19/01/2026
People often assume that if you laugh, love well, and show up with joy, you must not have been through much as a couple
The truth?
We’ve felt the rupture.
The misunderstanding.
The moments where it would’ve been easier to shut down, blame, or walk away, especially when you throw addiction cycles into the mix.
But we didn’t build this by pretending nothing hurt.
We built it by learning how to repair instead of living in self-pity, by hours of inner work couples work with a couples counsellor and rebuilding from the foundations up and being so brutally honest with each other
By taking responsibility instead of clinging to a victim identity.
By choosing growth when our nervous systems wanted protection. We are still learning, unlearning, and choosing joy, and each other 🫶🏽
Yesterday I had something happen that really activated me outside of our relationship, I was able to feel protected, loved supported by my husband, this may seem like a given but when that has been ruptured and that learning to co-regulated again and trust the support in repair work it’s bloody hard and yesterday we did it, fruits of the really hard labour, this is my story my lived experience, not intended for couples counselling teaching
And if this triggers you, that’s okay.
It might be showing you what’s possible when healing becomes a practice not a personality
Save this if your choosing growth in your relationships even when it’s uncomfortable
The wild ride of relational healing, the mirror, the other
(And certainly not the case in DV circumstances, this is our story not couples counselling teachings)
