Byron Bay Counselling and Psychology

22/05/2024

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To create healthy connection you must show up with authenticity in relationships which begins with emotional safety.

20/01/2022

An award-winning video that in one and a half minutes describes love , loss and gratitude in the words of the legendary poet, Hafez

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09/11/2021

In families, it can be all too easy to take each other for granted. He's a simple ritual to show appreciation and reinvigorate warmth in your closest relationships. And one more thing to remember we are all kids at heart.

Fondness and admiration can help you bond and connect with your child through their most challenging ages. Learn how.

19/06/2021

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31/03/2020

In these challenging times, a liitle bit of anxiety goes a long way to keeping us and our loved ones safe, It is natural to feel apprehensive when the future is so uncertain.
But sometimes what we imagine might happen is exaggerated and unhelpful. How do we regain perspective? This little video on resilience can help.

The route to greater resilience is to explore how well we would cope if so much of what we think we need were to be taken away from us. We would, almost cert...

18/01/2020

“ If a person’s behavior doesn’t make sense to you, it is because you are missing a part of their context. It’s really helpful to respond to a person’s ineffective behavior with curiosity rather than judgment”

Psychological research is clear: when people procrastinate, there's usually a good reason

30/12/2019

He makes it look simple. Perhaps it is. I recall an iconic book: ‘When I Say No I Feel Guilty’ which was all about assertiveness. These days we are more likely to refer to assertiveness skills as resilience. It takes plenty of resilience and self-confidence to pull this one off.

03/03/2019

Knowing thyself

Everyone is entitled to their own point of view, but here's why yours is probably wrong.

09/11/2018

More pearls from the School of Life:

We're often not very good at perceiving what motives happen to be involved in the incidents that hurt us.
We are easily wildly mistaken and jump to unnecessary conclusions. We see intention where there was none and escalate and confront when no strenuous or agitated responses are warranted.

Part of the reason for this is a rather poignant psychological phenomenon: self-contempt. It’s natural to see meanness everywhere when we see ourselves as fitting targets for insult.

A novel idea is, in times of conflict, is to treat the other person as if they were a young child. We are more ready to forgive small children because we don’t assign negative motives or mean intentions to them.

It’s very touching that we live in a world where we have learnt to be so kind to children: it would be even kinder if we learnt to be a little more generous towards the childlike parts of one another.

06/10/2018

Depending on earlier experiences from childhood or adolescence, we adopt an attachment style that influences our relationships now and into the future. They are not set in stone. The challenge is to recognise and overcome self-limiting behaviours and replace anxious or avoidant attachment with a more secure, trusting and warm style.

Attachment theory refers to a set of ideas formulated by psychologists in the 1960s that gives us an exceptionally useful guide to how we behave in relations...

08/09/2018

We all strive to be mindful and present in the moment. Right? We rarely question the inherent benefits that flow from being in the flow.
Of course, Nirvana is always just out of reach and we needn't expect ourselves nor others to always be there.

One of the dangers of emotional life is that we find that we don't feel 'in the moment': we're at a funeral, but we don't feel sad. We're making love, but ou...