Neurokinnection

01/09/2025

Honey… I shrunk my libido Webinar: For Autistic and ADHD Women & Gender Diverse Folk looking to explore their hormonal shifts, libido changes across the lifespan.

If you’ve ever wondered why your s*x drive sometimes feels like it packed up and went on holiday without you, this one’s for you.
Autistic and ADHD brains and bodies experience s*xual intimacy a little differently, so I have made a community webinar for supporting us through some life changes (esp peri and post-menopausal humans!):
•⁠ ⁠It is Autistic ADHD led
•⁠ ⁠⁠It is considerate to touch, sensory and sexual intimacy differences
•⁠ ⁠inclusive of lifespan differences for AFAB and Gender diverse AuDHD’ers
•⁠ ⁠⁠It is not appealing to cis-heteronormative rhetoric, and instead aims to explore libido, desire and arousal from a more holistic approach.

The story we’re told about desire is one-size-fits-all. Spoiler: it’s not.
That’s why I made this webinar:
We’ll laugh (or try to), unlearn, and explore:
•⁠ ⁠How sensory + hormonal differences actually make sense with respect to our neurotypes
•⁠ ⁠⁠ Why libido doesn’t need to be “high” to be healthy (but also how to support the shifts)
•⁠ ⁠⁠Fun, practical ways to reconnect with yourself + partners
•⁠ ⁠⁠How to stop shaming yourself when your seggs drive doesn’t match how you feel.
When: Tuesday, 16th of September 2025 @ 7.30pm Melb time
Where: Online (yes, you can come in your pyjamas, I might join you)
Cost: Sliding Scale tickets, but FREE to NK intimacy Alchemy Portal members.
Tickets: Link in Bio! ❤️

This isn’t about “fixing” your libido. It’s about rewriting the rules, embracing your neurodifferences, and finding intimacy that actually feels aligned with you. Because shrunk doesn’t mean gone, and shouldn’t feel like a death sentence for your s*x life. Duh!

24/08/2025

The Ultimate Date Activity Inventory has arrived!🎉❤️
This list saves you all of the time thinking about what to do, when to do it and how to do it. 152 creative date ideas that are bound to get your brain curiously exploring!

I have been sitting on this resource now for over a year post-creation and have been perfectionistically trying to make it work and no longer want to sit on it. It is an awesome resource and I feel many of my insta followers, newsletter subscribers and clients would benefit from having a resource like this.

I made this resource over a year ago, which I made specifically for my NK Intimacy Alchemy Online Lovers Portal, but wanted to also make this available for individual purchase.

All portal users have access to the latest of my resources and information around all things s*x, relationships and intimacy due to their subscriptions. I wanted to make something for my fellow spoonies (chronic health) and lovers who are ND and want novelty, or some new ideas to get themselves out of their own ruts or maintained habits. Date nights are so valuable and I believe that wholeheartedly with this resource.

We have made it easy for you to have a look through some date ideas with the ease in sifting through and aligning categories for yourself. This is the perfect spreadsheet to also pick dates based:
Date theme
Financial capacity
Time-related needs
Spoons (energy conservation)
Inside or outside date
Booking needs

You can add your own ideas to the list as you go, as well as filter accordingly to your taste. We also strongly recommend you and your partner/s complete the “spoon tax” section for yourself, depending on your perception of energy accounting dates. We often forget sometimes that we are running low on energy for dates, so plan accordingly!

This is an incredible resource for neurodivergents of all kinds! Link in bio. P.s before anyone wants to say this was their idea, chill, I got receipts 😂

❤️

09/08/2025

Aftercare is the intentional emotional, physical, and psychological support provided after an intense or vulnerable experience.

Especially in the contexts of k*nk, s*x, emotional processing, or conflict resolution, it is vital we include it in our practice. It’s a consensual, co-created process that helps people feel safe, grounded, and reconnected with themselves and each other. Aftercare originated in B**M and k*nk communities, where scenes often involve high levels of emotional, sensory, physiological and physical intensity.

