Wise Muma Birth - Doula

08/05/2026

I like some of these ideas from Declutter Your Life
https://declutteryourlife.co/gifts-for-overstimulated-moms/
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For years, I secretly thought I wasn’t cut out for motherhood. I adored my kids, but I constantly felt overstimulated by the noise, the mess, the endless needs. Gradually, I learned about being an introvert and a highly sensitive person, and I learned that motherhood—with its constant sensory in...

07/05/2026

06/05/2026

Permission granted. Book. Tea. Cozy spot. Zero guilt.

05/05/2026

Happy International Day of the Midwife 2026!

The theme this year is One Million More Midwives.

We believe to achieve this- to have midwives training and STAYING in the profession, they need solid support systems, greater mentorship, better pay, and sustainable working conditions.
We are working on some things behind the scenes at Birth Time: the Village to support student midwives- to educate them in the full scope of practice INCLUDING homebirth, to receive mentorship from experienced endorsed midwives, and to gain genuine knowledge of physiological birth and continuity of midwifery care.

To all the midwives out there supporting families in their journey of bringing their babies earthside, thank you for the work you do day, and night, on birthdays, holidays and weekends.

We need more of you.

Love, the Birth Time Team

05/05/2026

Sending love & gratitude to Midwives all over the world, but especially to my own amazing Midwives 🩷🩷

04/05/2026

Even the most resourced, self-aware adults can struggle to stay regulated sometimes, especially when something brushes an old wound.

So when a child’s feelings surge and spill - that’s not a lack of discipline. That’s a brain doing exactly what it’s wired to do: protect.

In the same way reading, writing, and walking will develop along different time lines, so too will regulation.

We don’t punish a child for not reading before they can read. Or for not walking before they can walk. We don’t accuse them of being manipulative, or attention seeking, or bad.

But regulation? We expect it on demand. And we judge children when they don’t deliver.

The thing is, regulation just doesn’t work like that.

Regulation develops like any other skill - on its own timeline, shaped by experience, history, and physiology.

And like any skill, it needs practice.

We can’t just teach kids the skills to walk, talk, read, and expect them to do it. The teaching is useless if they don’t have the opportunity to practice.

It’s the same for regulation.

We can teach the skills, but the teaching won’t do anything if they don’t have the opportunity to practice. The opportunity they need is co-regulation. And lots of it. Years of it.

Self-regulation isn’t something children can switch on because we ask them to. It’s something they build - slowly, through repeated experiences of being soothed a calm loving adult beside them. Over and over.

Regulation isn’t something we demand. It’s something we develop.

02/05/2026

We put so much pressure on ourselves as parents to say the right thing, to explain things well, to correct behavior in the “best” way, to not mess up the moment. It can feel like every interaction carries so much weight.

But children don’t remember childhood as a collection of perfectly handled conversations.

💞 They remember how it felt to be with you. 💞

🫶🏼 They remember the tone behind your words more than the words themselves.
🫶🏼 They remember whether they felt safe bringing you the messy parts of themselves or whether they learned to hold things in.
🫶🏼 They remember if they felt seen when they were struggling, or if they felt misunderstood, dismissed, or rushed through it.
🫶🏼 They remember the emotional climate.

And here’s where this really matters…

The nervous system encodes experience through feeling, not logic. So even when you say all the right things, if the moment feels tense, disconnected, or reactive, that’s what gets stored.

And the opposite is also true! Even when you don’t have the perfect response, your calm, your effort to stay connected, your willingness to come back and repair, that becomes the memory.

This is why repair is just as important as getting it “right.” When you circle back after a hard moment and reconnect, you’re teaching your child something incredibly powerful: that relationships can stretch, bend, and still be safe.

You’re not building your child through perfection. You’re building them through repeated emotional experiences of feeling safe, seen, and accepted.

So instead of asking, did I say that the right way, a more powerful question becomes, how did that moment feel for my child?

💫 That shift changes everything. 💫

And if you’re even reflecting on this, it means you’re already creating a different experience than the one many of us grew up with.
That matters more than you think! 🩵

02/05/2026

When my children were babies a warm bath, a shower together, water play outside as they got older, a cool bottle of water to sip, frozen water ice cubes to suck, a wet cloth to cool and calm them, a warm hot water bottle to relax, and a delicious hot chocolate for a treat, it all helps!

Water can be a self-regulation tool!