Barna Counselling & Consulting

Barna Counselling & Consulting Psychotherapy & Counselling practice in the Sth East suburbs of Melbourne & AUS-wide via Telehealth.

Since 2016 , I’ve kept a log of the books I’ve read. Looking back at it, I can see over 300 books on the list. And I fee...
07/08/2025

Since 2016 , I’ve kept a log of the books I’ve read. Looking back at it, I can see over 300 books on the list.

And I feel dumber than ever…

It’s weird that the more I learn the more I realise how much I don’t know.

“As the island of knowledge increases, so too does the shoreline of ignorance.”

That quote has never been truer than now…

Most people don’t realise they’re practising how to feel.The moment you replay the argument in your head? The self-judge...
12/06/2025

Most people don’t realise they’re practising how to feel.

The moment you replay the argument in your head? The self-judgement you slip into at night? That imaginary scenario where all goes devilish?

You’re training your brain to feel that way again. Your emotions aren’t just reactions but rehearsals.

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Some books hit harder the older you get.‘On the Shortness of Life’ by Seneca is one of them.I started reading this when ...
09/06/2025

Some books hit harder the older you get.
‘On the Shortness of Life’ by Seneca is one of them.

I started reading this when my cousin, someone I grew up with and liked a lot, died. He was in his early thirties. Sudden. Heartbreaking.

Seneca’s stoicism has no fluff in it whatsoever. Unlike Marcus Aurelius’s ‘Meditations’ which was written for himself, Seneca wrote for others.

He wastes no time.

It reads like it was written yesterday, not 2,000 years ago. You’ll want a pen. A drink. And a minute to sit in silence before, during, and after.

Here are a few quotes that stuck:

“You are living as if destined to live for ever; your own frailty never occurs to you; you don’t notice how much time has already passed, but squander it as though you have a full and overflowing supply – though all the while that very day which you are devoting to somebody or something may be your last.”

“How late is it to begin really to live just when life must end!”

“… unproductive idleness nurtures malice, and because they themselves could not prosper they want everyone else to be ruined.”

“The performer must always be stronger than his task: loads that are too heavy for the bearer are bound to overwhelm him.”

“You must set your hands to tasks which you can finish or at least hope to finish, and avoid those which get bigger as you proceed and do not cease where you had intended.”

It’s a short book that leaves a long echo. Read it. Let it bother you. Then go live better.

Big interview or job application coming up?Here’s a neuroscience-backed tip:Schedule it for a sunny morning (a sunny day...
07/06/2025

Big interview or job application coming up?

Here’s a neuroscience-backed tip:
Schedule it for a sunny morning (a sunny day also works as opposed to a dreary one) or just after lunch.

Why? Because people, no matter who, are affected by light and blood sugar and their mood.

Research shows:
– Interviewers are more favourable under these conditions
– Even judges grant more parole after lunch

It’s not just about your performance but also when you’re being evaluated. Timing matters more than you think.

(Source: Lisa Feldman Barrett, How Emotions Are Made)

If you don’t have an option, whatever you gotta do is inevitable. And if it’s inevitable you might as well enjoy it.Go t...
07/06/2025

If you don’t have an option, whatever you gotta do is inevitable. And if it’s inevitable you might as well enjoy it.

Go to work. Do your homework. Go to the gym. Clean up the dog sh*t.

Whatever it is—If you gotta do it, don’t b*tch about it, do it with a happy face.

“If everybody only did what they love to do, a lot more of us would be unemployed,” Matt McConaughey’s brother would say.

There's so many things in life that we have to do that we don't want to do. So, if we can't always do what we like to do, let's at least try and enjoy—what we have to do.

Why?

​ helps you deal with difficult situations and keep cheerful in the tough times. screw your over sometimes.

​Those who accept their negative mental experiences experience better psychological health as they do not react to all stressors, avoiding making the situation worse.

(Sources: Matthew McConaughey’s Lyrics of Livin’ newsletter, Brett Q. Ford (et al.’s) ‘The Psychological Health Benefits of Accepting Negative Emotions and Thoughts’)

PTSD isn’t just a bad memory—it’s a full-body (& brain) survival response, on repeat.People with PTSD feel like they’re ...
30/05/2025

PTSD isn’t just a bad memory—it’s a full-body (& brain) survival response, on repeat.

People with PTSD feel like they’re reliving the past right now, even when they’re safe.

Here’s what's not always understood...

Flashbacks aren’t always visual—they can be physical. “Avoidance” isn’t weakness; it’s protection. The brain literally shuts down speech when you're in threat.

This post walks you through:

Core symptoms.
What’s happening in the brain..
Evidence-based treatments that actually help...

(Info drawn from the integrative trauma therapy work we do at Barna Counselling & Consulting.)

👉 Slide through to learn more.

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If you’re on LinkedIn, check out my content. I’m much more active there than Facebook, and post about all sorts of thera...
20/05/2025

If you’re on LinkedIn, check out my content. I’m much more active there than Facebook, and post about all sorts of therapy related stuff.

If that’s your gig, follow me there on https://www.linkedin.com/in/emilbarna

Wondering about   or  ? Here's my stab at explaining... Let me know what you think. What would you include? What would y...
20/05/2025

Wondering about or ? Here's my stab at explaining...

Let me know what you think.

What would you include? What would you disagree with?

Why?

U.S. Navy SEALs use this technique (also called Square or Box Breathing) to stay calm and focused during high-stakes ope...
20/05/2025

U.S. Navy SEALs use this technique (also called Square or Box Breathing) to stay calm and focused during high-stakes operations.

Like other deliberate breathing interventions, this one helps regulate the amygdala, activates the prefrontal cortex to help you focus and make good decisions under pressure, balances out your autonomic nervous system (shifting from fight-flight or freeze dominance to a relaxed rest-and-digest dominance), modulates vagal tone, and increases heart rate variability.

In my clinical practice, I’ve seen it reduce people’s breathing rate from over 40 breaths/minute to about four in as little as 1-2 minutes.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeL5kzesDVs

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U.S. Navy SEALs use this technique (also called Square or Box Breathing) to stay calm and focused during high-stakes operations. Like other deliberate breath...

I get a rush of adrenaline and look for what's happening around me. My body tends to be drawn to (physical) danger and I...
15/05/2025

I get a rush of adrenaline and look for what's happening around me. My body tends to be drawn to (physical) danger and I run towards it when there's a loud noise or knock or scrape.

It happens by instinct.

And it's not always the best go...

What's your reaction?

Credit: from my recent book on techniques.

Sometimes people go to therapy. Things aren't as good as they can be in life ... so they're recommended somebody, or fin...
15/05/2025

Sometimes people go to therapy.

Things aren't as good as they can be in life ... so they're recommended somebody, or find someone online, and they go with it.

Thing is, they might not understand what the therapist is doing or even what therapy is involved or if it's effective at all.

This infographic lets you know what I use in treatment. There are more, but this is enough for now.

What works for you?

If you're a therapist (or person who wants to understand what's going on inside), check out this infographic—it focuses ...
12/05/2025

If you're a therapist (or person who wants to understand what's going on inside), check out this infographic—it focuses on 'hybrid states.'

For more, check out my blog which introduces the topic and includes a copy of the graphic.

https://barnacc.com/hybridstates

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