Raquel Dubois Embody Consciousness

24/02/2026

Question (for coaches, practitioners and transformation facilitators)...

Did your training emphasise the importance of helping your client feel successful and noticing their small 'wins'?

My trauma training sure did!

But when a client is stuck, most practitioners either:

1. Give up, and declare the client is "uncoachable", OR
2. Start over-functioning by doing their client’s work for them.

The first response makes you sub-consciously doubt yourself - especially your skills as a facilitator.

The second response caps your client numbers.

If you take away just one thing from this post, know this:

Over-functioning is a direct result of practitioner people-pleasing and the unconscious belief that you are responsible for your client outcomes.

Interested to know more about how somatic mentoring overcomes practitioner behaviours like people pleasing and over-functioning?

Message me to book your free, no obligation call to discuss how I can help you uncap your client numbers and get better results.

* I promise, the somatic mentoring approach will give you more time to do whatever is most important to you... like snuggling with dogs and cats (in my case!).

22/02/2026

Everyone is angry right now. And rightfully so. Sexual abuse dressed up as spiritual enlightenment is far from pretty.

Few of us learned how to move anger through our bodies without hurting ourselves.

In my latest Substack, I discuss how to metabolise anger and avoid getting stuck on a hamster wheel you can't get off.

It's juicy!

https://raqueldubois.substack.com/p/venting-feels-good-but-it-keeps-you

13/02/2026

If you’re a coach or practitioner who genuinely cares about your clients' outcomes, you’ve probably spent a lot of time thinking about how to help them — especially the stuck ones.

I truly believe no one is uncoachable. You just haven’t identified the dynamic in play.

Picture this.

You show up for the session.
They show up.
You deliver the tools.
They nod. They comply.
But nothing really shifts.

You try harder.
They stall again.

The cycle caps your energy — and your client numbers.

Most people will tell you this client is uncoachable.
But what if we removed blame entirely?
Not theirs.
Not yours.

Imagine for a moment that you truly understood in your bones that the issue isn’t resistance or lack of motivation, but the relational dynamic you’re both unconsciously participating in?

What if their nervous system expects the same old “fixes” they’ve already tried… and your nervous system is subtly colluding with those expectations?

That’s where my mentoring comes in.

I teach coaches how to:
• Assess the nervous system in real time
• Map the invisible relational dance holding patterns in place
• Design and implement personalised somatic practices that fit that client’s system — not scripts, not generic exercises

Practices that increase buy-in, build momentum, and create real movement — without you over-functioning or burning out.

If you care deeply about your clients but feel you’ve hit the ceiling of your current toolkit, this is how you expand your range.
Stop repeating protocols. Start designing precision.

If this resonates, send me a message about my somatic mentoring sessions and get $50 off for a limited time. Let’s build a sustainable practice you love, while strengthening your confidence to work with any client who walks through your door.

09/02/2026

Hi Bravehearts!

I've opened up some free calls to chat about somatic mentoring and nervous system support for ADHD and ASD women going through peri/menopause.

There IS a pattern to all the stuff you're dealing with and it's usually linked to neurodivergence.

Even if you don't identify as ADHD or ASD, I can help you unravel the complexity and find out the root cause.

You don't have to figure it out or manage it alone.

Let's have a chat and see if I can help

09/01/2026

QUESTION:

Is it possible to change our attachment style?
..When I started my psychology degree (almost 20 years ago), I Googled, "Can you change childhood attachment style in adulthood?"

Even though 'attachment' had been researched and written about in depth since the 1950s, I discovered there was very little information on the topic of changing attachment patterns. (As usual, I was ahead of my time). Fast forward to 2026, and we know some more about attachment, human behaviour, and change. But how much do we know about FACILITATING change? That's the root of my question.

Is it actually possible to change our childhood attachment style?

05/12/2025

A new article, based on research undertaken at Queen Mary University London, looks at how a warm hug - even air temperature - influences how strongly we experience our bodies as “our own.”

Somatic applications abound - similar interventions are already employed in somatic psychotherapy to support connection to an expanded self - and therefore, an expanded sense of self.

KEY FINDINGS -
Temperature signals directly shape bodily self-awareness and emotional grounding.

Disturbed thermal perception is tied to altered body ownership in several mental health and neurological conditions.

THERAPEUTIC POTENTIAL -
May guide sensory-based interventions, prosthetic design, and rehabilitation.

SUMMARY -
The findings expand the neuroscience of bodily self-awareness to include temperature and reveal a previously overlooked pathway through which the body communicates with the brain.

The researchers propose that the link between thermoception and body temperature regulation contributes not only to survival and comfort, but also touches on emotion, identity, and mental health.

