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07/10/2020

I have been blessed to receive teachings and The Five Mindfulness Trainings from this extraordinary teacher Thich Nhat Hanh in Hanoi 2008.
He gave me the Dharma name of Faithful Inspiration of the Heart.
I treasure the experience.
May he be at peace.
May he be free from suffering. 🙏🕊

19/09/2020

My hero. May her legacy live on🕊
❤️live with compassion

16/09/2020

What you put out is what you get back.
What you do to another, you do to yourself and to the planet.
We’re all interconnected.

People’s behaviour is how they feel about themselves. It’s not about you. It never was. How people treat those around them is a manifestation of what’s going on within.

People who speak highly of themselves, speak highly of others. When we label others, it’s because we label ourselves. It’s a projection of our frustrations. What we criticise in others reminds us what we don’t like in ourselves.

Why do people criticise? They criticise themselves.
Why do people blame? They blame themselves.
Why do people hate? They hate themselves.
Why do people fear rejection? They reject themselves.
Why do people shame? They shame themselves.
Why do people betray you?
They betray themselves.

Their actions are a reflection of their inner world.
The inner world always reflects outwards.
‘Today I will choose my inner life - and every day my outer world will reflect that choice. It takes endurance to prioritise my inner life, my sacred health and my highest truth.’ Elena Brower
❤️live with compassion
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14/09/2020

When we yell, we want to be heard.
When we demand attention, we want to be seen.
When we ask for affection, we want to be loved.
When we want reassurance, we want validation.

The desire for validation is one of the strongest motivating forces known to humans. We all want to hear ‘well done’.

Approval feeds our strongest desire. The strongest of all emotional needs is directly linked to our feelings of approval or disapproval.

Love feeds the same core emotional need as approval. Love is the ultimate expression of approval. Love of self.
Not self-love.

Self-love is the source of arrogance. It makes me unable to see any point of view but my own. It’s the mark of a mind that is closed to real feeling for others.

Love of self is when we appreciate our own dignity and value as human beings. When we’re at peace with ourselves and can hold compassion for others.

True humility comes from love of self, which is the realisation of ourselves as we truly are. Our true selves.
❤️live with compassion
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02/08/2020

AUTHENTICITY
‘To thine own self be true’.

Authenticity is connection to self and is the highest state of being. It’s our true self.

To practice authenticity requires courage. Courage to be imperfect and vulnerable. Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.
It’s a conscious choice of how we want to live. The choice of being honest and letting our true selves be seen.
It’s knowing who we are and being brave enough to live it.
We can’t fake authenticity!

Practicing authenticity means:
We don’t need external approval to feel good about ourselves or our actions.
Having the courage to be ourselves and saying ‘no’ to the things that aren’t serving us.
Saying and doing the things we actually believe.
❤️Live with compassion

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24/07/2020

‘Hatred can’t exist with love and kindness. Hatred dissipates when replaced with thoughts of love and compassion.’ The Dhammapada

Loving kindness or Metta meditation is a beautiful form of generous and selfless love towards ourselves and others.

This form of meditation is one of the most soothing ways of putting together and practising the four qualities of love.
Happiness: the desire to offer happiness.
Compassion: the desire to remove suffering from the other person:
Joy: the desire to bring joy to people around you.
Equanimity: the desire to accept everything and not to discriminate.

You can make the words your own. e.g.
May I/you be safe. May I/you achieve what you want and deserve in life. May I/you be healthy and happy.

Loving Kindness meditation is free from any expectations or dependencies. It usually starts with the self. Buddha said ‘unless we treat ourselves with love and compassion, we can’t reflect the same on others. Once we start experiencing self-love and self-compassion, we can show the same to others.’

As you wish such beautiful things to the other person, you can try to imagine yourself telling this in person and their reaction.

It can be directed to anyone - family, friends, co-workers etc. It’s simply extending genuine acceptance and goodwill.

It’s easy and it really creates a healthy mind. It’s my favourite practise!

❤️Live with compassion.
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23/07/2020

Why do we self-sabotage and what are the benefits?

Self-sabotaging behaviours can affect nearly every aspect of our lives. It holds us back from our goals and leads us to feeling stuck and unworthy.
We fear success and we fear failure.

Self-sabotage ruled my life. Being asked to speak at an event - and freezing. Sitting in a job interview where I knew the answers - and going blank. Feeling ashamed and unworthy.

Where does it come from?
From age 0 to 7 we are in the theta state similar to hypnosis. The thoughts, beliefs and behaviours of our caregivers create our programming. Children learn what they’ve been modelled, not what they’ve been taught. If something distressing happens in our life (e.g. bullying), we might have the unconscious belief ‘I’m not safe’, ‘it’s not safe to be seen and heard’, ‘I’m not good enough’ and these ideas go into our unconscious and form the foundation for our life.

This is where self-sabotage comes from. Your unconscious is keeping you safe.

Research reveals that, for many children, about 70% of what they download in those first 7 years is limiting, self-sabotaging and disempowering. We need to learn to re-wire the pathways of our brain to our own truth.

The sub-conscious mind drives your behaviour. The conscious mind is not in control. We only use it 5% of the time.

The wonderful news is you can change your
sub-conscience programming. The first step is awareness. The second step is a strong desire to change. When we change the underlying core beliefs to ‘I deserve to be seen and heard’, ‘I am more than enough’, ‘I deserve to be successful’ or ‘It’s over and I’m safe now’ our life changes.

We are where we are today because these unconscious core beliefs run our life. We need to give up the old in order to welcome in the new🙏 Feel free to email me if you need help or more information. margie@goldenmend.com.au
❤️Live with compassion

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20/07/2020

Thank you to everyone who has travelled this path with me....especially my super-incredible family. I love you. 🙏❤️
“Never give up. Never give in. Always keep the faith.” John Lewis

10/04/2020

Keep coming back - to your heart centre.

You don’t have to feel good enough to be good enough.

Deep down you are already good enough.
Nothing can change that.

Here’s a 1 minute meditation on self-love and self-acceptance.

Close your eyes, breathe deeply, place your hand on your heart, and repeat silently to yourself. ‘I am not broken. There is nothing to fix. May I be loved by myself and others ... just the way I am.’

❤️ Live with compassion.

08/04/2020

08/04/2020

Half moon meditation.

Half-smile when irritated.

When you’re irritated, half-smile at once.
Inhale and exhale quietly, maintaining the half-smile for three breaths.

❤️Live with compassion