Honni Hayton Counselling

27/01/2026

Relationship Red Flags: How A Marriage Preparation Course Can Help You Spot them Early

Red flags aren’t always loud. Some are quiet and easy to ignore—until they’re not. Whether you’re planning a wedding or just dreaming of forever, now’s the time to talk about what really matters. A marriage preparation course helps couples spot issues early and build strong, healthy founda...

25/01/2026

Australia Day always gives me a moment to pause and reflect.

I have been very fortunate to have travelled to a few different countries over the last ew years (since the kids have grown up!). I love travelling, exploring new countries and immersing myself in different cultures.

And while I plan to keep exploring, I’ve come home with a renewed appreciation for the beauty, opportunities and freedom of living in Australia.

However you mark today, I hope you find joy in it, in whatever way feels right for you.

I’m grateful to call Australia home.

25/01/2026

My hopes for 2026 💫 I’ve been thinking about what I want next year to look like. Not a strict list, more a gentle vision for this season of life. Swipe to read!

21/01/2026

Today Tony & I celebrate 32 years of marriage.

Some people think it is a bit sappy to mark wedding anniversaries after this long. We don't. We think it matters.

Not because it has been perfect. It hasn't.
Not because we have it all figured out. We still don't.

But because we have chosen, again and again, to work on the relationship as we have changed. The marriage we have now is not the one we had in our twenties or thirties. It has stretched, softened, been challenged and reshaped over the years.

I am deeply proud of the family we have grown and the life we have created together. Five amazing children, a gorgeous daughter & son-in-law, and recently the beautiful transition into becoming grandparents.

This new stage has surprised me with how much joy it brings. Slower, sweeter and full of perspective. (I think of all the stages this might just be my favourite!)

Long term relationships are not about staying the same. They are about growing alongside each other and learning how to meet each new season with honesty and care.

Today feels worth commemorating.

Happy 32 years to us.

20/01/2026

How EMDR Therapy Works.

EMDR works by "reprocessing" traumatic memories. When reprocessed they are no longer cause disturbance and negatively affect how we live our lives.

20/01/2026

New Year goals don’t have to be big and overwhelming. Start small and create resolutions that are fun, healthy and actually make your life feel lighter. If I were your counsellor, I’d help you set goals you can enjoy showing up for.

18/01/2026

I'd like to share my word for the year with you.

My word is "Becoming".

I did not rush this one. I sat with it and let it take shape. The more I listened, the more it felt like the truest reflection of the season I am in.

"Becoming" holds so much for me. It speaks to growth without forcing, to allowing myself to evolve rather than pushing to arrive. It honours new life stages, deeper appreciation and the quiet confidence that comes with experience.

This year, becoming also includes stepping into a new role as a grandmother. That alone feels like a becoming of its own. A slowing, a softening and a deeper sense of perspective that I did not know I was waiting for.

Recently I spent time with my friends, each of us choosing our own word for the year. Sharing that together was both fun and deeply meaningful. Different words, different seasons, yet so much understanding in the room. It reminded me how powerful it is to name where we are and how we want to meet the year ahead.

"Becoming" gives me permission to slow down but still move forward. To travel, to savour, to keep growing in ways that feel nourishing rather than demanding. To meet this year with curiosity rather than pressure.

This is the word that feels right for me.

I would love to know
Have you chosen your word for the year?

14/01/2026

Remember: therapy helps - but so does caring for yourself daily.

Doing what you love, resting, and talking to yourself with compassion are all part of feeling lighter and stronger.

You deserve a life that feels good from the inside out. ✨

13/01/2026

"What is EMDR Therapy and How Can It Help Me?"

"After having EMDR Therapy with Honni, I can feel my current experience of life changing in really important ways. I’m more confident, I feel free and I’m excited about my future for the first time in years." This is what one client said recently. This is why I love EMDR. Therapy.

12/01/2026

I just want to say thank you to everyone who has shared their word for the year and the meaning behind it.

Reading your words and the reasons you chose them has been genuinely moving.

Words like courage, gratitude, momentum, adventure, stewardship, steadfast, visibility, calm and progress.

All so different, yet each one perfectly fitting for the season the person is in.

What struck me most is how intentional these words are. They are not about perfection or pressure, but about meeting life where you are and choosing how you want to show up this year. A single word can quietly shape decisions, boundaries and the way we speak to ourselves.

If you have not chosen a word yet, it is not too late. There is no deadline. Sometimes the word arrives when we stop searching so hard.

I am still contemplating mine, listening for the one that feels true rather than rushed.

I would love to know
What word are you sitting with right now?
Or what do you hope your word supports you with this year?

Keep sharing. These conversations matter.

08/01/2026

I am not the perfect counsellor.

😐 I might forget details you told me months ago and need to ask again.
😐 I might mispronounce your child’s name the first time and feel genuinely embarrassed.
😐 I might sit in silence a bit too long while I think, instead of filling the space smoothly.
😐 I might not be the most polished or perfectly worded counsellor every session.

I do not have a script, a quick fix or a one size fits all answer. And I will never pretend your life is simple.

But I might be the perfect counsellor for you.

Because the right counsellor is not about perfection. It is about fit. Feeling safe enough to be honest. Working with someone who can slow things down, notice patterns and stay present even when things feel messy.

Therapy works best when there is connection, trust and the sense that you do not have to perform or get it right.

If you are looking for a counsellor who values depth over polish, presence over performance and growth that feels sustainable, we might be a good match.

And if not, that is okay too. Finding the right counsellor matters.

If you'd like to connect, send me a DM let's chat.