
11/08/2025
BUILDING HONEST RELATIONSHIPS
In adolescence, relationships with friends, family, and mentors shape who young people become. It can be tempting to surround ourselves with people who only tell us what feels good or what we want to hear. But true loyalty, true growth and true friendship comes from those who care enough to be honest with us, even when the truth is tough. Geniune friends typically care enough about you to speak the truth, trusting that your friendship is strong enough to handle it.
However, it’s important to remember that honesty should come from people who truly respect and care for you. Truth from a genuine friend is different from criticism that’s abusive.
As psychologists, we encourage teens to embrace relationships built on trust, respect, and where honesty is at the heart of communication.
For adolescents:
* Seek friends who challenge, not just flatter you or follow you blindly.
* Value honesty as a gift, but recognise the difference between honest feedback and abuse.
* Know that true loyalty means standing by you with truth, respect, and support.
* Encourage honest conversations by sharing your feelings and thoughts openly.
* If a friend is trusting you enough to be real with you, attempt to see their intent.
* Take time to think about the feedback. Is there something useful you can learn here? Sometimes honest feedback helps us grow in ways compliments cannot.
* Ask yourself the question, Could their view be different from mine but still valid?
* Respecting a friend’s honesty doesn’t mean you have to agree with it. It’s okay to share your own truth and explain how you see things differently.
* Avoid shutting down or stonewalling when you disagree with a friend. Everyone sees the world through their own lens, and different truths can coexist.