Sarah Moss - Tools for Life

10/06/2021

Are you feeling constantly worn out?

Do you sit on the lounge while you have heaps to do, but it all seems too hard?

In your mind, do you go through all the steps of a simple task, feel overwhelmed and then procrastinate instead of just doing it? Then, you beat yourself up for not getting enough done?

Sound familiar?

If you tick more than 4 of these items in this list, chances are you are tired/fatigued/exhausted:

Fall asleep in front of TV

Can not function without coffee,

extra snacking (usually sugar or carbs)

Your limbs feel like they weight a tonne

You have dark circles under your eyes

You couldn’t be “bothered”

Headaches

Moodiness

Easily irritated

Muscle weakness

Dizziness

Procrastination

Ability to watch mindless “rubbish” on TV for too long

Can’t read more than a couple of pages of a book

Difficulty focusing

(There are only half the list)

Let me help you work out what is at the bottom of that fatigue?

Some things it could be:

Too much stress

Heavy metals

Not nourishing yourself properly

Not exercising

Not sleeping

Emotional baggage

Babies

Snoring partner

Mind won’t stop

Inflammation

Poor relationships (friends, colleagues, partners)

Adrenal fatigue

Past trauma(s)

I would love to help you work out what is causing your fatigue so we can find the most efficient and very effective way of getting you back to where you want to be in your life.

Check out my 3 Hacks to Take You From Survive to Thrive to get you started.

https://toolsforlife.groovepages.com/tflsm/

04/06/2021

Are you Listening to yourself? Are you answering with what you really need?

So tell me, what you are you doing this weekend that answers what you need right now?

Since it's Friday, let's make it fun. Tell me in a GIF.

And don't forget - something is coming next week - watch this space.

01/06/2021

Active Listening is a technique of listening that is REALLY important in any relationship.

It requires the listener to fully concentrate, understand, respond and then remember what is being said.

Imagine if we actually listened to each other instead of composing a smart (and usually defensive) response while the other person is still talking. How much better would our relationships be?

Counsellors and Psychologists use this and you will often hear them saying, “so, from you have said, what I am hearing is that you are frustrated that your partner keeps leaving his dirty socks on the bathroom floor and that you are feeling disrespected and unloved”.

It is amazing what we will actually hear if we add this step to our conversations. Obviously we do not need to do this every time someone speaks, but it is very helpful when we are really trying to express how we are feeling.

Until we get better at communicating, we will bumble around and not be able to find the right words to really express ourselves, but it is interesting how quickly this improves with practice.

When you realise that your anger is the result of something else, the communication becomes much clearer.

You would be surprised, but it is also amazing how much better a relationship between a parent and a teen can be if the teen feels heard, validated and understood. Everyone should feel validated.

For example if a 5 year old is told that her ponytail is crooked, this could be as stressful to her as an adult finding out that someone has lied to them or cheated on them. Be very careful not say “Oh, for God’s sake, it’s a bloody pony tail, toughen up”.

What if we really heard that child and gave them the tools to empower themselves to stand up for themselves?

We all have that friend that is only interested in talking about themselves. You may have something big going on in your life (for example a sick pet) and you start to tell them and they say “Oh, that’s nothing, we had 12 dogs die last year” and on and on they go and make it all about them.

This can be very annoying, so don’t be one of those people.

If you start to use the art of Active Listening, this will ensure you are not one of these people!!


Over that past few weeks I've been sharing some really common issues that can have a huge impact on our lives. If you've been wanting to work with me to get to the bottom of these things, either send me a DM or keep watching this space for opportunities coming up.

28/05/2021

What is already good in your life?

Let me know

25/05/2021

25/05/2021

Some people call it the Law of Attraction, Like Attracts Like or Art of Allowing. It doesn’t seem to matter what you call it, but what happens is that what you put out is what you get back.

Have you ever noticed that if you are really cranky, things just keep going wrong? You get all the red lights, someone will cut you off etc etc.

However, if you are feeling happy, these things don’t happen as much. Maybe they do but being in a better frame of mind doesn’t upset you nearly as much. When this is happening, this is our cue to choose to slow down, take a few deep breaths, realise we don’t need to go to our default behaviour, take control of ourselves back and feel less stressed and like a better human.

So, I often ask my clients what they have “written on their forehead”. If you have “doormat” written on your forehead, guess how everyone is going to treat you. Yep, you guessed it, they will “wipe their feet on you”. This is how you are subtly asking people to treat you.

If you have “I’m not worthy” written on your forehead, it is pretty unlikely that you are going to find a partner that treats you really, really well. Of course, it is more complicated that this and has a lot more layers, but you get the idea.

