17/12/2025
Every holiday, every single experience my stomach was in knots. I learned to be hyper vigilant. The learned to react a certain way and learned how not to react.
The images of smiles don’t connect to the memories.
(This pic for example was taken many years ago on a lovely boat in Port Douglas, that week was fuelled on meaningless arguments, sleepless nights and endless emotional torment).
Those feelings don’t leave. Once we’ve left and regain the relationship with ourselves the feelings experienced in an abusive relationship are deeply etched into who you are.
Reactions can become lesser, hyper vigilance relaxes a little but, the feelings remain.
We get to choose if we continue to be consumed by the feeling or if we get to feel the feeling and experience life differently.
You can learn to trust again, you can feel vulnerable, you can feel pure joy, you can feel deeply loved and you can have a healthy relationships. It’s important you have these characteristics within yourself first.
I’ve lived through DV, I understand the trap, I greatly understand my responsibility to myself as well. There’s a life out of that cycle.
I help men and women through and past these cycles. If this is something you’d like to know more about, dm me 🤍