Nicolette Ward Counselling

28/11/2025

One study found that couple with a greater appreciation for each other's strengths reported more satisfying relationships and s*x lives. What's the last thing your partner did - that make you feel appreciated?

21/11/2025

Research from Miami, Minnesota and California universities said that wronged partner valued their relationship more and was more likely to forgive their loved one, when their partner apologised for doing something wrong.

14/11/2025

Researchers at George Mason university found that we're more satisfied with our partners than we idealise them and they will often work to meet that ideal.

07/11/2025

Researchers at The Open University found that loving a partner warts and all, and accepting their quirks and qualities as part of what makes them who they are, is the basis of lasting enduring love.

31/10/2025

Dr John Gottman notes that successful relationships are made up of partners who scan the environment for things that they are thankful for.

24/10/2025

Judy wasn't too far from the truth... she was raised to be something she didn't want to be, and if this is her legacy, let's honour her wisdom. She was so frustrated by being cast into a mould that didn't fit her. How her life would have looked if she had her own autonomy and power. One can only wonder.

17/10/2025

Research by Biehle and Mickelson found that partners reported receiving emotional support from their partner was linked to a more positive mood and less anxiety and depression.

16/10/2025

Here is the first in my Agony Aunt series of blog posts... so many couples struggle with this and there are some simple things we can do to create balance and build the bridge towards intimacy in later years that isn't stressful or fraught with pursuit-withdraw dynamics playing out in your relationships.
https://www.relationshiprevamp.com.au/post/menopausal-libido-shifts

16/10/2025

I am settling into my new office at unit 19/2962 Logan road, Underwood, 4119 - I must say I am already planning renovations so watch this space. If you have any feedback (from those who have already attended the space), please PM me! That would be so helpful.

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10/10/2025

Giving feedback in a critical way can lead to escalation of negative interactions between partners.
Dr John Gottman suggests partner be clear, direct and empathetic when offering feedback to each other.

03/10/2025

Esther Perel, Author of Mating in Captivity encourages couples to introduce play into their relationship. In and out of the bedroom. Play is an essential component of personal and social well-being, she notes, that allows us to take risks and get creative while having fun!

26/09/2025

Maaan! yes this is a tough one... Transference from past relationships and how you feel about an ex will undoubtedly influence how you feel about subsequent interpretation of future partners, as was confirmed by Researchers Susan Anderson and Michele Berk...BAM! I see this all the time in couples counselling - especially where there is a person whose previous parter was 'abusive'. Honeys, ALL PREVIOUS PARTNERS WERE ABUSIVE because it rarely ends well right? secondly, YOU were always part of the perpetration so who is the victim and who is the perpetrator, and who is to say you won't become the perpetrator in your current or future relationship... we have to tread carefully here... Leave the past where it belongs. Focus on the present moment, and try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. That is a good way forward. Baggage will only call you into one of those roles if you don't.