30/12/2024
Because of our amazing brain's learning capabilities, during childhood and adolescence, human beings form (learn) inaccurate, harmful perceptions about themselves. We don't acquire them because we truly are innately ugly, stupid, worthless, unlovable ... the only human being who isn't valuable enough to remain in the tribe. We learn them because most of us encounter at least one adverse environment in which our brains learn about threat.
Neurologically, what 'fires' together 'wires' together. When children and teenagers have adverse experiences, what gets wired together is not just the external context. The feelings they have to suppress to survive and the thoughts they create to make sense of the situation all get thrown into the mix. Sometimes, blaming ourselves for what occurs is the only experience of personal power a developing brain can salvage.
But it is not true.
Anxiety, stomach pain, nervous tics, are all natural expressions of the human mind/body system revealing the presence of emotions our brains unconsciously deem (have learned) to be 'unsafe'. Everyone learns to repress emotions and develop compensatory behaviours that craft a 'survival' persona. Perfectionism, OCD, eating disorders, drug and alcohol abuse, machismo, whatever works to keep feelings at bay and to find a public place. We all want to belong.
Anxiety and stomach disorders are the body's 'smoke alarm'. They indicate the need to explore the feelings we spend a lot of energy stuffing into the recesses of our psyche. Only that strategy doesn't work. The relationship between repressed feelings and bodily illness gains greater clarity every day. Research papers on back pain now include a discussion of the contribution of emotions. The brain expresses repressed feelings through pain - physical and emotional. Put words to the feelings and the brain no longer needs to do so.
My younger students are often bullied - and act out as a result. It's important to catch the older ones before peer driven maladaptive behaviours become established.
Writing research has demonstrated that expressive writing (time to write about deep feelings) has a positive impact on the learning progress of students with learning disabilities. Writing about deep feelings rewires the brain to not be afraid of them, allowing the flight/fight system to regulate. Neural centres related to learning can't fire if the fight/flight system is activated.
I am a psychologist working with writing, not just teaching it, but using it to support health and learning. In addition to evidence informed reading and writing instruction in my intervention sessions, with several students, we begin with 5 minutes expressive writing about feelings.
Too much gets bottled up and too many kids are alone in that repressed soup. Personal expressive writing counteracts that experience, which if left to continue can become more solidified into personality.
When the stresses in life loom large and we are overwhelmed, it is often the small memories of calm that surface in our minds and provide a glimmer of hope. Writing can be an inexpensive and effective memory that could shift the slant of our world when hope is absent. Our young people are not flawed, they are misinformed. We need to right, and write, that.