Alicia Falzon Counselling and Family Therapy

11/03/2025

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We all know the importance of financial security in retirement but have you ever stopped to think about the importance of psychological retirement? Who hasn't been to a financial advisor to gain insight into how our savings will last our life? But how many of us will seek psychological therapy to map out a framework for the last third of our lives? There are many challenges and changes that come with being retired. At first, life is like a holiday in that you do basically what you want when you want and how you want. Then one day you think, 'is this all there is to life?
There is a sense of being lost and loss and grief. You begin to miss the routine, relationships, and having a purpose and identity that come with a job. Added to this is an increase in divorce, depression, and a decline in both physical and mental capacity.
The next question is how do I make my life meaningful again? This can be trial and error, experimenting, facing disappointment, and failure. If you can persevere with this you will find your purpose in the last third of your life

25/04/2023

27/12/2022

This is an image of a vine growing in rocky soil. The winemaker was telling us that the vine gets stressed during the growing process which then creates a stronger fruit. This is similar to when we endure a stressful time in our lives we come out the other end a stronger person

27/12/2022

Working on ourselves in our relationships with our family of origin and nuclear family is like putting a boulder in the stream. It slows the process of anxiety and our automatic reactivity towards others.

23/08/2022

We all know the importance of financial security in retirement but have you ever stopped to think about the importance of psychological retirement? Who hasn't been to a financial advisor to gain insight into how our savings will last our life? But how many of us will seek psychological therapy to map out a framework for the last third of our lives? There are many challenges and changes that come with being retired. At first, life is like a holiday in that you do basically what you want when you want and how you want. Then one day you think, 'is this all there is to life?
There is a sense of being lost and loss and grief. You begin to miss the routine, relationships, and having a purpose and identity that come with a job. Added to this is an increase in divorce, depression, and a decline in both physical and mental capacity.
The next question is how do I make my life meaningful again? This can be trial and error, experimenting, facing disappointment, and failure. If you can persevere with this you will find your purpose in the last third of your life

18/05/2022

18/05/2022

'Systems therapy cannot remake that which nature created, but
through learning how the organism operates, controlling
anxiety, and learning to better adapt to the fortunes and
misfortunes of life, it can give nature a better chance.'
(MB, 1978,410)
For example, when a family is rocked by the aging of loved ones
or death in the family, patterns of reaction are more intense
than usual and more visible. However, if one person can
manage themselves just that little bit better, this then set in
motion a process whereby others are able to be more
thoughtful and less reactive.

10/09/2020

Relationships can be complex

10/09/2020

Something to think about