ST Psychological Services

29/08/2025

Does your child push you away when they need you most? 'Go away' often means 'stay close' - it's their way of maintaining connection through attachment.

16/08/2025

A new study confirms what many parents already know: singing soothes babies.
But it’s not about perfect pitch—it’s about connection.

In the study, parents weren’t told to sing—but they did, instinctively. And it worked. Their babies calmed. Over time, they settled more easily. This is what Circle of Security Parenting calls Parental Wisdom: that deep, intuitive drive to comfort and connect.

When it feels hard to access that wisdom, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human—and you’re not alone. At COSP, we don’t expect perfection. We help parents reconnect with the part of themselves that wants to show up, even when they’re unsure how.

Your baby doesn’t need a lullaby in tune.
They need you.

15/06/2025

Self-sufficiency is a myth, from birth to old age, our capacity to act with some sense of autonomy is directly related to our capacity for connectedness. The goal isn't independence, the goal is interdependence. The Circle of Security.

07/03/2025

Danish schools teach empathy as a dedicated subject, known as “Klassen Tid” (Class Time), from ages 6 to 16. During these lessons, students discuss their emotions, personal struggles, and group dynamics in a safe and supportive environment. Teachers guide the conversations, helping students develop emotional intelligence, active listening skills, and conflict resolution strategies.

The goal is to foster cooperation, understanding, and social harmony—values deeply ingrained in Danish culture. Research suggests that teaching empathy can lead to higher emotional resilience, stronger relationships, and even improved academic performance.

If more countries implemented similar programs, it could cultivate more compassionate societies, equipping children with the emotional tools to navigate life with kindness and understanding.

04/03/2025

The issue (with children, romantic partners, friends) isn't so much "getting it right" but rather being committed to making Repairs, especially after we've missed the mark with a Rupture. No blame, no problem. Just the ongoing commitment to keep finding the real connection. And again, and again; minute to minute, day to day.

06/02/2025

Restricting is a key trigger to bingeing.

Should schools send food home?

22/01/2025

We tell parents that their role in Hands on the Circle is to be: Bigger, Stronger, Wiser, and Kind. Every moment with your child is an opportunity to make the delicate shift between Following a Need and Taking Charge.

Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper, Bert Powell, and Christine Benton
Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child's Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore. Guilford Press, 2017.

24/12/2024

Merry Christmas everyone!

Happy to those who celebrate! 🎄⛄️⁠
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After you've had your own evening snack tonight, remember to leave a plate out for and his too! The is for 😁⁠
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14/11/2024

“Mindful Underparenting”! I like it!

The case for “mindful underparenting.”

17/10/2024

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Increase the psychology 10-session Medicare cap

10/10/2024

You don’t have to be a perfect parent, just be a good enough one.

Perfection is impossible in parenting. In fact, it isn’t even recommended. A child who knows that everyone in the family makes mistakes, and that mistakes will eventually be worked out, will feel more secure than a child who thinks everything has to be right the first time.

28/08/2024

From an ex-patient who’s about to begin the next chapter of her life. So good to hear that she has been doing well over the past year🙂