05/04/2025
Some reflections turning 32 today:
Over the last couple years I've 'felt' like a man more so than any other time in my life. Even when I was 25, I still felt 'boyish' inside. But now? Inside, I feel different - a groundedness that I'm only starting to develop and nurture. Here are some thoughts that emanate from that place. It has served me well in the last two years and I hope it serves you too.
1. Responsibility to Community - I always 'knew' theoretically that I should be helping the community in some way. But it wasn't until I 'felt' in my heart that this is my grounding purpose that I was able to pursue this goal with drive. I feel a sense of responsibility to my family, friends and the greater community to be someone of assistance. I don't just 'think' this, I truly feel it now embodied in my heart.
2. Limitation is the Pathway to Freedom - As a boy, I felt that I could do it all. I could become the best weightlifter in Australia, run multiple successful businesses, have a great social life... But the more I pursued these ideas, the more I realised that I could only ever get 'okay' at all these things, and not 'the best.' So I became trapped by my ideas. It's only by accepting my limits, that I feel free.
3. Sacrifice is Necessary - The boy must die for the man to appear. I have a deeper understanding of what 'sacrifice' actually means. I used to think that sacrifice was a negative thing. But now I don't see it that way. I think sacrifice is a necessary part of my existence that forces me to think deeply about how I want to spend my time.
4. Letting my Gifts Guide Me - I've been born with a special set of skills that I've nurtured throughout my life, and these aren't 'technical' skills per se, but transferable skills that stick out everywhere I go. For me, it's articulation, speaking and breaking concepts down. Whether it's health, communication or sales - the people I help always say 'you make it sound so simple.' I don't 'try' that hard to do this, it just happens. And that's why I know it's my gift. Understand yours. Let it guide you.