Changes in skin temperature play a key role in how strongly we experience our bodies as our own.

18/09/2025

I'm being shamanically initiated at the moment - not for the first time.

This is an even bigger letting go and stripping away than before. Though I feel I'm navigating it better - the last time it was this intense, I lost EVERYTHING, including home, car and friendships. This time, it's just 'home'.

I've a series of articles coming about this initiation experience - to catch all of my updates, please consider subscribing. I write these articles to help you.

https://open.substack.com/pub/raqueldubois/p/knowing-the-ending?r=1qs7lo&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

03/08/2025

SIGNS OF NEURODIVERGENT MASKING you may not know (until you read them)

• Hiding sensory difficulties

• Not asking for reasonable accommodations, even though you need them.

• Doing more - or less - to appear socially appropriate.

• Concealing ND behaviours in front of others to hide ND traits (e.g., not eating in front of others).

• Researching neurotypical interests so you know what to talk about.

• Repeatedly checking your belongings so you don't lose stuff.

• Not talking about your special interests.

• Laughing even if you don't get the joke.

• Matching the way someone sends texts/emails.

• Using social scripts.

• Eating socially acceptable food even though you don’t like it.

• Overworking to hide your perceived failures.

• Pretending not to remember small details about people.

• Choosing what to eat in advance to mask difficulties with decision making.

• Not allowing yourself to express an opinion in a situation, in case it is seen as “wrong.”

• Not asking for clarification when you are confused.

• Using alcohol or drugs to be less socially 'awkward'.

• Not setting boundaries to avoid making others uncomfortable.

• Consciously making your voice go up and down in tone.

• Making small talk even though it’s painful.

• Not taking breaks when you need them.

• Making eye contact even though it’s too intense.

• Not stimming or using subtle/hidden stims.

Today's the last day to join my new pilot program for ND women (Doors close 4pm Sunday).

Drop me a DM if you want some info - we start Monday 4th August, 3.45pm AEST.

Don't miss this chance to incorporate nervous system wisdom with circadian biology and mitochondrial health to banish burnout and embody your vitality and purpose (and if you know me - so much more!).

23/07/2025

“I feel relaxed and alive.”

More than one person said that after the Sacred Rage workshop I led during the retreat.

'Relaxed and alive.'
Two states that often feel like they shouldn’t be able to exist in the same moment — and yet, when they do, it’s a sign that something has shifted.

It’s not the aliveness of adrenaline.
And not the relaxation of collapse.
It’s the feeling of being with yourself.
Unmasked. Unarmoured.
Held inside your own container like it’s a place you actually want to live.

That’s what we’re working with in EMBER.
How to stay with yourself… in your own heat.
A temperature that feels like body warmth under blankets — calm, but utterly alive.

If that speaks to where you are right now — or where you want to be — comment EMBER and I’ll send through the program details.

There are 3 places left for fast action takers and doors close in a week.

Will you join us?

23/07/2025

You learned to make others comfortable.
To keep the peace.
To go quiet when things got tense.
To freeze just enough for the moment to pass.

That kind of sensitivity is what helped you navigate complex environments... long before you had words for what was happening.

Over time, that strategy can blur your own signals.
You stop knowing what you feel.
What you want.
What safety even feels like in your body.

That’s what we work with in EMBER.
We don’t force action or urgency.
We make room for what’s real—
and help your system reconnect with the inner wisdom it silenced to stay safe.

Resilience is not about getting through,
It's about preparing your system FOR life's challenges.
And being with yourself fully.

Comment EMBER and I'll send you information about the program.

There's just ONE fast-action taker discount place left!

Will you join us?

22/07/2025

Containers don’t last forever.
They grow as you grow.

EMBER is your next evolution.

🔥 Join the pilot now. Doors close soon!

22/07/2025

This is one of the reasons I built EMBER specifically for neurodivergent women:

Because our burnout isn’t just from too much work.
It’s not just from long hours or not enough sleep.
It goes deeper than that — all the way to the places in our systems that have been overriding for years.
The masking.
The high empathy.
The constant self-monitoring in relationships.
The way we take responsibility for other people’s feelings, and then spiral when we think we got it wrong.

Some of us burn out not just from doing too much —
but from feeling too much in a world that doesn’t make space for it.
There’s a kind of burnout that comes from emotional overwhelm.
From guilt or shame that we can’t fix.
From social ruptures or tiny moments of perceived rejection that most people would brush off — but that land in our systems like they might never be resolved.

EMBER isn’t about fixing or curing anything.
It’s about tending the fire — the energy — that’s still there, underneath all of that.
Even when it feels like it’s gone out.

Leave a🔥if you want to know more - there's just one more week to join the pilot and say goodbye to burnout!