17/12/2025
I see this a lot in my work.
Women who are functioning.
Holding families together.
Working, parenting, moving their bodies, doing the inner work.
Not burnt out… just quietly empty in one very specific place.
One of my clients (shared with permission) said something that stopped me in my tracks:
“I didn’t realise how little affection I’d been receiving until it started coming back.”
She wasn’t asking her partner to change.
She wasn’t forcing conversations or chasing reassurance.
She started working on her nervous system — on safety, self-connection, and releasing what she’d been holding in her body.
And something shifted.
Not overnight.
Not magically.
But her partner’s energy softened.
There was more touch.
More warmth.
More presence.
Here’s the part that matters:
When a woman stops living in quiet survival — when her body feels safer — the relational field changes.
This isn’t about fixing men.
Or blaming trauma.
Or bypassing reality.
It’s about understanding that relationships are energetic before they are verbal.
So many women think,
“I’m fine, so why do I still feel this ache?”
Because being okay isn’t the same as being met.