14/08/2024
It's so easy to “be in your power” when life is smooth sailing, but it's an entirely different story when the waves start crashing.
Let’s be real—we're all human, and we WILL get triggered. Over the past few years, I've learned to lean into my triggers and face them head-on.
Honestly, I used to do everything possible to avoid dealing with them (sending love to all the avoiders out there!). However, one principle I now live by is self-responsibility. This means being in full ownership of my choices and not suppressing or projecting my emotions but rather allowing myself to feel them fully.
So, how do you do that when all you want to do is throw a tantrum, run away, or numb yourself? Here’s what works for me.
The practice begins with awareness of the uncomfortable sensations in your body.
Connect with them and acknowledge their presence. Before reacting, I PAUSE and create a sense of safety within my body.
For me personally I do this by taking deep breaths, and use tapping (EFT). You can also move around, or shake your body, —whatever feels good for you.
Allow yourself to feel whatever is coming up. Notice what you're feeling, where in your body you're feeling it, and observe the thoughts that arise (tip: most of these thoughts are limiting beliefs you've been programmed with).
Just allow yourself to feel it all, wash over you.
I will ask myself What do I need right now?" And then, I give that to myself. Honestly, I often need to just stop and rest. Sometimes its an old pattern playing out that i need to release, but mostly its a practice of calming my nervous system so i can then make a loving choice for myself.
Do I always get it right? Umm, NO! Do I keep practicing? YES! Why because the more i do it the better i get to know myself and I learn how to make different choices and create new habits that are a lot more empowering.
Above all else, Be kind to yourself, give yourself grace and space. You've got this.
Sue X
