08/10/2025
There seems to be current popularity around a ‘freedom’ approach or a ‘hands off’ approach to parenting;
a pull away from boundaries, consequences or any shaping of the child’s behaviour.
On our journey of parenting, Steve & I have found quite a different view that stems from our spiritual beliefs...We believe clear and consistent teaching & limits that are set with empathy, love and respect, keeps your child safe as they learn about themselves, others and how to navigate the world around them.
We believe teaching, guiding and using age-appropriate boundaries in parenting:
1. Will not squash your child's creativity and spirit.
2. Encourages healthy internal development.
3. Is essential for your child’s safety and sense of security in the world.
4. Defines your child’s safe space to play, explore and learn.
5. Supports your child’s emotional regulation and development of their emotional maturity.
6. Supports your child to learn about their own needs while also considering the needs of others so they don't operate from selfishness, pride and ego..
7. Supports your child to develop self-awareness & self-control/impulse control.
8. Fosters empathy for others.
9. Fosters humility and a teachable spirit that is open to learn & grow.
10. Supports your child to thrive in their adult responsibilities, independance and social skills.
A child’s brain is still developing the ability to think logically, control impulses and understand consequences. They need support to make sense of the world around them in ways their developing brain cannot fully manage yet. Too much choice and freedom too early can be overwhelming for children and can often create anxiety, make them feel unsafe, and lead to emotional dysregulation.
The eldest of our 3 children just turned 16 (I can't believe it!) As our children get older and the edges of their boundaries are begining to widen, it is so lovely to see the gradual growth of their empathy, their care for others, their humility, their openness to learn and listen, their confidence and independence, their sense of responsibility, their self-awareness, their self-control, theIr self-regulation and their ability to look outside of self.
