25/08/2025
I always get people messaging me about love and relationships—asking when they’ll find it, or wondering what’s “wrong” with them. Truth is, I used to ask myself and other psychics those exact same questions for years.
Here’s what I’ve learnt along the way…
For a long time, I was chasing relationships, trying to fill this gap I thought was missing. I wanted that connection that would finally make me feel settled. But no matter what I did, it never felt quite right. Eventually, it hit me—the part that was missing wasn’t another person. It was me. I wasn’t settled in myself. I kept searching outside when really, I needed to turn inwards. I had put up these protective walls to shield the hurts from my earlier relationships.
So I stopped. I gave myself the time to really listen to me—what I wanted, what I needed, who I truly was. Three years ago, I wrote a letter, asking the universe for the kind of partner I hoped would come along, then tucked it away in a box. I opened that box last night and I found that letter, I couldn’t believe how closely it matched not just the love I’d found with another person, but the love and connection I’d built with myself.
I started accepting myself—the good, the bad, the quirks, all of it. I stopped focusing on what I thought I wanted and started paying attention to what I actually needed. That shift changed everything.
And when I finally learned to love myself, the right connection just showed up. Out of the blue. It’s beautiful and meaningful, but it took years of growth, reflection, and patience.
What I know now is this: the right person will come at the right time, and when they do, they’ll love all of you. You won’t have to change, pretend, or force yourself into a life that doesn’t fit. Doesn’t matter if you’re 25 or 61 a - what matters is that you love yourself first. Know your worth, recognise your strength, and appreciate exactly where you are in life. That’s when love becomes real and lasting.
And don’t ever settle for connections where you’re faking it or pretending everything’s great. Love should feel peaceful and natural. The right person will see you at your worst and still think you’re the best. That’s what matters.
The biggest lesson I’ve learnt? You can’t rush it. Don’t let anyone push you and don’t push yourself. You’ll know you’re in the right place when you’re just happy being with someone without needing to know where it’s going in two weeks, two months, or two years. No pressure, no demands—just letting it flow.
So if you’re feeling a bit lost, please don’t give up. Keep believing in yourself. Love will find you—but first, love yourself fully. The rest will follow. ❤️❤️
Love Sheryl xx 🦋❤️🐘