivity is a form of denial. When you tell someone to "just be positive," you're basically saying to them, "my comfort is more important than your reality."

Listen to my full conversation with Nora McInerny on Terrible, Thanks for Asking wherever you get your podcasts.

22/03/2022

Always such wise words. This is a very kind reminder.

You're human. You're going to experience stress and anxiety, you're going to have moments when you say the wrong thing, and you're going to make mistakes.

But you'll learn from these moments and end up becoming a better person as a result. Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.

17/03/2022

We don’t get to grow without discomfort. And to keep growing, we need to explore the unfamiliar, uncomfortable, and sometimes dark corners of our inner landscape.

15/11/2021

It is great to see an article that calls out the challenges so many faced and continue to face in Singapore with ongoing restrictions. I really hope that as we learn to live with Covid we consider the impact of mental health when lifting rules and restrictions. People need to feel a sense of connection it is vital to well-being.

Counselling services say many employees are grappling with longer working hours, social isolation and job insecurity.. Read more at straitstimes.com.

02/11/2021

I always love her tips. This is a beautiful habit to build into your day.

If you feel like you're not sure where to begin with emotional agility, try to incorporate these three steps into your day. They'll give you a little jumpstart and set you on a path toward your most authentic life.

31/07/2021

This is a great read for dealing with our kids, especially now.

How do you respond to your child’s bids for connection?

Dr. John Gottman refers to bids as “the fundamental unit of emotional communication.” Bids can be small or big, verbal or nonverbal.

If your friend or partner begins a conversation with “I’m worried about my job” and receives an empathetic response from you, they’re likely to elaborate. You both end the interaction feeling closer. If their comment is ignored, however, they’re unlikely to make themselves vulnerable. The relationship loses a chance to deepen.

In the Gottman Relationship Blog post "Turn Toward Your Child to Nurture Intimacy,” Dr. Laura Markham explains how this same process occurs with our children in daily interactions. If we ignore their feelings, correct them, or judge, they’ll shut down. If this interaction happens often, kids get in the habit of holding their feelings inside. They may stop reaching out to us, and might reject our bids to connect with them.

How you respond to your kid’s bids can greatly impact your connection. Discover tools to model emotional intelligence and connect with your children by starting Emotion Coaching: The Heart of Parenting today: https://bit.ly/3fSRoHO

19/07/2021

A lovely way to think about conflict

Do you and your partner discuss life dreams during moments of conflict?

A disagreement with your loved one might seem like a strange time to talk about your goals and desires, but it can be an excellent opportunity to grow closer. Dr. John Gottman found that recurring issues in a relationship often stem from a lack of communication about each partner's deepest dreams.

Consider this conflict: "My partner is constantly trying to persuade me to try new things: crafts, redecorating the apartment, strange recipes. It's too much!"

Beneath this conflict is a deeper desire. This could be something like: "My parents were always busy. We moved around a lot, and I never had stability. Now that we’ve settled down, I feel so lucky. I finally feel secure, and I want to stay that way."

Once you've identified the dreams that underlie the areas of conflict for each of you, your previously gridlocked conversation can change radically and open the door to a deeper connection.

Practice essential communication skills and work toward your dreams as a team by starting Gottman Relationship Coach today: https://bit.ly/3ci5PUO

07/07/2021

Abandon the idea of being fearless. Continue to pursue new knowledge and richer experiences, follow your heart, and listen to your honest answers to the questions that matter to you. It will open up your world.

01/07/2021

Lockdowns can be challenging, we can feel isolated, lonely, overwhelmed and anxious. Complex emotions are valid and appropriate responses to difficult situations. Looking after our mental health is an important part of living through lockdown.

To support this, I'm now offering 50% off my online course to give you mental health support during this lockdown period. Usually $179 now only $89 for 2.5 hours of content, research, science and exercises.

After 10 months of home school, multiple lockdowns and three weeks of quarantine with the kids, I could not have survived without this knowledge and intentionally investing in my mental health.

But, I didn't always get it right. In the first lockdown I became a baker, had endless activities planned for the kids and even decided to learn a language! But as time went by we practiced how to be still, to be okay with uncertainty, to focus on what we could do and embrace the fact that we suddenly had time. For me, making my mental health a priority was the key in helping me and my family survive and even thrive.

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