Tegan Lindsey Mentoring

Tegan Lindsey Mentoring Helping people to realise the self beyond identity and engage life in a more conscious way.

I often catch myself wondering: What parts of being in my care are my children 'adapting to in order to survive, to feel...
05/07/2025

I often catch myself wondering: What parts of being in my care are my children 'adapting to in order to survive, to feel safe, and to belong?' It’s the kind of question that can keep a mother (or father, or any caregiver) up at night. But here’s where I’ve landed:

I’m doing the best I can.
We all are.

As parents, we’re constantly juggling the desire to love our children, with the daily reality of simply trying to survive in the world. And our capacity to do that — to love, to stay present, to guide — is always going to be shaped by what we were taught, what we’ve been exposed to, and how far we’ve been able to go in our own healing.

So here’s the truth I come back to again and again:

Focus on healing yourself. It’s the most loving thing you can do — for yourself, and for your children.

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03/07/2025

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Avoidance isn’t just about tasks or responsibilities—it’s often about the inner experience we don’t want to feel: discom...
30/06/2025

Avoidance isn’t just about tasks or responsibilities—it’s often about the inner experience we don’t want to feel: discomfort, fear, inadequacy, vulnerability emptiness. It’s about trying to get away from what is. But do you know what?

Life gets easier when you stop trying to make it easier.

It sounds paradoxical, but it's true. When you're present with pain rather than resisting it, you stop multiplying the suffering. Pain becomes part of the flow of life, not something that defines you or needs to be escaped.

Another name for acquired happiness is if/when happiness. It's the idea that happiness is just around the corner with th...
29/06/2025

Another name for acquired happiness is if/when happiness. It's the idea that happiness is just around the corner with the next achievement or acquisition of something. "I'll be happy if..." or "I'll be happy when...". It's circumstantial, because it depends on other people, objects or circumstances.

I'm done with living my life this way. How about you?

For a long time, I thought avoidance was simply about putting off what I knew needed to be done. And yes, that’s part of...
25/06/2025

For a long time, I thought avoidance was simply about putting off what I knew needed to be done. And yes, that’s part of it — but recently I’ve realised something deeper.

Avoidance isn’t just about avoiding action. It’s about avoiding reality.

It’s that moment when you catch yourself thinking: “I don’t like how this feels, so I’m going to try and change it, fix it, or distract myself so I don’t have to experience it.”

The opposite of avoidance is presence. Presence means allowing what is to exist — without needing to escape, control, or resist it.

Once I finally understood this — once I stopped running from difficult feelings and uncomfortable experiences, and started staying present with them — life got easier.
(It sounds counterintuitive, I know!)

Of course, you still have to make choices. You still need to act. But only after bringing heightened awareness to what’s really going on.

These days, it can still take me a little while to notice what I’m resisting. But knowing this truth about avoidance — has changed everything for me.

Happiness from outside and happiness from inside feel the same. But only one stays with us.
24/06/2025

Happiness from outside and happiness from inside feel the same. But only one stays with us.

The greatest sacrifice on the spiritual path? Letting go of the childhood story that shaped your sense of self.Not the s...
18/06/2025

The greatest sacrifice on the spiritual path? Letting go of the childhood story that shaped your sense of self.

Not the story of your life events — but the quiet, unquestioned beliefs that formed in the early years. Beliefs like “I’m not important.” “My voice doesn’t matter.” “I’m inadequate.”

These stories become our default settings. They affect how we speak, create, lead, and love — often without us realising it.

In my case, the story was: I’m not heard. I’m not important. It showed up everywhere: it influenced my need to be friends with every person in the room, because if they like me they will listen to me and I will be important. It turned up in how I avoided creating my own content, and held back from being fully seen, or stayed silent when something real wanted to be said. All because part of me was still afraid no one would listen — and that silence would confirm the fear — who I am and what I have to say isn’t important.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

Once you know what that voice sounds like, you can stop letting it run the show. You can choose to get out of your own way — and let something truer move through you.

That’s what surrender really is: Not just letting go of outcomes… But letting go of who you thought you had to be in order to be safe, loved, or accepted.

The surprising part?

When you stop obeying the old story, life tends to open up. Relationships shift. Creativity flows. People respond. Because you’re no longer performing. You’re present.

It starts with knowing the voice of the inner child — and I can help you with that. Because once you hear it clearly, you can stop living from it.

And that changes everything.

Stop. Breathe. Listen.
17/06/2025

Stop. Breathe. Listen.

Surrender, at its essence, is the release of attachment — a quieting of compulsions that creates space for something dee...
16/06/2025

Surrender, at its essence, is the release of attachment — a quieting of compulsions that creates space for something deeper to emerge.

When we loosen our grip on the things we habitually reach for — whether food, control, identity, outcomes, or comfort — we make room for clarity, presence, and alignment with our true nature.

This is the heart of surrender on the spiritual path: Not denial, but spaciousness. Not loss, but the invitation for truth to arise where craving once lived.

Surrender is not a technique. It’s a gesture — a turning inward. It asks: Am I willing to release what I think I need… to discover what I actually am?

You don’t need to sit cross-legged for hours or be perfect to awaken. You just need to be here — fully, willingly, softly. And often, it’s the releasing of habitual patterns that brings us into that presence.

Still, many of us dodge surrender. Not because we’re unwilling — but because we’re afraid of what we might lose. But that fear is the ego’s voice — clinging to the familiar, to identity, to control. It doesn’t yet understand what there is to gain.

Choose presence over reaction.
15/06/2025

Choose presence over reaction.

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