04/08/2025
We seem confident, we put ourselves out there in front of a crowd, sometimes wearing nothing but Lycra! We race, we tackle, we lift heavy, we compete.
But are we actually confident?
What people don’t see is the anxiousness pre game, the questioning of whether we can actually finish this race, the criticism and picking apart of your performance afterwards, the shame of the race photos because you don’t look more defined.
This is your programming, it’s your low self esteem and belonging wounds deep in your sub conscious causing you hell and stripping down your confidence.
But why are sporty women in particular so susceptible to these wounds?
Because day in day out, we compete, we compare and we’ve learnt that winning equals attention, it means we’re worthy and capable.
And if winning equals this? Then losing must mean the opposite. That we’re not worthy, we don’t deserve praise and we’ve failed. Couple this with society literally telling us each day that men’s sport is more worthy than ours - we earn less money, we’re less visible, our games get cut short (I could go on all day), our programming that we’re less than gets reinforced and reinforced and reinforced.
Unless you have a rock solid support crew and are doing the inner work it is far too easy to believe that failure in performance means failure in ourselves.
The good news is that because this programming is created, it can also be dissolved. With the right inner work, you CAN feel worthy, loved and confident regardless of your performance AND you can get back to enjoying pushing yourself from a place of love and joy in your chosen sport.
If you’ve felt like this during sometime in your life, I’d love for you to drop a 🤍 in the comments and let’s show other sporty women that we’re not alone and we are worthy 🫶
