01/05/2026
There’s this idea that if you say things “the right way” in clinic, they’ll land well.
Sometimes they do. Sometimes… they reeeeally don’t.
I’ve had clients get defensive, dismissive, even a bit sharp or rude with me when I’ve gently brought up the possibility of disordered eating.
And I’d love to say that doesn’t rattle me, but it DOES.
I care. I want to get it right. I don’t want to upset people, and I don’t want to p**s people off unnecessarily.
But I’ve also seen what happens when we don’t say anything at all.
We keep treating the surface stuff. We keep layering protocols and optimisation and tests. And the actual driver just sits there. The disordered eating doesn’t improve, or maybe it gets worse. And I mean, no thank you, not on my watch.
Over time, I’ve gotten better at how I bring it up. Slowing things down, asking permission, making it collaborative instead of confrontational.
But I still say the thing. And I’ve had to learn that defensiveness doesn’t automatically mean I’ve done harm. Sometimes it just means it’s touched in on something real and tender.
If you’re a practitioner and you’ve had that moment where you KNOW in your guts something’s there but you’re not sure how to say it… you’re not the only one.
I unpack this a bit more in my latest blog, including how I actually approach these conversations in clinic.
Link in bio or DM me if you want an easy little link 🙃
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