Be You Psychology & Counselling

Be You Psychology & Counselling Kerry Athanasiadis
Psychologist
BSocSc(Psych), PGradDip(Psych), MPsych, MAPS

Recent NDIS changes are leaving many participants, families, and providers feeling uncertain, exhausted, and unsupported...
24/04/2026

Recent NDIS changes are leaving many participants, families, and providers feeling uncertain, exhausted, and unsupported.

For many people, NDIS funding is not optional, it is essential for safety, participation, health, and dignity. When supports are reduced or delayed, the impact is carried by individuals, families, and carers who are often already under pressure.

If you’ve been affected, it’s important to know there are formal pathways available to raise concerns, request reviews, and seek fair process. I’ve included complaint and advocacy links throughout this post that may be helpful for you or someone you know.

Speaking up matters. Understanding your rights matters.

It’s also important that advocacy around disability systems is not placed solely on people with disability. Meaningful change requires both disabled and non-disabled people to speak up, share responsibility, and engage with systems where appropriate, rather than expecting only those directly impacted to carry the burden of advocacy.

Finally, a transparency note: my son is an NDIS participant. This means my perspective here is not neutral. While I am drawing on my professional background as a psychologist, I am also speaking from lived experience as a parent navigating this system. Both of these inform my views in this post.

In my work as a psychologist, I am committed to focusing on the people behind the plans, and the importance of access to care that genuinely meets need 💜

“I just want one day off.” 💜This week I’ve been sick, exhausted, and still the only one who can feed my baby. And in tha...
24/04/2026

“I just want one day off.” 💜

This week I’ve been sick, exhausted, and still the only one who can feed my baby. And in that depleted state, I found myself sitting with the complexity of breastfeeding in a way I wanted to share with you.

Because breastfeeding can be two things at once.

It can be meaningful, bonding, and calming. Oxytocin supports connection and calm. Feeding can create moments of real closeness and attunement. For many parents (including me), it builds a sense of confidence and wellbeing.

And it can also be relentless. Hormonal, painful, depleting, isolating. It can mean vasospasm, mastitis, supply struggles, bottle refusal, broken sleep, and never getting more than a few hours away. It can mean grieving a feeding journey that didn’t go to plan.

You can love breastfeeding and still feel overwhelmed by it. You can feel grateful for the bond and still crave space, sleep, and your body back. You can value every feed and still wish for one day off.

The impact of breastfeeding on mental health isn’t fixed — it depends on how the experience feels. Supported and manageable looks very different from painful, pressured, and alone.

Parental wellbeing matters. And feeding your baby should never come at the expense of your mental health.

Save this if you needed to hear it.

Share it with a breastfeeding mother who is currently in the thick of it 💜

Fascinating stuff.
24/04/2026

Fascinating stuff.

Why autism without intellectual disability often leads to OCD and why OCD in this context is particularly brutal.

What is OCD?

OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) is an anxiety based condition where the brain gets stuck in a loop it cannot easily exit.

There are two components. Obsessions are unwanted, intrusive thoughts, images, or urges that arrive uninvited and cause significant distress. The person does not want these thoughts as they feel alien and frightening. Common themes include fear of harm (to self or others), contamination, moral wrongdoing, or catastrophic thoughts about the future.

Compulsions are the mental or physical acts performed to try to neutralise the anxiety the obsession creates. These can be visible (checking, washing, repeating actions) or entirely internal (mentally reviewing, reassuring yourself, replaying events). The compulsion brings brief relief, then the obsession returns, stronger. This is the trap.

The whole process is a loop, not a choice. The brain’s threat detection system (the amygdala) fires as if the intrusive thought represents a real danger. The person tries to neutralise it, which accidentally teaches the brain that the thought was worth treating as a threat. So it sends it again. Engaging with the thought, trying to disprove it, seeking reassurance, all of these feed the loop rather than breaking it.

This is why people with OCD cannot simply “stop thinking about it.” The harder they to push the thought away or resolve it logically, the more the brain treats it as a genuine emergency.

OCD is different from normal worry. Everyone has intrusive thoughts sometimes and research shows the content is often identical between people with and without OCD. The difference is what happens next. In OCD, the brain cannot file the thought as insignificant and move on. It gets snagged, returned to, and treated as requiring urgent action. According to Simply Psychology, OCD thoughts are ego-dystonic, which means they feel completely at odds with who the person is and what they actually believe or want.

Autism and OCD.

Autistic girls without intellectual disability are uniquely vulnerable because their cognitive ability actually works against them. Their ability to watch, learn and perform neurotypicality often means years running two systems simultaneously: their actual autistic brain, and the performance of being “fine.” Masking. To get by in an NT world.

Masking is not a choice, it’s an exhausting, full-time cognitive load that consumes the same mental resources needed for everything else. Research confirms that sustained masking creates chronic hyper vigilance. Autists constantly monitoring behaviour, anticipating judgment, pre-empting mistakes. That state never switches off. Explosive meltdowns at home are the pressure valves releasing stress in a safe place.

Research shows that OCD occurs in 17- 37% of autistic youth. This is five to six times higher than in neurotypical peers.

