At 27 years old I found myself in an enormous health crisis at the peak of debilitating Anxiety, Depression and Chronic Fatigue.
To give you some insight into what that looked like for me; I was blacking out from panic attacks, experiencing suicidal thoughts, and really struggling to connect to the purpose for my existence. I was fatigued to the point of being housebound, and I needed a carer as well as a wheelchair once I was eventually able to leave the house.
At this time it became incredibly obvious to me that I could no longer ignore the messages my life and body were screaming at me. And so, my painful and beautifully rewarding lessons towards ‘better’ began.
What they told me
Through this process I engaged the opinions of at least 18 different medical and healthcare practitioners, yet none of them could provide me the answers or solutions I required. As I slowly became my own advocate, the loudest lesson I took away was that whilst prolonged experiences of dis-harmony in life are common (meaning lots of people have experiences of these problems), they are absolutely NOT normal.
What I mean here, is that it might be common to hear the opinion; “yeah, lot’s of people experience -insert your problem here-“ or “this might just be as good as it gets for you”, or “you might just have to learn to live with that”. My suggestion is that whilst they might be common problems, prolonged experiences of anxiety, panic, stress, overwhelm, depression, frustration, self doubt etc are not normal.
This is something I am super passionate about!
When we surround ourselves with something that is common (or when there’s repetition of something in our environment) those things can begin to feel normal - as if it’s just the way it’s meant to be and that there’s nothing I can do about it.
The flow on effect from this is that we can begin to equate common as being the same as normal - this is UNTRUE!
I whole heartedly believe
it is so important for every individual to understand that the ongoing normal expression for human beings is to be happy and connected to the life they live - so long as that is what they want and they are taking proactive steps to achieve it.
I also love to mention at this point, that yes it is also completely normal to have interruptions to that ongoing state, however prolonged and unintended interruptions are not normal.
When we give ourselves permission to know that common DOES NOT equate to normal, we also empower ourselves to know that we can choose the reality we want.
Then the real question becomes; do I want my reality of life to be of low quality and struggle? Or, do I want a reality where I feel peace, happiness and connection?
And to be clear here - by no means am I saying that choosing a reality of peace, happiness and connection is the easy route! What I am saying is that it’s possible and every single one of us chooses to either continue or redesign our reality every single day. I would suggest neither reality is easy - but one is absolutely worth it!
This is exactly why I am passionate about teaching people to connect to themselves, become their deepest desires, and self express in a life they love.
