This One Too

18/04/2026

Is your to-do list obscuring your ability to live meaningfully?

Let me introduce you to the Delmore Effect: the tendency to be specific about lower-priority goals, while being vague about higher-priority goals.

So named for American poet and writer Delmore Schwartz (1913-1966, pictured below) who died before completing, or even starting, some of his biggest passion projects.

When passion projects come with emotional baggage (imposter syndrome, anxiety etc.) it can be easy to push them aside for the quick and easy wins (who doesn't love a clean bathroom!?)

If you can relate to this, perhaps it's time for some kind (but honest!) self-talk. Or maybe you need to reach out for some help. These could be the first steps towards something really special. 🩷

11/04/2026

I was introduced to mindful self-compassion in 2014 during a time of immense upheaval. While not a complex idea, it felt incredibly foreign - uncomfortable even - to be kind to myself. I had been conditioned to think we live our best lives when we're striving.

But while striving for some things is vital to our wellbeing, striving for worthiness simply isn't necessary. I didn't know it then of course. I was reactive, doubtful, anxious and unable to give myself what I needed most - gentle companionship.

I still have my moments of all these things, but I am much more grounded than ever before. Striving is tempered with trust - in the timing, the process, the lesson - and most of all, myself.

Mindful self-compassion isn't a panacea. But as a regular practice, it can help us all live with more ease.

04/04/2026

Mindfulness doesn't have to mean sitting on the meditation cushion for an hour each day. It can be as simple as noticing a sensation or an external event. Using our senses helps us to move from judgement to awareness. And that's all mindfulness is - simple, unadulterated awareness.

Take some time today and notice what you can see/hear/touch/smell/taste.

28/03/2026

Our inner critic exists to protect our place in the world. To survive, we must belong to a group that will keep us safe.

However, our groups, systems and structures can and do harm us, even while they offer a place for us to belong.

For example, employment may offer stability and security, but often at the expense of adequate time for rest or caregiving commitments.

In those moments, it can be easy for our inner critic to identify all our shortcomings, including unfair comparisons.

The next time your inner critic starts noting all the things you're not doing (or doing well), offer yourself some kindness and remember that our 'success' is inextricably linked to our place in these systems and structures.

We do the best we can with what we have. And no one can ask more of us than that - not even ourselves.

08/03/2026

This International Women's Day may we find knowing what is and isn't ours to tend a little easier. ❤️

02/03/2026

Yep, inner work can feel like one step forward and 2 steps back sometimes. It's definitely worth sticking with it though, once things start to fall into place it pays huge dividends!

21/02/2026

An helpful info graphic for when we get lost in the (sometimes imagined) story. That's when we know it's time to take the elevator down from our mind into our body.

01/01/2026

Such an important distinction to make. The first option equates to amplifying and marinating in the difficult narratives and feelings.

The second actually allows us to process and move forward.

Here's to more of the latter in 2026.

19/12/2025

27/11/2025

Self-compassion is being just the right amount of hard on ourselves when we misstep. It doesn't absolve the need to take responsibility. Conversely, it doesn't promote self-flagellation.

❤️

10/09/2025

***LAST MINUTE FREEBIES - SAT 13/9***
Due to last minute cancellations, I am offering 2 free x places at adult's self-kindness workshop with sound meditation (9am-4.30pm Saturday 13 September in Holder).

More information here:

includes sound meditation provided by Sanctuary of Sound 9.00am – 4.30pm Saturday 13 September Topics Introduction to mindful self-compassion Our stress and caregiving systems Practicing lovi…