Raquel Dubois Embody Consciousness

09/01/2026

QUESTION:

Is it possible to change our attachment style?
..When I started my psychology degree (almost 20 years ago), I Googled, "Can you change childhood attachment style in adulthood?"

Even though 'attachment' had been researched and written about in depth since the 1950s, I discovered there was very little information on the topic of changing attachment patterns. (As usual, I was ahead of my time). Fast forward to 2026, and we know some more about attachment, human behaviour, and change. But how much do we know about FACILITATING change? That's the root of my question.

Is it actually possible to change our childhood attachment style?

05/12/2025

A new article, based on research undertaken at Queen Mary University London, looks at how a warm hug - even air temperature - influences how strongly we experience our bodies as “our own.”

Somatic applications abound - similar interventions are already employed in somatic psychotherapy to support connection to an expanded self - and therefore, an expanded sense of self.

KEY FINDINGS -
Temperature signals directly shape bodily self-awareness and emotional grounding.

Disturbed thermal perception is tied to altered body ownership in several mental health and neurological conditions.

THERAPEUTIC POTENTIAL -
May guide sensory-based interventions, prosthetic design, and rehabilitation.

SUMMARY -
The findings expand the neuroscience of bodily self-awareness to include temperature and reveal a previously overlooked pathway through which the body communicates with the brain.

The researchers propose that the link between thermoception and body temperature regulation contributes not only to survival and comfort, but also touches on emotion, identity, and mental health.

Changes in skin temperature play a key role in how strongly we experience our bodies as our own.

18/09/2025

I'm being shamanically initiated at the moment - not for the first time.

This is an even bigger letting go and stripping away than before. Though I feel I'm navigating it better - the last time it was this intense, I lost EVERYTHING, including home, car and friendships. This time, it's just 'home'.

I've a series of articles coming about this initiation experience - to catch all of my updates, please consider subscribing. I write these articles to help you.

https://open.substack.com/pub/raqueldubois/p/knowing-the-ending?r=1qs7lo&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

03/08/2025

SIGNS OF NEURODIVERGENT MASKING you may not know (until you read them)

• Hiding sensory difficulties

• Not asking for reasonable accommodations, even though you need them.

• Doing more - or less - to appear socially appropriate.

• Concealing ND behaviours in front of others to hide ND traits (e.g., not eating in front of others).

• Researching neurotypical interests so you know what to talk about.

• Repeatedly checking your belongings so you don't lose stuff.

• Not talking about your special interests.

• Laughing even if you don't get the joke.

• Matching the way someone sends texts/emails.

• Using social scripts.

• Eating socially acceptable food even though you don’t like it.

• Overworking to hide your perceived failures.

• Pretending not to remember small details about people.

• Choosing what to eat in advance to mask difficulties with decision making.

• Not allowing yourself to express an opinion in a situation, in case it is seen as “wrong.”

• Not asking for clarification when you are confused.

• Using alcohol or drugs to be less socially 'awkward'.

• Not setting boundaries to avoid making others uncomfortable.

• Consciously making your voice go up and down in tone.

• Making small talk even though it’s painful.

• Not taking breaks when you need them.

• Making eye contact even though it’s too intense.

• Not stimming or using subtle/hidden stims.

Today's the last day to join my new pilot program for ND women (Doors close 4pm Sunday).

Drop me a DM if you want some info - we start Monday 4th August, 3.45pm AEST.

Don't miss this chance to incorporate nervous system wisdom with circadian biology and mitochondrial health to banish burnout and embody your vitality and purpose (and if you know me - so much more!).

23/07/2025

“I feel relaxed and alive.”

More than one person said that after the Sacred Rage workshop I led during the retreat.

'Relaxed and alive.'
Two states that often feel like they shouldn’t be able to exist in the same moment — and yet, when they do, it’s a sign that something has shifted.

It’s not the aliveness of adrenaline.
And not the relaxation of collapse.
It’s the feeling of being with yourself.
Unmasked. Unarmoured.
Held inside your own container like it’s a place you actually want to live.

That’s what we’re working with in EMBER.
How to stay with yourself… in your own heat.
A temperature that feels like body warmth under blankets — calm, but utterly alive.

If that speaks to where you are right now — or where you want to be — comment EMBER and I’ll send through the program details.

There are 3 places left for fast action takers and doors close in a week.

Will you join us?

23/07/2025

You learned to make others comfortable.
To keep the peace.
To go quiet when things got tense.
To freeze just enough for the moment to pass.

That kind of sensitivity is what helped you navigate complex environments... long before you had words for what was happening.

