Wild Orange Wellbeing - Tanika McLennan

08/01/2026

Even hearts that have learned to protect themselves still recognise love.

Attachment wounds don’t mean you’re closed… they mean you adapted. And healing isn’t about armouring up… it’s about slowly, gently letting yourself soften again.

Sometimes the reminder comes in the smallest ways.
A moment, a symbol… A strawberry shaped like a heart.

You’re still capable of connection.
At your pace. In your way.

🍓❤️
Save this for the days you forget.
Share it with someone who needs a gentle reminder.

07/01/2026

A gentle reminder to trust your own inner compass.
Not everyone is qualified to guide you… especially if they’ve never walked the path you’re choosing.
Listen, learn and stay open… but choose your direction consciously.

05/01/2026

This time of year has a way of slowing us down just enough to take stock. To look at our lives and quietly ask ourselves, Is this how I want to be living?

If you’ve found yourself reflecting more than usual… questioning your choices, your relationships, your direction… please know that’s not a sign you’re failing. It’s a sign you’re awake.

So many of us are doing this right now, even if it looks like everyone else has it all figured out. You’re not behind. You’re not alone. And it’s not too late to choose differently, gently, one step at a time.

Hope doesn’t always arrive as clarity. Sometimes it arrives as a question… and the courage to keep listening for the answer.

29/12/2025

21/12/2025

I feel like this year I’ve had more conversations with people about the challenges they’re facing at Christmas than ever before. The family members who aren’t talking, the first Christmas after the loss of a loved one or a recent breakup… those things are all amplified by the time of year.

If this season feels heavy for you, please know you’re not alone… and there’s nothing wrong with you for feeling the way you do. You don’t have to force joy, gratitude or togetherness if it doesn’t feel true. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is simply meet yourself where you are.

Be gentle with yourself. Reach out if you can. Rest if you need to. And remember that Christmas doesn’t have to look a certain way to still be meaningful.

Sending extra kindness to anyone finding this time of year a little harder than usual ❤️

20/12/2025

He’d been in situations in the past where nothing he ever did was good enough. He tried so hard to keep the peace that he stopped speaking up for himself. He sacrificed everything because he thought that’s what a good man did… but it still wasn’t enough.

It made him resentful.
It made him feel like something was wrong with him.
It made him believe he wasn’t lovable.

He’s terrified of repeating the cycle so when he starts to feel too close to someone, he shuts down… not because he doesn’t care but because he’s trying to avoid losing himself again. He’s avoiding the deep pain of not feeling good enough.

She’d been in situations in the past where she wasn’t safe. She learned to stay alert, to notice every tiny shift in his mood. She believed that if she could just love him enough, she could fix things. She tried so hard. She sacrificed everything.

But it didn’t work.
It made her question why her love wasn’t enough.
It left her feeling abandoned, rejected and like something was wrong with her.

She’s terrified of repeating the cycle so she stays hyper-vigilant and looks for constant reassurance that the relationship is safe… she’s trying to avoid the deep pain of abandonment.

And then they met each other.
She saw how grounded and steady he was and she was drawn to him.
He saw how alive and passionate she was and he was drawn to her.

What happened next depended entirely on whether they were willing to heal together… or repeat the same old cycles in a new relationship.

18/12/2025

A 4.00 o’clock start this morning called for a 70’s 80’s and 90’s concert on the way home to keep me awake… heavy on the 80’s 😆 How many can you name?

17/12/2025

I love a summer storm and this one was a ripper!

15/12/2025

Most people aren’t thinking about you the way you think they are.

They’re busy replaying their own conversations, worrying about their own insecurities, wondering if they said the wrong thing, looked the wrong way, or were enough.

The thing you’re overthinking?
They’ve already moved on.

So wear the thing. Say the thing. Try the thing.
Live your life a little more freely, knowing everyone else is too caught up in their own inner world to be judging yours.

Permission to exhale ❤️

14/12/2025

A mother’s love teaches us how to be held.
A father’s love teaches us how to stand.

One nurtures, soothes and reminds us we are safe to rest.
The other prepares us for the world… how to face consequences, hold our ground and walk into the storm with courage.

When both are present and healthy, we learn balance:
how to soften and how to be strong,
how to receive love and how to protect ourselves.

And when one was missing or inconsistent, healing becomes about integrating both within ourselves… learning to nurture our own hearts while also becoming steady enough to weather life.

Strength doesn’t cancel tenderness.
They’re meant to grow together. 🌱

13/12/2025

I’m not going to lie, “busy is a choice” is something I struggle with… I still get caught up in the “obligations” of work, family and friends and this year in particular, I’ve found that pretty challenging to balance. My morning cuppa and chill time has been my one non negotiable. It’s my peaceful time in the morning before the pressures of the day kick in… do you schedule downtime in your day?