EFL - Equipped for Life - Counselling and Transformational Neuro Coaching

17/07/2025

🌪️ 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐚 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐧 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐚 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥-𝐛𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐚𝐫𝐠𝐮𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭?

You meant to connect, but somehow, it ended in silence, shutdown, or shouting.

The truth is: it’s not always what you say, it’s when you say it.
🧠 When you understand how the brain responds under stress, you’ll realise that timing is everything.

💬 Most couples don’t realise they’re triggering their partner’s defence system, not a discussion.

But here’s the good news:
Once you learn how to read the emotional climate and choose the right moment…
✨ Conversations feel calmer
✨ You feel heard, not hurt
✨ Disagreements don’t spiral, they soften

I created a free Relationship Timing Guide to help you stop repeating arguments and start getting through to each other.
Whether you're feeling disconnected or just want more peace in your relationship, this is a game-changer.

💡 Download it here and start choosing the right moment to connect:
👉https://equippedmind.com/

Download Your Free Relationship Timing Guide by Indrani Lewthwaite Today!

07/07/2025

𝐀𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭.⁣⁣
𝐈𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞. 𝐈𝐭 𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐝𝐬 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧.

But over time, the pressure builds until it leaks out as distance, anger, or shutdown.

Avoidance isn’t emotional weakness. It’s survival.
But survival isn’t the same as connection.

✨ You can stop the pressure from building by:

Naming what you’re avoiding

Taking a few grounding breaths

Practising honest, low-pressure conversations

Reminding yourself: You can stay. You don’t have to disappear.

Real strength is in presence.
You don’t have to hold it all in. You can speak. You can stay.

👉 Read the full blog: https://www.eflcounsellingandcoaching.com.au/post/when-a-man-stops-avoiding-and-starts-speaking-everything-change

06/07/2025

𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐚 𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬 𝐮𝐩?
Our latest blog explores the dynamics of avoidance in men from a neurobiological standpoint. Read more about it here: https://wix.to/HlLRqmD

Understanding Avoidance in Men: A Neurobiological Perspective on Disconnection. Avoidance is one of the most misunderstood behaviours in relationships, especially when it comes from men.What may appear as coldness, emotional unavailability, or even indifference is often something much more complex u...

25/06/2025

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⁣⁣⁣𝐓𝐫𝐲 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬, 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐨𝐟 "𝐈 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐫𝐲"⁣⁣ And see what happens to your daily mood.

25/06/2025

19/06/2025

🌟 𝐁𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐛𝐲 𝐏𝐨𝐩𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐫 𝐃𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐝! 🌟
𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐆𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐅𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐀𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐈𝐭
🗓 𝐍𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐩: 𝐒𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐝𝐚𝐲, 𝐉𝐮𝐧𝐞 𝟐𝟖𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐭 𝟗𝐀𝐌 (𝐀𝐄𝐒𝐓)
Thank you so much to everyone who joined me last night and made the session so special. Thank you all for staying till the end despite the tech issues💛

Great questions and life-changing insights.
I’ve received so many messages from those who missed out or couldn’t get in, and I hear you! So, I’m excited to announce that 𝐰𝐞’𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐩 𝐨𝐧 𝐅𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐲, 𝐉𝐮𝐧𝐞 𝟐𝟖𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐭 𝟗𝐀𝐌. 🎉
If you missed the last one or know someone who needs to hear this message, this is your chance. 💌
We’ll be diving deep again into the MIRROR Method™, with more opportunities to reflect, reset, and reconnect.
🧠💛 This method has already sparked real breakthroughs in people’s lives — and I can’t wait to share it again with you.

Register here:

https://www.eflcounsellingandcoaching.com.au/.../repair...

01/03/2025

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐟𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭, 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐯𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐦𝐞𝐬: 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐮𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬.\
Find out why?

Understanding Body LanguageIn the world of communication, words are just the tip of the iceberg. Nonverbal cues, such as eye rolls, sighs, and gestures, can speak volumes, conveying approval, judgment, or even rejection without a single word uttered. These actions can deeply impact our relationships...

18/02/2025

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𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚 𝐝𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐈 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐞 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐦𝐲 𝐜𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬. 𝐈 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐬 𝐢𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦.

✨ The power of gratitude can work wonders! 🌱 Focus on the things that make you smile, no matter how small they may seem. 🌷 Expressing thanks to others or even just acknowledging the good in your day can shift your perspective.

🌟 It's the simple things, like a warm cup of tea ☕ or a cozy blanket 🧦, that can fill us with gratitude and joy. 🌼 So, take a deep breath, and let's appreciate the beauty around us. 🌷💞

It empowers us to move forward, doing what seemed impossible in the dark confines of negativity, much like how the lighthouse enables sailors to steer confidently through night and fog. With gratitude as our beacon, we find clarity, purpose, and direction.

New Blog Post https://wix.to/yMcR8Sm
https://wix.to/6um6i7v

Discover the Unseen Wealth of Life: How Gratitude Transforms Mental Health and Connections

17/02/2025

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬?

It's time to learn how to escape that cycle for good! Read more here: https://wix.to/gFfXVx6

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a loop of negative thoughts, replaying the same worries or regrets repeatedly? This mental habit is known as rumination, and it can have a significant impact on your mental health.What is Rumination?Rumination involves repetitive thinking or dwelling on negative...

13/02/2025

❤𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝟐 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐕𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐞'𝐬 𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐲. ❤🌷

Today, amidst the celebrations, let's pause to consider a truth that extends beyond just this day: The essence of love is not just in being expressed but in being truly felt and understood.

𝐈 𝐟𝐞𝐥𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐈 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝟏𝟎𝟎𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐢𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 "𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝" 😢𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐤𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚.

You might deeply love someone, and yet, despite the depth of your feelings, what I've found through my work with many people is this: some may not truly feel loved. This isn't necessarily a reflection of your expression of love, but rather it can be intricately tied to where your loved ones are at in their personal journey, shaped by the experiences they've endured.

It's common to think, "Of course, they know I love them!" But the truth is, knowing one is loved and actually feeling that love are two distinctly separate experiences. This gap often leads to disconnections in relationships. The awareness of being loved isn't just a simple acknowledgment—it's a complex sensation, filtered through an individual's personal experiences and beliefs.

Therefore, understanding how your loved ones interpret feeling loved is crucial. Engage in meaningful conversations with these powerful questions:

💖 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭?
💖 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝?
💖 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐮𝐧𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟?

They may not be able to tell you ‘why’ because this has everything to do with a little inner voice that they carry with them from the very early days of their life, even if they don’t know it consciously. But they can tell you when they feel loved.

These questions have the power to transform relationships, even those on the brink of breaking up. By fostering this deeper understanding, you create a bridge where love is not only shown but also genuinely received and cherished.

Make the commitment not just today, but every day, to nurture this awareness and connection. Love truly is an everyday practice—let’s ensure it’s authentically perceived in its full depth and warmth.

I hope these insights bring clarity and a deeper connection to your relationships. How will you show your love today? 🌟

The truth:1 Corinthians 13:2 states, "And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, am nothing".