Petra Samlow Wellness

19/01/2026

You and your partner may have different responses during the same conflict. Perhaps you are fearful of raised voices, as during childhood this meant harm. On the other hand, raised voices and disagreement may have been a normal, daily occurrence during your partner’s childhood. Hence, during a disagreement, you may be fearful of harm, while your partners sees this as a normal part of life with no harm intended.
Full video is on my YouTube channel.

18/01/2026

You learn how to respond to relationships in your childhood by how your caregivers respond to your needs or to situations. What you learn as a child then affects how to respond to people or situations in adulthood. Especially when you are around the people who you love most.
Full video is on my channel.

17/01/2026

Relationships don’t struggle because people don’t care.
They struggle because old patterns get activated under stress.

Couples therapy isn’t about deciding who’s right or wrong.
It’s about understanding what’s happening beneath the conflict, the unmet needs, protective responses, and emotional histories each partner brings into the relationship.

At World of Wealth and Wellness Therapy & RTT, I work with couples who want to:
Communicate more clearly
Feel emotionally safe again
Break repeating cycles
Reconnect with understanding and compassion

If you and your partner feel stuck, distant, or caught in the same arguments, support can help you find your way back to one another.

Book your couples session with Petra
In person (Caringbah) or online
Sometimes, turning toward the relationship, together, is the most powerful step.

15/01/2026

If you had a harmful childhood, one caregiver’s harm may be obvious. However, possibly the other caregiver may have also caused harm; by minimising your feelings, by allowing harm to continue. It may only be during adulthood where you can see this. Because as a child you needed one of your parents to be good. You needed someone who you could feel safe with, you needed someone who would care for you. It is very painful then to see that the “good” parent may also have also caused you harm. Full video is on my YouTube channel.

14/01/2026

I've uploaded a new video on my YouTube channel, Petra Samlow Wellness. It explores self-doubt and its links back to childhood. Take a look!

12/01/2026

Denial is used by the brain as a defence mechanism to protect itself from anxiety or from overwhelm. As adults we may continue to use this as a defence mechanism as it is what we learnt to do in childhood. This is part 3 of posts about denial. Full video is available on You Tube.

11/01/2026

Choosing survival over truth.

Children are dependant on their caregivers, so if there is abuse or neglect, the child may suspend judgement in order to preserve attachment in order to survive.
Full video is available on You Tube.

11/01/2026

Healthy denial is where the mind delays the true meaning of an event or situation, until it is safe to process it.
For example, if a child is in a really bad domestic situation, it may tell itself that things aren’t too bad. The reason for this is survival. It is more important to survive than to fully accept he situation. It may not then be until adulthood, where the person is safe and stable, that the person can fully understand and accept the situation that they were in as a child.
Even as an adult we may live in denial sometimes, we may do this if we are unable to cope with the situation that we are in.
Full video is on my YouTube channel: search for Petra Samlow on YouTube.

09/01/2026

Some truths don’t arrive when they happen. They arrive when we’re finally safe enough to receive them.
Denial is not the absence of truth, but the postponement of meaning.
Denial often forms in childhood to preserve attachment and safety. As an adult we sometimes still use denial as a tool for survival when a truth could be too hard to deal with at the time.
It’s the difference between REMEMBERING events and UNDERSTANDING what they MEANT.
Full video is on my YouTube channel: search for Petra Samlow on YouTube.

07/01/2026

My full videos are on my YouTube Channel; Petra Samlow Wellness.

39 likes, 4 comments. “The reason that you keep falling in love with someone inappropriate may be traced backed to your childhood. You may fall for someone similar to a person who you grew up with, even though may not have been that good for you. As an adult, you tend to be attracted to people wit...

07/01/2026

If you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners, this can be linked back to your childhood. We tend to choose what is familiar. If one or both of your parents were emotionally unavailable, we subconsciously associate this with love and caring. As an adult, if someone exhibits these characteristics, this feels familiar and are associated with the “love and caring” that we had as children. The good news is, that once you are aware of this, you can then consciously choose partners who are actually good for you, not just familiar.

06/01/2026

https://youtu.be/3u6c1cNbCiw?si=2G4brRjs26FzhOVT
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Some truths don’t arrive when they happen.They arrive when we’re finally safe enough to receive them.In this video, I explore why awareness often comes later...