23/09/2025
Weaving Boundaries
We often speak of "setting boundaries". Let them is part of the recent jargon that has slipped into our ever-revising list of "buzzwords".
There are situations or people whose actions or words put us in a position where we need to assert our boundaries. Doing so conveys our self-respect, that we will protect ourselves from energies that detract, we won't permit disrespect, and that we are firm in our boundaries.
But should all boundaries be concrete? Are the boundaries we set the same for everyone? Do we need to vary our boundaries based on how we are feeling? Can we soften our boundaries for people we value, while still honouring our own values and energy? I say we can.
And so, I weave boundaries. I pull in threads of love, kindness, patience, acceptance, selflessness and duality. I can strengthen my weave, reinforcing it with fortitude, self-worth, and self-awareness of my own needs and resilience at any given moment. I can draw in the weft tightly, weaving a sheath that protects my energy.
Or I can construct a gauze —something lightweight, translucent, and pliable. A weave that welcomes. That lets those we value know that they can trust that we will hold space for them in their vulnerability. So they know we can be sympathetic and forgiving when they challenge the loose weave of our gossamer boundaries. Opening to exploring an understanding & to discovering more about others, & myself.
We cannot control the actions of others; we can only control our response and our willingness to disengage or accept them. It is up to others to demonstrate that they respect our boundaries or not, be they impentrabile or fluid. We may need to reiterate what we are willing to stay for or step away from the relationship. Holding firm or holding space may make or break a relationship. But then you'll know. You will have honoured what is important to you. And you are in a better place, with or without them.
Boundaries call for discernment. And so, I think not of walls but of weaving.
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