12/04/2026
In life, sometimes the bruises and scars are unavoidable. It all depends what type of bruises and scars they are, and how you came to obtain them.
Obviously when scars and bruises are caused by violence, that is not OK. That is not acceptable and there is no place for violence, or domestic violence against anyone, male, or female.
Some scars and bruises are not physical and can leave deep wounds too.
Emotional trauma, and impact that these scars cause can be very long standing and people, will need the help of a professional to deal with them. Sometimes these scares and bruises are worse than the physical ones.
Other bruises and scars are needed to help a persons pain, or health, or maybe even keep them alive. After my 8th surgery some years ago, for a long standing health issue, and also having neurosurgery to remove a tumour from inside my spinal column last year, I know this all too well. I also see it with my patients and explain the value of surgery daily, and the value of the scars this leaves behind.
We all have various scars and bruises we carry around in life. It all depends how you view those scars and bruises, and what you do to help those scars and bruises heal. All scars and bruises need helping and healing, and loving care.
Scars and bruises can also be a reminder of where we have been, and how far we have come. They can be the greatest teacher and also a great motivator for self, and to help others.
Some scars and bruises are bad, some are not. As I mentioned early on, it really depends on how they got there.
It is also about learning to love the scars and bruises we all receive, as they are now part of who we are, and the lessons they provide, or the gift that some are too. It is all about perception.
There is always someone enduring things in life worse than we are. Everyone has a story and many are fighting a battle that we do not know, nor can we comprehend.
This is why we need to show love and care to all. We have all had scars and been through battles, and we need to remember this.
If our lifetime, maybe it isn't about avoiding the bruises.
Maybe it is about collecting the scars to show that we showed up for it.