05/03/2026
She used to know exactly who she was. Then she became a mother, and that woman went quiet.
The conversation around matrescence is finally getting the attention it deserves, and honestly, it fills my heart. Honouring the full arc of what it means to become a mother has been at the core of everything I do at Maia Mothers Collective, in the clinic and in my coaching programs, for a long time.
And the Lost Mother is one of the most common women I see. Capable, driven, deeply loving, and quietly disappearing.
This isn’t a post about not loving your children enough. It’s about the grief that sits right next to the love, and the way nobody names it.
The Lost Mother isn’t struggling because she’s weak. She’s struggling because her entire nervous system was wired to a signal that motherhood switched off, and her body is genuinely searching for a new anchor.
The flat mood. The restlessness. The sleep disruption even when the baby sleeps. The dopamine crash that looks like laziness but is actually biochemistry.
This is sooo real! And it’s more common than you think.
If you scrolled through that carousel and felt something shift, that’s the recognition. You don’t need to go back to who you were. You need to find out who you are now, with all of this.
This is one of the types of woman I work with inside my coaching programs. If you’re ready to find your way back to yourself, not the old you, but the whole you, the link in my bio is your next step.
Save this if it’s you. Share it with the mother who’s been quietly disappearing behind the version of herself everyone else needs her to be.
She deserves to be seen. 🤍