However, it’s equally important in:
All s*xual contexts
Emotional conversations
Therapeutic spaces
Polyamorous, k*nk or ENM dynamics
Neurodivergent relationship processing
Conflict or rupture repair

Aftercare helps regulate the nervous system, reduce shame or overwhelm, and reaffirm connection. I have added some suggestions surrounding neuroaffirming considerations for aftercare. Finally, my online portal is accessible and ready to go! I am really hoping to have some new onboarded members to join me on this journey. Interested? Link is in the bio to read more ❤️

05/08/2025

Okay so one of my favourite baddies and fellow colleague has created this incredible book (ahem, she has written 3 fu***ng books!!!!). I want to share this because not only am I so proud but also because this is something even AuDHD ADULTS need in their lives. This book encapsulates energy and mood, in such a helpful way (and if you like gaming esp the use of power bars is an awesome visual/metaphor) and I believe is something so healing to the inner child. I think although her other books are incredible, this is my favourite of them all because I can relate to it the most in my own personal journey. It is so beautiful and pairs with the power pack card deck (which I'm v excited for).

But I couldn't not share. We all need a book like this, and we all need a book that reminds us about how we conserve our energy and can honour our needs. Fu***ng awesome.

26/07/2025

Credit to: Tiktok/ for utilising the terminology "Specifics" and "Mechanics" with regards to their conversations about bodily autonomy with their children. As this is what helped supported my language use in this resource I have provided. In the context of relationships, Mechanics are the core needs that drive our behaviour in partnership, while Specifics are the particular actions, details or behaviours that affirm or deny whether an individual feels that their ‘core need’ is met. I made this post because I am seeing a lot of partnerships struggling to understand where their relationship breakdowns are occurring, and requiring more support with identifying individual needs and respective partner needs. Often, partners tend to have a specific idea in their mind of how things should look, but this is not articulated. Nor is it identified if this is feasible for their partner, or if outsourcing might be of value for the sake of the partnership maintaining.

I made this set of slides based off what I see in the clinical therapeutic setting, not on evidence-based literature; and what has worked for some of my Autistic and ADHD clients who struggle with the impact of their respective disabilities that get in the way of understanding one another ❤️

14/07/2025

From tonight's webinar. Thank you for all of those that joined me. The Dyadic Disruption Loop is the loop that many partners experience.
A dyad is an element of two parts, in this example being the relationship.

In this loop, we have our need to be seen and our need to be acknowledged. This is often interrupted in partnership conflict by our own individual trauma or personal history, which impedes on our ability to actually resolve conflict. How we resolve this loop can be done in multiple ways, however the best way to cut through the loop often requires healthier and more consistent communication.

It also often requires a developing of one’s tolerance to being misperceived, one’s ability to regulate the nervous system to sit in discomfort and an expansion of focus being brought to connection and attunement.

In simpler words, we need to register the wounds being activated within ourselves and our partners; acknowledge them, be present with them and repair together. ❤️

02/07/2025

Given the nature of distress many Victorian parents are experiencing right now, I am hoping this may offer some support. Please share far and wide in your community groups if you can.
I am offering a free webinar to support parents in Victoria following the investigations of child sexual abuse that has occurred recently and been shared in the media. I want to do this as a means of educating parents, but also supporting them and their children moving forward with this.

Thank you. This will be the day AFTER my communication webinar for AudHD couples/partnerships. ❤️

Link: https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/child-sa-investigations-how-to-talk-to-your-children-bodily-safety-tickets-1452488595489?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=attendeeshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=listing&utm-source=cp&aff=ebdsshcopyurl

30/06/2025

Free online group for Autistic elders, enquire with Neurokindred 🥰 Linda is constantly doing amazing low cost and free, accessible and inclusive groups for community.