Over time, that strategy can blur your own signals.
You stop knowing what you feel.
What you want.
What safety even feels like in your body.

That’s what we work with in EMBER.
We don’t force action or urgency.
We make room for what’s real—
and help your system reconnect with the inner wisdom it silenced to stay safe.

Resilience is not about getting through,
It's about preparing your system FOR life's challenges.
And being with yourself fully.

Comment EMBER and I'll send you information about the program.

There's just ONE fast-action taker discount place left!

Will you join us?

22/07/2025

Containers don’t last forever.
They grow as you grow.

EMBER is your next evolution.

🔥 Join the pilot now. Doors close soon!

22/07/2025

This is one of the reasons I built EMBER specifically for neurodivergent women:

Because our burnout isn’t just from too much work.
It’s not just from long hours or not enough sleep.
It goes deeper than that — all the way to the places in our systems that have been overriding for years.
The masking.
The high empathy.
The constant self-monitoring in relationships.
The way we take responsibility for other people’s feelings, and then spiral when we think we got it wrong.

Some of us burn out not just from doing too much —
but from feeling too much in a world that doesn’t make space for it.
There’s a kind of burnout that comes from emotional overwhelm.
From guilt or shame that we can’t fix.
From social ruptures or tiny moments of perceived rejection that most people would brush off — but that land in our systems like they might never be resolved.

EMBER isn’t about fixing or curing anything.
It’s about tending the fire — the energy — that’s still there, underneath all of that.
Even when it feels like it’s gone out.

Leave a🔥if you want to know more - there's just one more week to join the pilot and say goodbye to burnout!

21/07/2025

There’s a kind of burnout that comes from emotional overwhelm.
From guilt or shame that we can’t fix.
From social ruptures or tiny moments of perceived rejection that most people would brush off — but that land in our systems like they might never be resolved.

EMBER isn’t about fixing or curing anything.
It’s about tending the fire — the energy — that’s still there, underneath all of that.
Even when it feels like it’s gone out.
🔥
Message me if you want to know more.

We start in two weeks - doors closing soon!

21/07/2025

I’ve been thinking a lot about fire.
Not the out-of-control kind.
But that steady, glowing ember heat.
The kind that lasts through the night.

That’s the fire I want for myself these days — and it’s the one I want for the women I work with. Especially the ones who are neurodivergent, sensitive, quietly strong, and tired of living in cycles of push-crash-push-crash.

A few weeks ago I led a Sacred Rage workshop and what came through so clearly is how many of us have never had safe, grounded space to feel the heat that lives just under the surface.

So we avoid it. Or we explode. Or we burn out.

EMBER is the program I’ve created in response to that.

It’s not a big, flashy, hustle energy space. It’s a space for women who are trying to hold onto their fire — or trying to find it again — without setting their whole system on fire in the process.

If you're in that place, and want to know more, leave a 🔥 and I’ll send you the details.

We start soon!

13/07/2025

You learned to make others comfortable.
To keep the peace.
To go quiet when things got tense.
To freeze just enough for the moment to pass.

That kind of sensitivity is what helped you navigate complex environments—
long before you had words for what was happening.

But over time, that strategy can blur your own signals.
You stop knowing what you feel.
What you want.
What safety even feels like in your body.

That’s what we work with in EMBER.
We don’t force action or urgency.
We make room for what’s real—
and help your system reconnect with the inner wisdom it silenced to stay safe.

Resilience is not about getting through,
It's about preparing your system FOR life's challenges.
And being with yourself fully.

We start on Monday 4th August - will you join us?

There's just ONE fast-action taker discount place left!

Comment EMBER and I'll send you information about the program.

10/07/2025

It was only a thin crack on the glass—barely there.
Hardly worth your attention.
So you left it for another day.
“I’ll get to it later.”

But instead of writing a proposal, you filled out an online form for car insurance quotes.

You try to re-focus, but they call repeatedly—why can’t they get the hint?
“Just leave a message,” you shout at the phone.
You don’t have what it takes to talk today.

Other messages roll in—too many to answer in thirty seconds or less.
That NT productivity hack doesn’t work for you.

You try tackling your email instead.
But you slip down another rabbit hole, searching for the right words—
so no one misunderstands your meaning.

EMBER holds space for those moments—
when the cracks show, and keeping up feels impossible.

EMBER holds the spark inside you
that hasn’t been snuffed out—
just waiting to be rekindled.

Want to Know More?

Comment EMBER and I’ll send you the details.

There are just 15 places in this container. The first five people to sign up get an extra discount for taking early action.