11/01/2026
As a new mum or mum-to-be, it might often feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. The endless list of tasks can feel overwhelming, can't it? From managing meals and appointments to keeping the household running smoothly while keeping your little ones happy and safe, it is easy to see how this heavy mental load can lead to burnout.
Why are mothers burning out? It's an important question we need to ask ourselves. The truth is, in many families, mothers frequently find themselves shouldering a disproportionate share of the mental and emotional labour. This unacknowledged burden not only affects our well-being but can also strain our relationships, especially with our partners. As a result, feelings of guilt, frustration, and resentment can creep in, as we push through our days without asking for help, thinking we must do it all ourselves.
Reflecting on my own journey, I remember battling with similar feelings after having three children in quick succession. I carried the guilt of wanting to stay home, while my husband worked irregular hours. My role became all-consuming, and I found it hard to ask for support, until I reached a point where I was simply burnt out.
I want you to know, if you feel this way too, it is okay. You are not alone, and it is time for a change.
So what can we do to alleviate this burden? Start by having honest conversations with your partner about the mental load you’re carrying. Talk about responsibilities, expectations, and most importantly, share your feelings—this transparency lays the groundwork for understanding and support.
Consider creating a shared system for managing tasks, so you are both aware of what’s needed throughout the week. This simple practice of communicating your needs can lighten the load significantly. Remember, it's healthy and necessary to ask for help, and it’s a sign of strength, not weakness.
As we navigate this demanding yet beautiful journey of parenthood, let's practice gentleness with ourselves. You don’t have to be perfect; you simply need to be enough.
I want to hear from you. How are you managing your mental load as a parent? Have you found effective ways to share responsibilities with your partner? Join the conversation below. You are seen, and you are enough in all your wonderful imperfection.
