20/01/2026
Alot of men think intimacy means s*x.
And I get it… that’s often how men feel close.
But for most women?
Intimacy begins long before you get anywhere near the bedroom.
Because for a woman, intimacy isn’t something you “do”…
It’s something she feels.
When she feels safe with you — emotionally safe — her whole system softens.
Her nervous system relaxes.
And then closeness opens.
But when she doesn’t feel safe?
When she feels dismissed…
rushed…
criticised…
unseen…
or emotionally alone…
Her body shuts down.
Not because she’s difficult.
Not because she “doesn’t love you.”
But because her body is doing exactly what it’s designed to do:
protect her.
For most women, intimacy looks like:
• being listened to without being corrected
• being held emotionally, not analysed
• having her feelings treated as real (not “overreacting”)
• knowing her vulnerability won’t be thrown back in her face
• consistency… not charm followed by distance
So no — intimacy isn’t s*x.
S*x is usually what happens after intimacy.
It’s the fruit, not the root.
And when a woman feels emotionally connected, respected, and genuinely considered…
she doesn’t need pressure.
She doesn’t need convincing.
She opens — because she feels safe to.
