27/10/2025
Relationship stuff.
The relationship you have with your partner is a reflection of the relationship that was modelled to you by your parents or the people who raised you mixed in with the reflection of how you felt about yourself when you first met.
There’s a few reasons relationship dynamics change. Firstly, we change as individuals. Our needs and wants can change or if one partner is doing more self development work than the other we can somewhat outgrow our partner.
Secondly, how we react to outside influences can affect your relationship. Friend groups or families, how we manage money, political views, living arrangements, and general ideals can have an impact on our lives.
Thirdly and one a work with clients a lot on is the misalignment of sexual needs/wants and desires. At first it’s all exciting and fun but as time goes by and stresses come in there’s always a shift in prioritising intimacy. This shift can create a rift and emotions like rejection, fear, sadness, loss can present.
Another big factor that contributes to the change of a relationship can absolutely be children. Parenting standards can differ, our own wounds can present and sometimes when working through these things the distance between the adults becomes too great.
There is hope though. The grass isn’t always greener somewhere else and relationships absolutely take work, always.
The change starts with you and you getting very honest with yourself. Understand your part in what’s going on.
I often see couples who are constantly fighting against each other rather than working together. I often see relationships that are fuelled with resentment, misunderstandings and hurt rather than communicating through that.
I very often work with couples to find understanding, connection and whatever else they need. If this is something you’d like to know more about, dm me.