Manifesting. This is a bit of a buzz word at the moment and I think it has to be used with caution. I fully believe that you can manifest a good car park. If you don’t get the perfect car park, maybe you need to ask yourself if you are in the right shopping centre, are you too rushed, is your mindset where it needs to be?

I do not believe that you can be unemployed, have no money in the bank and manifest a brand new Mercedes in your garage. I think you are going to soon be very disappointed when you rush out to the garage every morning to find your push bike is the only vehicle in the garage.

I do however believe that with planning, goal setting and hard work, there is no reason to not believe that one day there will be your dream car in the garage. I am also guessing that you will have driven it there yourself after signing the paperwork and handing over the dollars.

I also believe that if we try to force things too much, they are not the right path for us.

Have you ever noticed that when you decide to go on a trip and the flights, accommodation and other people travelling just don’t flow. I believe that it is a good idea to listen to these signs too.

What do you need to listen to?

21/05/2021

New Podcast

Last week - amongst the massive move - I was interviewed on a podcast about beliefs and how they show up and where they come from.

I've posted it in the Sarah Moss - Tools for Life Group. Come on over and check it out. You might just learn a bit about me too.

Happy Friday - What are you doing this weekend - just for you. Drop me a GIF

18/05/2021

FOOD 🍎🥦🍉🥑🥗🍤🍫

Food is hugely important. You can’t expect a Porsche to run on dirty fuel can you? Well, our bodies are not different….

“We are what we eat” – how often have you heard this?? I think it’s pretty true.

We are all different, and depends on what has been happening in our body, sometimes we may need to change our eating regime. Sometimes the changes need to be short-term and sometimes they need to be long-term.

What impacts what you need to eat?

If you have inflammation in your body;

If your gut “isn’t right”

If you have been stressed

If you want to burn fat

If you want to gain fat

If you are pushing yourself physically

If you’re having trouble sleeping

If you have rashes on your skin

If some foods make you bloated

If you have different religious beliefs

If you have different ethical beliefs

What is your heritage?

Where do you live and what is available?

How much time do you have to prepare food?

Do you crave sweet or salty?

Medications you may be taking

How do I know what is right for me?

This is where Kinesiology is really useful. We can muscle test what you need to be eating now, how your gut health is now. And Yes. This can be done over Zoom. DM me if you want more info.

What's your favorite food??

13/05/2021

How do we know if we are stressed?

Some symptoms of long-term stress can include the following and can even cause dis-ease (or disease):

Dizziness or a general feeling of "being out of it."

General aches and pains in the body;

Grinding teeth, clenched jaw;

Headaches;

Couldn’t be bothered;

Everything is a chore;

Indigestion or heartburn;

Antisocial behavior – couldn’t be bothered going out

Changes in appetite which can lead to weight gain or weight loss;

Muscle tension in neck, face shoulders or lower back;

Problems with sleeping, either going to sleep or staying asleep;

Sweating;

Feeling tired or exhausted;

Feeling anxious, depressed or not able to relax;

Upset stomach, constipation or diarrhoea;

Sexual difficulties;

Elevated blood pressure;

Substance abuse;

Problems with communication and relationships;

Just feeling yuck;

Poor self talk;

Problems winding down;

Craving carbs or sugar;

You have a shorter fuse than you would like;

People annoy you too easily;

You snap too quickly;

You cry a lot;

Chances are if you are living in todays world, you will have some level of stress. We have so much stimulation in our lives now that it is a real challenge not to be stressed. The trick is how do we manage stress?

What are your signs of stress?

11/05/2021

What really is stress????????

Stress is the body’s way of handling change. Stress alters chemical reactions in the body in response to these changes.


Stress is not always negative. Stress can ensure our safety by keeping us safe. For example, if you are walking around at night in summer, it may be best for us if we are alert to snakes (a small amount of stress). By being alert, we may be able to prevent being bitten when our fight or flight response is activated. Fight or flight is supposed to be a short-term thing and one that our clever bodies can recover from provided they are given the time and nurturing to do this.


However, long term stress causes long-term negative effects on our system. Stress from work, home, relationships etc causes chemical reactions in our body over a prolonged period that can lead to problems with our health as it causes too much wear and tear on the body physically, chemically and emotionally.

In the next couple of days, I'll come back with more information on how you can tell if you're stressed. There might be a few signs that you haven't thought about.

If you want to know more or you want to find out how you can get your stress under control, book in a quick chat with me here.

https://go.oncehub.com/SarahMossBecause
Because no one needs to feel all that stress