A Window to Self

15/04/2026

What pure genius a Goliathian Bieberchellaian moment for Justin Bieber. Triumphant with grace 🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶

Justin Bieber does not own his greatest hits.

He sold his entire catalog to an investment fund a few years ago. Every song he made before 2021. Gone. Which means every time he performs those songs live, the money goes to them, not him.

So at Coachella this weekend he opened a laptop. Pulled up YouTube. And sang along.

Technically not a performance. No licensing triggered. No royalties owed. The crowd still got the songs. Still got the moment. Still got the nostalgia. Still got him.

But the machine did not get to own the moment the way it usually does. That is why people are missing the point when they're calling it "lazy."

It was not lazy. It was a loophole.

It was a man standing in front of a massive crowd giving people exactly what they came for, while quietly reminding the industry that you can buy the catalog but you cannot buy what those songs mean to people.

You can own the rights. You can own the paper. You can own the asset.

You still do not own the bond.

That is the part he kept.

30/10/2025

For some of us, learning to hear the message (underneath the noise) of what is being spoken might be one of the most significant relationship skills we can learn.

Leaning into this space may include inquiring about the deeper roots of someone’s vulnerabilities so that we can detect and speak to those deeper layers and contexts more clearly and sensitively.

It might include becoming more curious about the layers that are intertwined with our unique form of defensiveness.

These moments may even become an invitation for us to intervene more quickly when we detect criticism is at play so that we don’t shut down and disengage.

“I really want to stay present for you in this. Can you please try to share what you are feeling instead of what I’m doing wrong?”

“Your feelings matter a lot to me. I can feel myself beginning to shut down and I really don’t want that to happen. What do you need from me right now?”

“I know it isn’t easy for you to share what happening for you. How can I make it safe for you to share your experience without criticizing me?”

If your relationship has cultivated a bit more trust and safety, there also may be much more room to intervene in these moments in more direct ways, and with humor to help soften the approach.

For some of us, it will be equally important that we explore our patterns of defensiveness.

It may be important to make space to tolerate occasional criticism sometimes.

People aren’t always going to be able to offer or share their feedback/feelings to us in perfectly integrated ways.

We do have to read carefully here though, as repeated criticism (without any responsibility taken) can lead to a relationship’s end.

What kind of communication styles takes you to defensiveness more quickly? What could you express to help soften someone’s approach?

PS: Want to explore working together? Message me “work with me” to book a free consultation ✨

12/10/2025

03/10/2025

What a fun and fulfilling two days co-facilitating with the fabulous Leona Dawson for a group of gifted School Counsellors from CatholicCare 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

13/03/2025

Hello IFS friends
Last call for a IFS-informed workshop series tailored for supporting schools led by Joanna Curry-Satori (US), Self-Leadership Collaborative at an Aust/NZ friendly time 😊
Please DM me if you would like more info. See attached flyer for registration details.

19/02/2025

Community collaboration. Sharing effective ways of using IFS-informed practices in education settings

11/01/2025

Trust in truth.

With all the disasters and heartbreaking events happening in our world, children are depending on us to be both honest and age-appropriate when talking about difficult topics.

Finding the right balance can feel overwhelming, especially if you don’t have training in trauma-informed care. That’s why I want to offer some guidance for anyone struggling to communicate with the children in their lives right now:
1. The truth, no matter how bad, is always better than a lie. Children are incredibly perceptive and often sense when adults are withholding information. Lies erode trust, and trust is essential for helping children feel safe.
2. Young children don’t need all the details. Keep explanations short and simple. For kids under 7, limit it to a few sentences. If they ask more questions, answer as honestly as you can—or let them know you’ll find the answers together.
3. Older children (preteens and teens) can handle more. Be prepared for deeper questions and an honest discussion. Avoid sugarcoating—they respect transparency.

Children thrive on trust and consistency, especially during times of uncertainty. Being truthful in an age-appropriate way helps lay a foundation for resilience and healing.

If you found this helpful, share it with someone who may need it.

16/08/2024

Ahhh…create

19/07/2024

Setting boundaries is self-loving as well as loving for others it nurtures and values respectful relationships.

Don’t be afraid to set a boundary for those who abuse you.

17/07/2024

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17/07/2024

Retraining the muscles for good posture in people that use ‘twitching’ commonly used by Autistic people.

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/fYV8hQpnWxsCJg5w/?mibextid=UalRPS

13/07/2024

It’s okay to hold space for other people’s needs, that’s not ‘wrong’ but make sure you are still holding space for your own.