Coolum Beach Psychology Centre

25/07/2023

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Healing can be a catalyst for learning to believe that we are worthy of love. When we believe we are worthy, we can show up for ourselves and those around us in a more loving and supportive way.

Consider taking a moment to reflect on your healing journey. How has healing created space for love in your life? Who shows up for you in a loving and supportive way? Comment below 🌞

21/07/2023

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It may feel like you are sparing your partner when you avoid getting into a conflict with them, but you’re not.

The brain is wired to detect threats in an instant. You may think you’re doing an excellent job of covering how you feel, but the slightest changes in your behavior, tone of voice, and micromovements in your face can alert your partner to the problem.

When you don’t address what that problem is, your partner will be forced to fill in the blanks.

So not only are your needs not being met, but now your partner’s threat levels are being activated. This is bad for both of you.

Better to address an issue as soon as possible. Repair any hurt feelings and move on. 💞

10/07/2023

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To survive, we may close ourselves off from our internal sensations. When we can safely make space to access self-awareness, we can begin to let go of what holds us back and move toward thriving. What practices create safety and help you to release and find healing? Consider sharing a message of safety and hope below. 🌞

10/07/2023

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A must read:

Viktor Frankl, one of the great psychiatrists of the twentieth century, survived the death camps of N**i Germany. His little book, Man’s Search for Meaning, is one of those life-changing books that everyone should read.

Frankl once told the story of a woman who called him in the middle of the night to calmly inform him she was about to commit su***de. Frankl kept her on the phone and talked her through her depression, giving her reason after reason to carry on living. Finally she promised she would not take her life, and she kept her word.

When they later met, Frankl asked which reason had persuaded her to live?

"None of them", she told him.

What then influenced her to go on living, he pressed?

Her answer was simple, it was Frankl’s willingness to listen to her in the middle of the night. A world in which there was someone ready to listen to another's pain seemed to her a world in which it was worthwhile to live.

Often, it is not the brilliant argument that makes the difference. Sometimes the small act of listening is the greatest gift we can give.

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08/07/2023

The reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. Time has stopped. Nothing feels real. The first weeks and months after someone you love dies or another life-altering event are a world unto their own. Your usual survival tactics won’t work. Here are 8 rules to help yourself survive an unbearable time.⁣⁣
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01/07/2023

Words to live by. When triggered we could react… or we could pause… calm.,, choose… and respond.

01/07/2023

Gentle reminder ✨

“Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it” said the great Maya Angelou.

The best apology you can give yourself is changed behavior, aligned choices, and actions that serve your highest ideals for life.

Don’t hold on to any regrets, move forward and live your magnificent life fully. ⭐️

01/07/2023

Many of us try to deal with our anxiety by trying to do all the things our anxiety is telling us to do. But, the real skill we need to learn is tolerance of that anxiety and giving priority to what matters most. Join this full conversation on Being Well: https://bit.ly/44fH3Oo

27/08/2022

All relationships have conflict. It's how partners manage conflict and make repairs that matters.

20/08/2022

It was a total eye-opener for me when I first learned that perfectionism was a form of avoidance coping. Whether it's waiting to do that creative project until we have the "right gear" or grinding away on the sixth draft of a piece of writing that was finished after draft three, perfectionism is often an attempt to protect ourselves from:

1. Future criticism.
2. Real change.
3. Falling short.
4. Our own fears and insecurities about our limitations.

There's a well-known parable from the book Art & Fear by David Bayles and Ted Orland. A ceramics teacher divided their class into two groups. Group A was tasked with making a single perfect pot in 30 days. Group B was tasked with making a pot every day, for 30 pots in total. At the end of the month the teacher judged all the pots on their quality. All the best pots came from Group B.

People learn through doing, but starting is messy and uncomfortable. This leads to a painful irony: perfectionism often stops us from actually becoming capable.

All beginnings require at least a little courage. Give yourself the freedom to make some ugly pots.

20/08/2022

13/08/2022

Interesting, and useful, to understand your own attachment style and how this plays out in your adult relationships. And, to know that we can grow in adult relationships and develop secure attachment.

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Attachment is the most important developmental milestone in a child’s life that remains, in my opinion, as the most important issue throughout the lifespan.

Attachment is imperative for safety, stress regulation, adaptability, and resilience.

Research suggests that failure to form secure attachments early in life can have a negative impact on behavior and health in later childhood and throughout life.

Here I am adding behavioral strategies of each style.

The real game changer is to develop secure attachment by finding safety in connection and developing positive internal perception capacities-interoception, while doing co-regulation. Also key is to develop rapport or mindsight with others (the ability to read how other people feel and how they are experiencing themselves). All these are processes that can only be experienced in safe relating with others.


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13/08/2022

02/07/2021

We don’t gain comfort, self-compassion, and calm by resisting or wishing things were different; we reach true calm by letting it be okay when we’re sad and anxious, and then letting it go.

The more you fight it, the more it will show up; the more you let it be, the less power it will have over you.

This is, of course, easier said than done. It’s a natural instinct to try banishing anything that feels uncomfortable. However, by continuously practicing deep acceptance for what is, we put ourselves in the best position to see it, change it, and move through it.

As human beings, we’re simply incapable of numbing a select set of emotions. So, when we numb sadness, we also numb happiness, joy, and other positive emotions. What’s worse is that as we deflect or suppress our own negative emotions, we may create even more suffering. It’s hard work to deny something we’re truly feeling. It takes energy; it wears us down. So rather than try to ignore our feelings, it better serves us to work on observing them.

It’s alright to admit that you’re hurting or struggling. We all go through hard times. And maybe we can find a bit of comfort in remembering that we aren’t alone. But first, we must accept what’s happening. Then we can decide how we want to best deal with it. Then we can take agency in our own lives, and witness for ourselves that it just gets better...

28/12/2020

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28/12/2020

What are you needing and how will you take care of yourself today? We are still here. You are not alone.

19/12/2020

If there was something you could do everyday to boost your focus and productivity, feel energized, reduce stress, sleep better, maintain a positive outlook, and support whole-body health, wouldn’t you do it?⁣⁣
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It’s for all these reasons, and more, that I consider meditation a foundational pillar to good health. I used to think I didn’t have time for meditation but now I know I don’t have time NOT to do it—it’s become that integral in helping me manage all of my other many responsibilities and passions. Since starting, I’m happier than ever, have found the love of my life, and my business is rocking.⁣⁣
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There are so many resources out there to get started on meditating such as apps, videos online, and my dear friend Emily Fletcher’s book Stress Less, Accomplish More. ⁣⁣