22/07/2025
A woman who grows up in a family where her father has no voice—where he is not seen, not heard, and has no authority—carries deep wounds. When the father is emotionally or energetically absent, it sends a message to the daughter: that the masculine energy is either weak, unsafe, or unreliable.
If her father doesn’t take a stand for the family, if he doesn’t lead with strength and love, she doesn’t experience the safety and structure that a masculine presence can bring.
This creates a silent chaos inside her. She unconsciously begins to believe that she has to protect herself, provide for herself, and lead herself—because the man never did.
As she grows older, she often finds herself attracted to men who carry the same energetic absence as her father. They may be passive, indecisive, emotionally unavailable, or even silently dependent.
These men don’t lead, don’t protect, and don’t hold space. And unknowingly, she steps into the role of the protector, the decision-maker, the provider. She becomes masculine to survive.
But this is not strength—this is a wound.
This role reversal can feel like empowerment at first, but over time, it becomes deeply exhausting. Because her soul longs to rest, to trust, to soften—but she doesn't know how. She doesn’t feel safe enough to let go. Every cell in her body holds the memory of being the one who had to hold everything together.
She may run successful businesses, take care of her family, and seem fiercely independent—but inside, there is a tired little girl who just wants to be held. She wants to trust a man to lead, to protect, to create safety—but she doesn’t believe such a man exists.
This inner conflict leads to relationships where polarity is lost. There’s no emotional chemistry, no sacred dance between masculine and feminine energy. The woman becomes more of a mother or manager in the relationship, while the man becomes a passive participant. And both feel unseen.
Her masculine shield becomes her prison. She doesn’t cry easily. She doesn’t ask for help. She doesn’t soften in love. Because deep down, she fears that if she lets go, everything will fall apart—just like it did in her childhood.
This is why healing the father wound is so important. Not to blame him, but to understand the weight she’s been carrying. To grieve the absence. To feel the rage. To release the false belief that she has to become the man in her life.
Healing begins when she finally admits....I am tired of doing it all alone.” When she allows herself to feel safe in being vulnerable. When she begins to trust the healthy masculine—not only in others but also within herself.
Only then can she begin to attract a man who is rooted in his own masculinity.
A man who doesn’t shrink. A man who holds her heart with honor. A man who leads with devotion, not dominance. That’s when she can finally exhale—and return home to her feminine essence.
If this resonates deeply with you and you are ready to reclaim your softness and heal your patterns.
I invite you to a 3-month one-on-one deep healing, hands-holding coaching program where we work layer by layer on your emotional, relational, and feminine wounds.
This is sacred, slow, and supportive work.
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- Abhikesh
