25/03/2026
Anxiety for trying for a baby becomes #1 and takes over your life. It really does!
Others fall pregnant 🫃 annoyingly easily around you, friends, family, colleagues.
I’m not sure if any of you want to say how it was for you but a close relative of mine went through it. She had direct access to me and I was on their journey throughout the trial and ultimately many cycles of IVF. ( not their doctor 👨⚕️) Few patients get the access to me she did- that’s because many years ago I had 2 unfortunate events where I was stalked by patients. One was seriously difficult especially as she was my patient, not a stranger, hence why I don’t give out my 📱 mobile number anymore. Sorry about that but those incidents gave me anxiety 😟
Anyway, it’s important you acknowledge the existence of the anxiety around infertility as part of the overall and overwhelming effects from infertility.
Get a kind ear to be a listener and not your partner. Script them - give them a script to follow i.e tell them how to deal with it. “ be a great listener- that’s all I ask”, or “ we’re going through infertility, wanted you to know, and want to bounce things off you” or even “ infertility sucks- let’s go out and never discuss it even once OK?”
Infertility is common, can I say bloody common! Annoyingly, exasperatingly common 1:5 couples, single females, same s*x couples suffer it. Go to a food court, count 5 couples. One is suffering it 🙁
Talking helps ( maybe not so much the men who want to ‘fix’ it) but the right talk really does.
Doctors and other will help as well but it takes a team to help so reach out.
Read the article and I’m sure it will help.
David
A new survey suggests anxiety around trying to conceive is more common than fear of pregnancy, birth or breastfeeding. So why isn’t it being discussed?