23/11/2025
I’m Not Buying a Weight Belt.
I keep seeing advice telling women in perimenopause to add more: weight belts for walks, heavier training, more supplements, more protocols, more lists, more optimisation.
But honestly?
For the past 10 years, I’ve been carrying everything.
A baby in my belly.
A baby on my chest.
A toddler’s scooter over my shoulder.
A child on my hip/ shoulders/back.
I’ve carried bags, snacks, jackets, emotions, mental load, schedules, and everyone’s needs — including the unspoken ones.
So now that I’m in my in 40’s?
This is my season to walk a little more lightly (for me as my kids are a little older- I know that’s not the case for everyone).
To feel freedom in my body again.
To not strap on extra weight “for my own good.”
And I’m still carrying a lot of that load I’ve mentioned above, there is just a little more space now… and I’m grabbing that!!!
For a decade I’ve taken prenatals, postnatal depletion protocols, iron after heavy bleeding, herbs for breastfeeding and recovery… So no, I’m not adding more supplements because someone on Instagram says my hormones need it.
Perimenopause, to me, isn’t about holding onto my younger self so tightly I can’t enjoy now.
It’s about allowing the new version to emerge — naturally, instinctively — like the snake shedding her skin.
Not forcing, not gripping, not adding.
Just releasing what’s done and letting the next layer reveal itself.
If I’m going to carry anything these days, it’ll be something that actually matters… Like my friend’s baby up a hill when she needs a break. That’s my weight belt.
That’s village.
I’m done carrying “shoulds.”
I’m done carrying expectations of what a 40-year-old woman’s body “should” be doing.
I’m done being weighed down by invisible loads.
This season is about:
✨ Expansion
✨ Freedom
✨ Shedding old skins
✨ Moving how I want to move
Perimenopause isn’t my decline.
It’s my rebirth.
(Ps. I’m not saying I don’t do weights, because I do, but I only do them in a way that feels whole and nourishing for me. I’m not saying we shouldn’t be aware of our muscle tone, but perhaps this can come from an awareness within rather than being marketed to)