Power of Change Counselling & Coaching

17/12/2025

I’ve been realising how easy it is to push past my limits without even noticing. Slowing down is becoming non-negotiable.

What’s one thing you’re doing today to put yourself first?

17/12/2025

I used to think there was something majorly wrong with me.

My reactions felt so strong and I didn’t see anyone else talking about triggers the way I experienced them.

Any time I didn’t feel loved, seen, or safe, I would shut down.
I’d shrivel up, go numb, disappear inside myself.

At the time, I didn’t know it was a coping mechanism.
I just thought that’s who I was.

That strategy started in childhood…
then followed me into adulthood…
and into my 30-year relationship /marriage.

I did start trying to heal while I was still in my marriage, and honestly, it wasn’t easy.

What I’ve come to understand since is that the nervous system doesn’t care about time.
It reacts in the present as if the past is still happening.

I talked about this on the Bay FM 100.3 today because Christmas can be incredibly triggering.

People go from 0 to 100 in anger, or they want to get out of there, or they do what I did — numb down and shut off.

So what do you do when you realise you’ve been triggered?

You pause.
You breathe.
You notice what’s happening instead of judging it.

That moment of awareness is everything.

I share this in the hope that someone hears it and realises:
It’s not that something is wrong with you.
It’s that your nervous system learnt how to survive.

And what was learnt… can be healed.

Big thank you to Georgia Phillips for such a important conversation today 🙏

16/12/2025

I’ve just written something close to my heart about why our words can disconnect us - and how they can bring us back together.

If this speaks to you, I’d love you to read the full piece below.

Communication in relationships isn’t really about words — it’s about the emotional place those words come from. When we are activated, wounded or

15/12/2025

My body used to react strongly to the holidays - a nervous system memory linked to childhood unpredictability. That old fear fades, but the pattern remains until addressed. The good news is, this is a pattern we can heal.

15/12/2025

Let’s be honest…
Christmas can be a beautiful time — and it can also be incredibly difficult.

Bringing family together, juggling expectations, old dynamics resurfacing…
It can put a lot of pressure on a relationship.

And if things are already feeling strained, this season can make it even harder.

That’s why now — more than ever — it’s important to slow down and reconnect emotionally.
Not to fix everything.
Not to have the perfect conversation.
But to remember you’re on the same team.

A pause.
A breath.
A moment of presence.

If you’re feeling the pressure and would like some support before Christmas, you can book a session here:
👉 https://power-of-change-counselling-and-coaching.simplecliniconline.com/diary

You don’t have to navigate this season alone. 💛

12/12/2025

For a short time, you can book my Online 3-Hour Reset Couples Counselling / Coaching Session for $497 - down from $870.

That’s a massive saving and an extra hour completely free to go deeper, breathe, reconnect and really work on what matters.

Book an online session with me on my website: powerofchange.com.au

11/12/2025

Your sense of purpose shapes how you show up in your relationship. Do you agree?

09/12/2025

When a trigger shows up, things can escalate quickly. This reel shares a gentle way to steady yourself and break the spiral before it takes over. 💛

08/12/2025

I work with so many people who think their low desire is a personal flaw… until they realise it’s actually the weight they’re carrying. The exhaustion. The emotional distance. The resentment they’ve tucked away.

If that feels familiar, I’d love to support you. Let’s explore what’s really going on together -powerofchange.com.au.

07/12/2025

Different values don’t have to pull you apart - they can actually deepen your connection when you understand how to work with them. Do you agree?

06/12/2025

Letting go isn’t always easy, but it can open the door to a softer, lighter year ahead. I wrote this piece as a reminder that we don’t have to carry yesterday’s weight into tomorrow.

If you’re ready for a fresh start in 2026, this might speak to you.

A December Wake-Up Call for Emotional Balance, Self-Growth & Inner Wealth. December has a way of showing you everything you’ve been tolerating. The

05/12/2025

I’ve learnt that the present moment tells you everything you need to know. No more holding on to “what could be.” Just seeing people clearly, as they are, right now.