07/08/2025
Tai Chi and the Power of Self-Compassion
Rani Hughes, Master Trainer and Occupational Therapist, Melbourne, Australia
Over the years, I have met countless people who practice and teach tai chi. It’s always inspiring to see how committed and generous tai chi teachers are with their energy. We give of ourselves physically, emotionally, and psychologically. But here’s the catch: if we teach unskillfully, all that giving can leave us feeling depleted, even burned out. On the other hand, when we approach teaching with wisdom and balance, it becomes a deeply rewarding and uplifting experience — one that benefits both teacher and student.
That’s why I want to share some reflections on the concept of self-compassion, and how it can help us teach and live more sustainably.
Empathy vs. Compassion
First, it’s worth understanding an important distinction: empathy and compassion. These two are often confused, but they are quite different — and the difference matters.
Empathy is the ability to see someone’s struggle and sit with them in it. It’s about being with someone in their pain. This is a beautiful human quality, but it comes with a cost. Neuroscience shows us that when we empathise deeply, the areas of our brain that register fear, pain, and suffering are activated, thanks to our mirror neurons. In other words, we feel what they feel. While that’s powerful, it can also be a burden — and over time, it can lead to emotional exhaustion, what some call “compassion fatigue.”
Compassion, on the other hand, takes it a step further. Compassion arises when we see someone suffering and feel motivated to help, to heal. It’s about action. Compassion is vast, renewable, and actually strengthens our resilience rather than depleting it.
When we see this difference clearly, we can begin to shift our internal framework from empathy to compassion — for others and, crucially, for ourselves.
Turning Compassion Inward
This is where self-compassion comes in. Dr. Kristin Neff, a pioneer in this field and associate professor at the University of Texas at Austin, describes self-compassion simply as turning our compassion inward. She identifies three core elements of self-compassion:
Mindfulness — noticing and acknowledging our own stress, pain, or difficulty.
Self-kindness — responding to ourselves with care and understanding, rather than harsh self-criticism.
Common humanity — recognising that suffering and struggle are part of being human; they happen to everyone, not just to me.
Practicing self-compassion helps us hold space for others without depleting ourselves. It makes teaching and caregiving more sustainable and joyful.
A Practical Example
Let’s bring this into the context of a tai chi class.
Imagine you’re teaching a class, and one of your students shares that their partner has just had a fall and is now in hospital. They recount the distressing experience of finding their partner on the floor, calling the ambulance, and waiting for help. Naturally, as a teacher, you feel their pain and want to support them. But how do you hold their story without becoming overwhelmed yourself?
This is a perfect opportunity to practice Dr. Neff’s self-compassion model:
Mindfulness: Pause and notice how you’re feeling. Perhaps you say to yourself: “I’ve heard many sad stories this week in my classes.”
Self-kindness: Ask yourself: “What do I need right now to take care of myself?” Maybe it’s a moment of deep breathing, or a quiet cup of tea after class.
Common humanity: Remind yourself: “Hearing sad stories is hard for everyone. I’m not alone in finding this challenging.”
This simple internal process can help you stay grounded and present — able to support your student from a place of compassion, not overwhelm.
An Invitation
As you step into your next tai chi class, I invite you to check in with yourself. Are you teaching from a place of empathy or of compassion? Are you noticing and caring for your own needs as well as those of your students?
By cultivating self-compassion, you create a more sustainable and joyful teaching practice — one where both you and your students can flourish.
If you’d like to explore this further, I offer Zoom tai chi classes where I teach from this foundation of compassion. It has been my privilege to teach hundreds of students across Australia, New Zealand, Sri Lanka, South Korea, Hong Kong, and India, and I continue to be inspired by the way tai chi helps us care for ourselves as we care for others.
Wishing you peace and kindness — both inward and outward — in your tai chi journey.
Rani Hughes is an occupational therapist and Tai Chi for Health Master Trainer. She has taught tai chi to hundreds of people across Australia, New Zealand, Sri Lanka, South Korea, Hong Kong, and India. For more information about her online classes, please get in touch. ranihughes@gmail.com