There are several interconnected reasons:
- Shared brain circuitry. Both autism and OCD involve dysregulation in the same brain circuits, particularly those governing repetitive thought patterns and cognitive flexibility. Research points to shared neurobiological pathways, including how serotonin systems function, which is why both conditions are implicated together.
- Autistic brains already have difficulty shifting attention, this is what clinicians call reduced cognitive flexibility. When executive function becomes overloaded (as it does catastrophically during burnout), intrusive thoughts can lock in and get stuck because the brain’s gear-shifting mechanism is already compromised. The mechanism that says “okay, move on from this thought” simply doesn’t work the way it should.
- The burnout acts as a trigger. The collapse was not just exhaustion, it is the nervous system registering a genuine threat level crisis. Environmental stressors like burnout can trigger OCD onset in individuals with underlying neurological predisposition. The trauma of the breakdown itself then becomes content for the OCD, the intrusive thoughts often centre on whether recovery is ever possible, because that is the most fear laden thing the brain can latch onto.
- and then, of course, agoraphobia can emerge. Approximately 23- 25% of autistic people experience agoraphobia compared to roughly 1.3% of the general population. When sensory environments have caused meltdowns and breakdown, the brain learns that outside equals danger. Avoidance becomes the compulsion.

Often, at this point, the intrusive thought that “life is over” takes hold and this is particularly the case in the context of burnout. The intrusive thought becomes the object of obsession, and the mental compulsion is endlessly reviewing whether it’s true, which, of course, makes it worse and feels more convincing. OCD thoughts feel alien, frightening, relentless, which is precisely why sufferers can’t just “think their way out” of it.

The most important thing autists with OCD should know: the thought that life is over is an OCD thought, not a fact. OCD targets the things we care most about surviving.

So what can recovery looks like and is the part that’s important to hold onto, even when it’s hard:
- Recovery exists, but it is slow and non-linear. It can take months to years, and setbacks during early recovery are extremely common. Autistic people feel slightly better and over-spend their energy reserves, which crashes them back. This is not failure, it is biology.
- Recovery requires structural change, not just rest. It is essential that the masking load, sensory environment, and social expectations all need to be fundamentally restructured. School or work in its current form is likely incompatible with current states, and that’s not a permanent verdict on the future.
- The OCD/intrusive thoughts respond best to therapy specifically adapted for autistic people. Standard CBT is often poorly suited and can inadvertently teach more effective masking. ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention) adapted for autistic clients is the evidence based approach, alongside therapists who understand both conditions.
- Graduating from school or university via alternative pathways, online at their own pace, later, are all helpful. The timeline is different, the outcome can be what the long term plan was.

Autists with OCD think they’ll never recover. The cruelest thing about OCD in burnout is that it makes the temporary feel permanent. But, time off school or work, time at home, unmasking and being seen is the beginning of recovery, even when it doesn’t look like it.

There’s something bittersweet about becoming.Sometimes growth feels empowering, and sometimes it feels like grief. We ou...
23/04/2026

There’s something bittersweet about becoming.

Sometimes growth feels empowering, and sometimes it feels like grief. We outgrow versions of ourselves, seasons of life, relationships, and beliefs that once felt like home. And even when the change is right, it can still hurt.

Growth isn’t always graceful, but there is something powerful about choosing to stay true to yourself through it all.

If you’re in a season of becoming too, you’re not alone.

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As an AuDHD psychologist, I know how much can change when you begin to understand your sensory needs.When you start noti...
23/04/2026

As an AuDHD psychologist, I know how much can change when you begin to understand your sensory needs.

When you start noticing what overwhelms your nervous system, what helps you feel regulated, and what your body naturally seeks out, patterns begin to emerge.

Those patterns can help you create a sensory profile, which is a simple way of understanding what drains you and what supports you.

From there, small adjustments to your environment or routine can help reduce overwhelm and make everyday life feel more manageable.

Understanding your sensory needs isn’t about “fixing” yourself. It’s about learning what helps your nervous system feel safe and supported.

Save this post for when you’re ready to explore your own sensory profile.

Guess what? Did you know we can advocate for rigorous, ethical assessment standards without undermining the legitimacy o...
21/04/2026

Guess what? Did you know we can advocate for rigorous, ethical assessment standards without undermining the legitimacy of ADHD and reinforcing stigma and ableism? 🙄

I asked AI what it has learned about human psychology, and the answer was surprisingly human.At the core of so much beha...
21/04/2026

I asked AI what it has learned about human psychology, and the answer was surprisingly human.

At the core of so much behaviour is the need for safety, connection, and understanding.

Not here to write about what happened, just sharing support options for anyone affected. Disclaimer: I am a white Greek-...
14/04/2026

Not here to write about what happened, just sharing support options for anyone affected.

Disclaimer: I am a white Greek-Australian psychologist. Not in any way personally involved, just an outsider/witness. This post is not therapy. Please seek support from a qualified professional. Comments are off to avoid any further harm being caused. Feel free to share this with anyone who needs support. I’m not personally accepting any new clients. Still currently on maternity leave. This is not my area of practice, just sharing support options for anyone who needs it.

Finding my way as a mum of two and a psychologist - slowly, compassionately, and with a full heart 🩷🫶🏻
15/11/2025

Finding my way as a mum of two and a psychologist - slowly, compassionately, and with a full heart 🩷🫶🏻











Becoming a parent for the first time is one of the biggest life changes you’ll ever go through. It’s no wonder so many p...
28/09/2025

Becoming a parent for the first time is one of the biggest life changes you’ll ever go through. It’s no wonder so many parents find their mental health harder with their first baby.

With my second baby, I’ve noticed the difference. Experience, perspective, knowing about my neurodivergence, putting supports in place early, and being kinder to myself have all helped me feel steadier this time around.

Whether you’re about to go from 0–1 or 1–2, here are some reminders:

💜 The transition is huge, and that’s normal.
💜 Confidence grows with time and experience.
💜 Supports (both practical + emotional) make all the difference.

You’re not failing, you’re adjusting. And you’re not alone!

What has your experience been like going from 0-1 or 1-2 kids? 🩷

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