Coolum Beach Psychology Centre

25/07/2023

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Healing can be a catalyst for learning to believe that we are worthy of love. When we believe we are worthy, we can show up for ourselves and those around us in a more loving and supportive way.

Consider taking a moment to reflect on your healing journey. How has healing created space for love in your life? Who shows up for you in a loving and supportive way? Comment below 🌞

21/07/2023

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It may feel like you are sparing your partner when you avoid getting into a conflict with them, but you’re not.

The brain is wired to detect threats in an instant. You may think you’re doing an excellent job of covering how you feel, but the slightest changes in your behavior, tone of voice, and micromovements in your face can alert your partner to the problem.

When you don’t address what that problem is, your partner will be forced to fill in the blanks.

So not only are your needs not being met, but now your partner’s threat levels are being activated. This is bad for both of you.

Better to address an issue as soon as possible. Repair any hurt feelings and move on. 💞

10/07/2023

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To survive, we may close ourselves off from our internal sensations. When we can safely make space to access self-awareness, we can begin to let go of what holds us back and move toward thriving. What practices create safety and help you to release and find healing? Consider sharing a message of safety and hope below. 🌞

10/07/2023

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A must read:

Viktor Frankl, one of the great psychiatrists of the twentieth century, survived the death camps of N**i Germany. His little book, Man’s Search for Meaning, is one of those life-changing books that everyone should read.

Frankl once told the story of a woman who called him in the middle of the night to calmly inform him she was about to commit su***de. Frankl kept her on the phone and talked her through her depression, giving her reason after reason to carry on living. Finally she promised she would not take her life, and she kept her word.

When they later met, Frankl asked which reason had persuaded her to live?

"None of them", she told him.

What then influenced her to go on living, he pressed?

Her answer was simple, it was Frankl’s willingness to listen to her in the middle of the night. A world in which there was someone ready to listen to another's pain seemed to her a world in which it was worthwhile to live.

Often, it is not the brilliant argument that makes the difference. Sometimes the small act of listening is the greatest gift we can give.

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08/07/2023

The reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. Time has stopped. Nothing feels real. The first weeks and months after someone you love dies or another life-altering event are a world unto their own. Your usual survival tactics won’t work. Here are 8 rules to help yourself survive an unbearable time.⁣⁣
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01/07/2023

Words to live by. When triggered we could react… or we could pause… calm.,, choose… and respond.

01/07/2023

Gentle reminder ✨

“Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it” said the great Maya Angelou.

The best apology you can give yourself is changed behavior, aligned choices, and actions that serve your highest ideals for life.

Don’t hold on to any regrets, move forward and live your magnificent life fully. ⭐️

01/07/2023

Many of us try to deal with our anxiety by trying to do all the things our anxiety is telling us to do. But, the real skill we need to learn is tolerance of that anxiety and giving priority to what matters most. Join this full conversation on Being Well: https://bit.ly/44fH3Oo

27/08/2022

All relationships have conflict. It's how partners manage conflict and make repairs that matters.

20/08/2022

It was a total eye-opener for me when I first learned that perfectionism was a form of avoidance coping. Whether it's waiting to do that creative project until we have the "right gear" or grinding away on the sixth draft of a piece of writing that was finished after draft three, perfectionism is often an attempt to protect ourselves from:

1. Future criticism.
2. Real change.
3. Falling short.
4. Our own fears and insecurities about our limitations.

There's a well-known parable from the book Art & Fear by David Bayles and Ted Orland. A ceramics teacher divided their class into two groups. Group A was tasked with making a single perfect pot in 30 days. Group B was tasked with making a pot every day, for 30 pots in total. At the end of the month the teacher judged all the pots on their quality. All the best pots came from Group B.

People learn through doing, but starting is messy and uncomfortable. This leads to a painful irony: perfectionism often stops us from actually becoming capable.

All beginnings require at least a little courage. Give yourself the freedom to make some ugly pots.

20/08/2022