03/05/2026
I wish someone had told me these things, years ago, when my mum died.
1. You don't have to rush. You can take your time when someone dies.
2. If you can, take the opportunity to see your person, one more time, before they are taken to the mortuary.
3. You can be involved in the care of your person, if you choose to. This might be washing or dressing them. It might be doing their nails or make-up.
I'm Annie, a Deathcare Worker and Educator in Meanjin (Brisbane), Australia
I help families create community-led ceremonies, so they feel less alone and supported in their grief.