Evolution of Intimacy

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Evolution of Intimacy

Ella is an Accredited Counsellor, EMDR Therapist, Internal Family Systems Therapist and Clinical Sexologist.

Ella is an Accredited Counsellor; passionate about to supporting people to live with a sense of lightness and ease, enjoying thriving friendships and intimate relationships. Ella's qualifications include Masters of Sexology, Bachelor of Behavioural Science, Diploma of Transpersonal Counselling, Cert IV in Addiction Studies, Graduate Certificate in Emotionally Focused Therapy & Certificate of Psychedelic Assisted Therapy. People find support for a range of issues including couple counselling, addictive behaviours, grief and loss, domestic violence, recovery from abusive relationships, integrating psychedelic medicine work and other general concerns.

04/02/2026

Some lovely tips to support a friend who is grieving.

From In Grief /

03/02/2026

If your partner ends up really upset with you and says they do not feel heard- the skill you need to learn is 'Validation'.

From The Secure Relationship /

02/02/2026

If you are an adult with a critical and emotionally unsafe mother- you know this all too well. Made to feel guilty and obligated to maintain a relationship with someone who continuously hurts and blames you can deeply affect mental health and wellbeing. Some of my clients work towards severing such relationships, others work on healthy boundaries and limits so that a safer relationship can continue.
Mother Wound Project /

31/01/2026

I connect with therapists from around the world through FB groups for therapists, webinars, trainings etc. Shockingly there have been some therapists who have vocally said things such as: they support ICE and that the Israeli occupation of Gaza is not genocide. Closer to home, rights of trans people to receive gender confirming healthcare is under threat- and while I haven't heard any therapists say they agree with that- it is important that as therapists, we speak up and speak out in support of minorities and people at threat of discrimination. As Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy / says so well- the very foundation of therapy is non-discrimination and principles of social justice.

30/01/2026

A natural anti-depressant and antidote to suffering is GRATITUDE. This is one of the most powerful mental / emotional states available to us as humans and it's something we can practice. If your mental health is suffering, I know it sounds cheesy and useless, but try writing down 3 things you are grateful for every..single..day and see how you feel after one month. If your relationship is in trouble.. think about 3 things you are grateful for regarding your partner every day!! Maybe once things feel a bit warmer you can start to tell them.. this practice can shift your worldview from a negativity bias (a natural evolutionary trait- our ancestors that passed on their genes were the ones that focused a lot on all possible dangers so as not to die), to one of abundance and gratefulness.

29/01/2026

An article I wrote on EMDR for Connect Magazine North Queensland a few years ago.

28/01/2026

This is why we can feel lonely even when in a crowded room. And why we can relish in time alone, fully connected to ourselves and not feel lonely at all.
(Found on Beautiful Ramblings )

27/01/2026

Your worth is inherent. Most people (who are not sociopaths) have parts of themselves that are self critical, these inner critics have a misguided yet positive intention to try and criticise you into being the best you can- so that you feel good and avoid external shaming. When all parts learn to trust your self-leadership and really embody their inherent worth, the critical parts can become cheerleaders, consultants or perhaps just take a well earned rest.

26/01/2026

Key organisations from around the world have recently met in Portugal to discuss Sexual Rights and Sexual Justice. They share priorities for 2025–2030, shaped for a world facing political backlash, conflict, humanitarian crises, widening inequality, and increasing attacks on evidence-based sexual health and rights. Read more here:
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/19317611.2025.2597854

24/01/2026

Are you guilty of 'Invisible Arguing'?
It is what happens to people who have an avoidant attachment style. They want the other person to know they are upset- but they have a lot of trouble expressing emotions when they are upset or feeling anything strongly.
Learning to speak up with kindness is so important for healthy relationships.

23/01/2026

Many people would rather ignore the trauma and challenges of their past. And if it is genuinely not impacting the present then that makes total sense.
But of course the past is usually having an impact in mysterious ways. It shows up in the ways we have learnt to adapt. We become people pleasers, over thinkers, our relationships are not as deep as we want them to be, or we feel totally fine but our partner is miserable and full of complaints.
When you are ready- I am here.

22/01/2026

All of our parts have good intentions for us (however their impact in the world is not always positive). But their methods for helping us are often in opposition with other parts in our inner world. This is struggle is what causes us suffering.

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22 Martyn Street, PARRAMATTA PARK
Cairns, QLD
4870

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+61422406260

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http://www.ellashannon.com/

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