⚡Blaze of Glory: Autistic Elders Discussion Group is on this Wednesday 2nd July at:
6.00-7.30pm (Bris/Syd/Melb/Tas - AEST)
5.30-7.00pm (Adelaide, Darwin - ACST)
4.00-5.30pm (Perth - AWST)

Facilitators: Karen & Meg

Please send through any themes, prompts and questions you would like us to include.

If you would like to submit your perspectives prior and have them shared in the chat or read out please send them through.

RSVP: linda@neurokindred.com
or
Book online: http://neurokindred.com/bookings/
Neurokindred online calendar link: https://teamup.com/ksf66azjqz2jdhrh2x

30/06/2025

Some upcoming neurodivergent friendly trainings, including from none other than the amazing Counselling with Mike - The Nerd Therapist 💞

By popular demand- we're back on the 28th of July!

Spaces are limited so please reach out at your convenience :)

30/06/2025

Free Webinar Announcement! Live and Recorded for up to 14 days.
Round in Loops: Understanding Communication Patterns for Autistic and ADHD’ers in Relationships.

This is a neuroaffirming webinar, where I speak from both lived and clinical experience with neurodivergent couples, as well as drawing upon the relevant literature. Further, it includes communication strategies that are supportive of differences in communication profiles, rather than encouraging neuronormative standards. This webinar is for clients, or people wanting to understand more about their neurotypes - but does NOT count as PD.

This Webinar is for You if:

- You are an Autistic or ADHD individual looking to better understand your communication patterns with your partner
- You are an Autistic or ADHD individual that might not be able to afford couple or partnership therapy but are looking for some practical strategies that you can apply at home
- You currently experience misinterpreting and miscommunications in your relationship, or get stuck on the ‘loop’ of repetitive conversations

This webinar might NOT be for you if:

- You are someone that struggles to receive honest or blunt truths
- You are not ready to face accountability for your role within the relationship and communication
- ⁠You are looking for neurotypical-based strategies as a short-term fix to your communication differences (i.e., you want to maintain the loop).

What will be included in this webinar?

- About the Autistic, ADHD and PDA neurotypes
- The six common patterns of miscommunication within Autistic and ADHD partnerships
- ⁠Six neuroaffirming strategies and social scripts to navigate miscommunications and promote repair
- Promotion of our online lover portal, built for Autistic and ADHD individuals looking to explore intimacy across all domains!
- Q+A as a little taste-tester to see what we have on offer and the individualised support that can be gained from our services
- PROMO OFFER: Sign-up details for the portal and first month discount information (stick around, as this deal will only last for 14 days!).
🔗 In Bio: www.nk-intimacy-alchemy.com.au

23/06/2025

I do not want to celebrate pride month.

I cannot celebrate pride month when there is a genocide that has been ongoing for over a year and beyond, killing innocent lives.

I cannot celebrate pride month, when there are countries that are actively punishing, torturing and killing my neuroq***r kin.

I cannot celebrate pride month, when I do not feel my identity is seen or valued and I am dismissed in my identity purely because I do not take hormone blockers or appear to “look” a specific way. Or the fact that dating a man, somehow has to erase my sexuality.

I cannot celebrate pride month when neurodiversity affirming approaches fail to recognise the intersection of q***r and trans identities and neurodivergence, let alone extend this intersectional inclusion for CARM and BIPOC people who are at higher risk of s*icide, harassment and assault (Bockting et al., 2013; Trujillo et al., 2017).

I cannot celebrate pride month when puberty hormone blockers, and bathrooms are being talked about in parliaments across the world (including Australia) without inclusion of both educated and lived experience, q***r and gender diverse people being asked for their voices to be expressed and heard about the impact this would have on their lives.

I cannot celebrate pride month when our neurodivergent community did not raise their voices to speak up, until Autism was the key word they needed before it gained enough attention to speak up about what is happening in the world.

I really want to keep making content that is helpful for community, but I am struggling personally right now to do so. Feel free to unfollow if this isn't your style. ❤️